A relação perfeita não existe, mas o amor perfeito existe
Todos nós sonhamos com uma relação perfeita.
The kind of relationship where we won’t hide any part of ourself for the fear of rejection.
Uma relação em que a outra pessoa será tudo o que admiramos.
Sonhamos com alguém que nos preencha as partes que nos faltam e que nos tranquilize a vida.
Em suma, procuramos alguém que nos torne um todo e nos tire todas as coisas más com que lutamos.
Now, that’s a lot of pressure for a single person who’s no different from us in terms of innermost desires and shortcomings.
None of us is whole and perfect. We’re weirdly shaped and ragged but that’s what makes us interesting to look at.
We’re accidental works of art of some sort.
As relações nunca serão perfeitas because they consist of two unperfect humans who are trying their best to make sense of everything that’s happening to them.
Even when one of you is wrong, you’re still doing your best in that given moment.
It’s okay to make mistakes and it’s okay not to understand everything immediately.
However, it’s not okay to repeat mistakes and fail to put effort into where effort is needed.
O esforço é o que a relação precisa para funcionar.
It’s a constant commitment to the one and only goal and that goal is to help each other on your life path and make each other happy.
Entrar numa relação séria significa concordar em estar presente para a sua pessoa em todas as situações que a vida lhe coloca.
That means a lot of uncertainty, a lot of doubt, lots of things we don’t really want to do. A lot of nonsense arguments, small frustrations, annoyance and hurt.
Nevertheless, love should be stronger than all of those and when it’s the real kind, é. Mas o que é que real tipo de amor?
It’s the o amor que não pára de evoluir e de se aperfeiçoar. It’s the love that doesn’t give up. It’s the love that understands before things are obvious.
Como é que podemos aperfeiçoar o nosso amor para que seja assim?
There’s no doubt that nothing in this world feels better than to be understood and amado por quem é mas antes de exigirmos esse tipo de amor de outra pessoa, temos de o encontrar dentro de nós próprios.
Aperfeiçoando as nossas próprias imperfeições e curando a nossa própria dor, aprendemos a amar sem julgar.
It’s hardest to embrace our own imperfections; that’s why it’s important to learn to love our humanness.
It’s important to not get lost in a fantasy but love the ugly things too.
After all, everything we don’t love about ourself became the way it is because of a lack of love, care, and beauty; that’s how things become imperfect.
It’s easy to fall into the trap of projecting our own longings and wishes on another person who’s oblivious to our needs.
That’s another important issue when it comes to relationships: State your needs if you want them to be met. Talk about them. Find their core.
Don’t expect your partner to read your mind or intuitively know what you know.
Abra-se, comunique e confie em quem o ama.
A nossa humanidade está cheia de medos e inseguranças inexplicáveis, de ciúmes e ganância, de raiva inútil e de tristeza ocasional, bem como de alegria e amor.
It’s not enough to love the flowers and stay away from the dirt. They are part of the same story, the same process.
The key is to love the process and magic of what it creates in the end. That’s love.
Love is trusting and seeing beyond what’s obvious.
The perfect relationship doesn’t exist but perfect love does and you’re capable of it.
