A raiva não mata o amor, mas não se importar o suficiente sim

Porque é que tantas pessoas engarrafam e reprimem as suas emoções negativas quando estão numa relação romântica? Porque é que tantas pessoas têm medo de discutir com o seu parceiro?

I’m not talking about those apocalyptic fights after which it is almost impossible to save the relationship. I’m talking about having disagreements over little things.

Porque é que a maioria dos casais tem medo de confrontar e falar direta e honestamente sobre as coisas que os incomodam?

Even if those disagreements provoke some negative feelings, such as anger or frustration, it’s not a bad thing. It’s a sign you care for your partner and your relationship, too.

A raiva é uma emoção humana completamente natural e normal

We all have our differences, and it’s perfectly normal for you not to agree with all of your partner’s actions and decisions.

If they do something you aren’t okay with, you have every right to be angry about it.

A única coisa importante é a forma como se lida com isso. Deve abraçar a luta in your relationship but be careful, don’t allow your anger to control you and say something you’ll regret afterward.

There is something way worse than anger…

Indiferença. That’s something that will damage the connection between you and your partner to the point you won’t be able to fix it and save your relationship.

It is the leading cause of many broken relationships. It happens when one or both partners simply cool off. They don’t have any kind of feelings towards their partner anymore, neither good nor bad.

A raiva é um sinal claro que mostra que se preocupa honestamente

If your partner’s actions upset you or make you angry sometimes, it’s a clear sign that you honestly care for them because you’d never allow a person who means nothing to you to upset you that way, right?

A indiferença é um verdadeiro assassino de relações, not being upset over some of your partner’s actions.

The moment you stop worrying about your partner’s actions and stop getting upset about things that are bothering you is the moment you should start worrying about your relationship.

It’s better to feel anger than nothing at all

Já alguma vez pensaste no que é o oposto do amor? For most people, it’s hate or anger. For me, it’s indifference. It’s when you feel nothing at all towards your partner.

Anger is a temporary emotion. You’ll calm down, deal with it and forget about it as if it never happened, while, on the other hand, indifference is a permanent emotion that will be stuck in your heart forever.

Once you become indifferent towards someone, you will never be able to change your emotions again. You won’t even want to try because you won’t care for that person at all.

Abrace a sua raiva porque ela tem um objetivo

Don’t look at your anger as just an emotion because it’s much more important than that. Relationship anger comes with so many purposes.

Vem para vos ensinar lições importantes. Vem para aprofundar o ligação emocional entre si e o seu parceiro.

Most importantly, embrace it because it’s there to show you how much your partner means to you and how big the love you feel for them truly is.

A raiva é, por vezes, uma verdadeira dádiva

Even though many people consider anger a bad and negative emotion (some may even say it’s a curse), it can sometimes be a valuable gift.

It’ll shake things up in your relationship. It’ll keep the flame burning. It’ll remind you how special and strong your relationship is and how you can overcome all obstacles and challenges in life as long as you’re together.

Ver também: Foi assim que matámos o amor

No entanto, tenha cuidado; use a raiva como uma ferramenta, não como uma arma

A raiva pode ser uma ferramenta muito poderosa que o pode ajudar a salvar a sua relação. No entanto, se deixar que ela o controle, também pode ser uma arma muito mais poderosa para arruinar completamente a sua relação.

It’s really up to you how you use it. Will you allow it to control you and weaken the bond between you and your partner or to learn a valuable lesson and strengthen the emotional connection with your partner?

Lembre-se que a raiva vem sempre acompanhada de amor. You can’t have one without the other; it’s an all or nothing situation.