La ira no mata el amor, pero sí el desinterés
¿Por qué tantas personas reprimen sus emociones negativas cuando tienen una relación sentimental? ¿Por qué tanta gente tiene miedo de pelearse con su pareja?
I’m not talking about those apocalyptic fights after which it is almost impossible to save the relationship. I’m talking about having disagreements over little things.
¿Por qué la mayoría de las parejas temen enfrentarse y hablar directa y honestamente de las cosas que les molestan?
Even if those disagreements provoke some negative feelings, such as anger or frustration, it’s not a bad thing. It’s a sign you care for your partner and your relationship, too.
La ira es una emoción humana completamente natural y normal
We all have our differences, and it’s perfectly normal for you not to agree with all of your partner’s actions and decisions.
If they do something you aren’t okay with, you have every right to be angry about it.
Lo único importante es cómo lo afrontes. Deberías abrazar la lucha in your relationship but be careful, don’t allow your anger to control you and say something you’ll regret afterward.
There is something way worse than anger…
Indiferencia. That’s something that will damage the connection between you and your partner to the point you won’t be able to fix it and save your relationship.
It is the leading cause of many broken relationships. It happens when one or both partners simply cool off. They don’t have any kind of feelings towards their partner anymore, neither good nor bad.
El enfado es una señal clara de que te preocupas de verdad
If your partner’s actions upset you or make you angry sometimes, it’s a clear sign that you honestly care for them because you’d never allow a person who means nothing to you to upset you that way, right?
La indiferencia es un asesino de relaciones, not being upset over some of your partner’s actions.
The moment you stop worrying about your partner’s actions and stop getting upset about things that are bothering you is the moment you should start worrying about your relationship.
It’s better to feel anger than nothing at all
¿Ha pensado alguna vez qué es lo contrario del amor? For most people, it’s hate or anger. For me, it’s indifference. It’s when you feel nothing at all towards your partner.
Anger is a temporary emotion. You’ll calm down, deal with it and forget about it as if it never happened, while, on the other hand, indifference is a permanent emotion that will be stuck in your heart forever.
Once you become indifferent towards someone, you will never be able to change your emotions again. You won’t even want to try because you won’t care for that person at all.
Acepta tu ira porque tiene un propósito
Don’t look at your anger as just an emotion because it’s much more important than that. Relationship anger comes with so many purposes.
Viene a enseñarte algunas lecciones importantes. Viene a profundizar conexión emocional entre usted y su pareja.
Most importantly, embrace it because it’s there to show you how much your partner means to you and how big the love you feel for them truly is.
La ira es realmente un regalo a veces
Even though many people consider anger a bad and negative emotion (some may even say it’s a curse), it can sometimes be a valuable gift.
It’ll shake things up in your relationship. It’ll keep the flame burning. It’ll remind you how special and strong your relationship is and how you can overcome all obstacles and challenges in life as long as you’re together.
Véase también: Así es como matamos al amor
Sin embargo, ten cuidado; utiliza la ira como una herramienta, no como un arma.
La ira puede ser una herramienta muy poderosa que puede ayudarte a salvar tu relación. Sin embargo, si permites que te controle, también puede ser un arma mucho más poderosa para arruinar tu relación por completo.
It’s really up to you how you use it. Will you allow it to control you and weaken the bond between you and your partner or to learn a valuable lesson and strengthen the emotional connection with your partner?
Recuerde que la ira siempre viene acompañada de amor. You can’t have one without the other; it’s an all or nothing situation.
