La relación perfecta no existe, pero el amor perfecto sí
Todos soñamos con una relación perfecta.
The kind of relationship where we won’t hide any part of ourself for the fear of rejection.
Una relación en la que la otra persona será todo lo que admiramos.
Soñamos con alguien que llene las partes que nos faltan y nos tranquilice.
En resumen, buscamos a alguien que nos haga un todo y nos quite todo lo malo con lo que luchamos.
Now, that’s a lot of pressure for a single person who’s no different from us in terms of innermost desires and shortcomings.
None of us is whole and perfect. We’re weirdly shaped and ragged but that’s what makes us interesting to look at.
We’re accidental works of art of some sort.
Las relaciones nunca serán perfectas because they consist of two unperfect humans who are trying their best to make sense of everything that’s happening to them.
Even when one of you is wrong, you’re still doing your best in that given moment.
It’s okay to make mistakes and it’s okay not to understand everything immediately.
However, it’s not okay to repeat mistakes and fail to put effort into where effort is needed.
El esfuerzo es lo que necesita la relación para funcionar.
It’s a constant commitment to the one and only goal and that goal is to help each other on your life path and make each other happy.
Entablar una relación seria significa comprometerse a estar a su lado en todas las situaciones que la vida le depare.
That means a lot of uncertainty, a lot of doubt, lots of things we don’t really want to do. A lot of nonsense arguments, small frustrations, annoyance and hurt.
Nevertheless, love should be stronger than all of those and when it’s the real kind, es. Pero ¿cuál es el real ¿un tipo de amor?
It’s the el amor que nunca deja de evolucionar y perfeccionarse. It’s the love that doesn’t give up. It’s the love that understands before things are obvious.
¿Cómo podemos perfeccionar nuestro amor para que sea así?
There’s no doubt that nothing in this world feels better than to be understood and amado por lo que eres pero antes de exigir ese tipo de amor a otro, debemos encontrarlo dentro de nosotros mismos.
Al perfeccionar nuestras propias imperfecciones y curar nuestro propio dolor, aprendemos a amar sin juzgar.
It’s hardest to embrace our own imperfections; that’s why it’s important to learn to love our humanness.
It’s important to not get lost in a fantasy but love the ugly things too.
After all, everything we don’t love about ourself became the way it is because of a lack of love, care, and beauty; that’s how things become imperfect.
It’s easy to fall into the trap of projecting our own longings and wishes on another person who’s oblivious to our needs.
That’s another important issue when it comes to relationships: State your needs if you want them to be met. Talk about them. Find their core.
Don’t expect your partner to read your mind or intuitively know what you know.
Ábrete, comunícate y confía en quien te ama.
Nuestra humanidad está llena de miedos e inseguridades inexplicables, de celos y codicia, de ira inútil y tristeza ocasional, así como de alegría y amor.
It’s not enough to love the flowers and stay away from the dirt. They are part of the same story, the same process.
The key is to love the process and magic of what it creates in the end. That’s love.
Love is trusting and seeing beyond what’s obvious.
The perfect relationship doesn’t exist but perfect love does and you’re capable of it.
