A vida é confusa e aqui estão 8 razões pelas quais a deve aceitar totalmente
A vida real é confusa. E por muito que nos esforcemos por levar uma vida perfeita, haverá sempre dias bons e dias maus.
You cannot escape the messiness of life no matter how much of a perfectionist you are (trust me, I’ve tried). It’s time to embrace, accept and learn to love the total mess your life can be at times. Why?
Because if you keep striving for perfection, you’re never going to be happy. If you keep looking for that peça em falta em vez de viver a sua vida confusa ao máximo, a felicidade vai passar-lhe ao lado.
Deixe de lado a necessidade de estar em controlo e saiba quando dizer adeus aos objectivos inatingíveis que o fazem sentir-se assim.
A sua obsessão com a perfeição só vai deteriorar o seu bem-estar e prepará-lo para o inevitável fracasso.
Instead, hear me out when I tell you that embracing life’s messiness is the most gracious thing you can do for yourself. And here’s why!
A obsessão por uma perfeição inatingível faz-nos perder a noção de nós próprios
Quem eras tu antes de a tua necessidade de perfeição te vencer e começar a ser o teu guia na vida?
O que é que fez? Implementou o autocuidado diariamente e a sua vida foi confusa mas valeu totalmente a pena?
Remind yourself of this person! Remind yourself of all the hard work you put into everything that you do. You’re more than your need for perfection.
You’re more than that one unattainable goal that’s been bugging you for years.
Você é perfeito exatamente como é. Não falta nada na sua vida a não ser uma pequena verificação da realidade. You don’t need to be perfect to be amazing.
You don’t have to keep pushing yourself beyond your limits to the point of forgetting to just sit back and enjoy life.
Give yourself a break with everything you’ve done and all you’ve been through. You work hard, take care of your loved ones, put real food on the table and keep a tidy home.
So what if it gets messy sometimes? That’s a sign you’re alive. Fully embrace every part of yourself and love every single flaw that makes you unique.
Trying to be someone you’re not is messy work. Be your unapologetic, authentic self and remind yourself to enjoy the little things.
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The voice telling you that you need to be perfect doesn’t really matter
A perfeição é uma praga que se apoderou da nossa sociedade. Os meios de comunicação social continuam a promover imagens corporais pouco saudáveis e vidas aparentemente perfeitas que, na verdade, estão longe disso.
Ninguém tem tudo. Ninguém está plenamente satisfeito com todos os aspectos da sua vida sem um único arrependimento. Mas ninguém vai escrever sobre isso.
Nobody will tell you that it’s totally okay to be average but happy.
Nobody is going to tell you that leading tidy lives will ultimately keep you wondering what could’ve been if you weren’t so focused on the next thing.
What I’m trying to say is this: That voice that keeps telling you to keep reaching for more and to never settle for less doesn’t carry any significance.
It’s just what the outside world has instilled in you. It’s not real.
It’s countless hours spent looking at Victoria’s Secret supermodels. It’s bingeing TV shows filled with gorgeous girls who seemingly have it all.
It’s your best friend whose body looks smashing no matter how much she eats and her face that could be compared to those of the biggest beauties of today.
Mas tem de deixar de deixar que estas coisas afectem a sua mentalidade. A vida é confusa. As pessoas são confusas. Mesmo as pessoas mais bem organizadas têm coisas que as perturbam profundamente.
Deixe de se pressionar desnecessariamente e, em vez de olhar para as supermodelos em biquíni, veja o Harry Potter e perceba o que é realmente a vida.
Friendship, overcoming obstacles with the help of your nearest and dearest and being happy just the way you are. Don’t let social media and Facebook groups tell you differently.
As pessoas felizes estão demasiado satisfeitas com a sua vida para a publicarem na Internet. Pensem nisto por um segundo.
Your flaws and imperfections are what’s so awesome about you
Deixar de olhar para os seus defeitos. Pára de pensar que as pessoas só te vêem superficialmente. Você está para além disso. De facto, as coisas que odeia em si são as que mais atraem os outros!
As tuas inúmeras sardas, a tua personalidade espalhafatosa, a tua abordagem do tipo "diz o que queres dizer" e a tua total abertura tornam-te tão especial.
You might think that these make you less awesome but it’s the opposite. These things make you stand out from the rest.
Every single thing you yearn to change is what someone loves about you. We are our own worst critic and that’s the understatement of the century.
Here’s what I suggest you do. Whenever you start feeling like you’re not enough or like your life is anywhere but where you want it to be, put yourself in your best friend’s shoes.
What would she/he tell you if they were with you right now? And be honest with yourself. You know that they would tell you’re so much more than that dream you still haven’t achieved.
They’d tell you that your flaws are actually cute, peculiar qualities that people find surprisingly adorable. They would never let you be so hard on yourself.
And they’d be right. Everything we want to change about ourself is exactly what makes us so unique. Why would you want to be like someone else anyway?
It’s better to stand out with your uniqueness than to be bland and go with the crowd. You’re too awesome for that anyway.
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A perfeição não deixa espaço para o crescimento
Pense nisso. Aquilo por que tanto anseia é um lugar estagnado. Não há sítio para onde ir a não ser para baixo. Quando se atinge a perfeição, para onde se pode ir a seguir?
Everything that follows will be a massive let-down because in that perfect bubble, there is no room left for you to grow, change and achieve more than you ever could’ve hoped for.
Não há mais possibilidades. Então, se pensarmos bem, será que é assim tão aliciante?
Cometendo erros e aceitando a noção de que a vida é confusaSe o seu filho é um homem de negócios, está constantemente a dar a si próprio oportunidades de aprender e de se aperfeiçoar através da experiência.
It’s what grounds you, shapes you and ultimately makes you who you are. Being imperfect means always striving for more but never to the point of being obsessed with something as unattainable as perfection.
Cultivar um ambiente que lhe permita ser quem é, sem expectativas loucas, limitações ou constrangimentos.
For the first time ever, try to see the beauty that lies in all the messiness that’s ahead. Yes, you’ll make mistakes and no, life won’t always be a breeze but that’s okay.
When you go through life with the right, realistic mindset, you’ll see the beauty that lies everywhere around you. Your messy kitchen counter means you’re not hungry.
Your untidy living room means that people live there freely and happily. Your job that you’re not sure you want to keep means that you’ll likely push yourself to find something that fulfills you.
All of these things bring endless possibilities. It’s all about how you choose to see it. Abrace o seu vida confusasó se tem uma oportunidade.
Embracing life’s messiness means you’re in control of your happiness
Trata-se de cuidar de si próprio e de se certificar de que está a viver uma vida de acordo com seu expectativas.
You don’t have to please anyone else but your own self. You don’t have to let anyone tell you how to live your life because it’s none of their business!
Don’t let them tell you that you’re not enough. Don’t let them make you feel less worthy because you still haven’t got it all figured out. It’s your life, your rules and your own pace.
Algumas pessoas sabem quem são e o que querem aos 20 anos e, para outras, são precisas décadas para perceber verdadeiramente tudo. E então?
Life is a marathon, not a sprint. Take your time. Just because things are a bit messy now, it doesn’t mean it’ll be that way forever!
Who gets to tell you how to be happy? Nobody but you. Because you’re the only one who knows what soothes your soul.
You’re the only one who knows what makes your heart sing. So what if you’re still not there? One day, you’ll be just as happy (if not happier) as you wish you were right now.
Maybe you’re currently struggling. Maybe you’ve swerved off the path you want to be taking. Don’t worry about it. We all get lost sometimes não saber o que fazer com a nossa vida. It’s not the end of the world.
Trust me; when I pictured my life at my current age, I definitely didn’t think things would be the way they are. But I’m still happy.
It doesn’t matter that I had a different vision for where I’d be today. Life had other plans and I’m totally okay with that. Just because you think something will make you happy, it doesn’t necessarily mean that it will.
Ten years ago, I probably would have been shocked and disappointed if I had known that most of the things I’d envisioned for myself wouldn’t have panned out. But today, I’m fulfilled just the way that I am.
A vida tem uma forma engraçada de se desenrolar da maneira que nunca sonhámos. É só esperar.
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Ajuda-o a ligar-se ao seu verdadeiro eu
You have to be honest with yourself; if you’re not, what’s the point? You’re never going to be truly happy. You’re never going to be able to be in touch with your feelings.
But embracing the fact that yeah, life is messy, but it doesn’t mean that you’re doing it wrong will fuel you to keep being true to who you are.
Vida real isn’t all roses and butterflies. It’s every struggle, failure and sadness in-between. It’s every uncomfortable moment that makes you see who your real friends are.
It’s every tear you spilled over someone who didn’t deserve you. It’s giving yourself a break after a long, hard day and choosing not to clean the house because you just don’t have the energy.
That’s life. That’s what’s real. Not pretending to be anything more or less than what you are.
When you’re able to embrace it and be okay with every single part of life, even the most uncomfortable parts, you’ll be your best self.
You’re no good to anyone (especially to yourself) if you keep forcing yourself to be someone you’re not. It’ll keep you perpetually jaded, unfulfilled and miserable.
Mantém a cabeça erguida e o queixo erguido. As coisas boas estão a chegar. Mas também tens de abraçar tudo o que acontece pelo meio.
That’s life and that’s the only way to live it. Know that being true to yourself is the only way to go. And if there’s anyone in your life making you feel bad about it, discard them.
As suas emoções confusas vão trazer-lhe revelações inesperadas
Quantas vezes pensaste para ti próprio que a única forma de seres visto como belo, digno e amável é colocando uma máscara e negando a verdadeira essência de quem és?
How many times have you let yourself believe that in order to live up to someone’s expectations you had to tame some part of yourself?
A verdadeira aceitação vem da capacidade de reconhecer que as coisas inesperadas nos trazem, de facto, uma sabedoria infinita.
Todas as coisas que o fizeram sentir-se desconfortável e incomodado também o fizeram perceber muito.
For example, that thing you recently went through; you never would’ve thought that you’d be able to do it, right?
And look at you now, as if it never happened. That’s what usually happens with unexpected, messy hurdles. They bring you new realizations that are inspiring and encouraging.
Sempre que pensamos que algo nos vai destruir mentalmente, acaba por nos tornar mais fortes, mais inteligentes e mais perseverantes.
That’s because until you’re in a situation that demands you to do things you never thought you could, you never really know how capable you are.
So embrace your messy emotions. Embrace that rocky path. You have to learn to appreciate every single thing you go through because that’s what makes you so strong in the end.
A vida é confusa and perfection isn’t real. Whoever tells you differently lives in a bubble that’s about to burst.
Let go of your need to censor and control your emotions. Instead, let them rule you and see how better you’ll be for it. The good days are right now. Learn to see them and cherish them.
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Ultimately, accepting life’s messiness feels all kinds of freeing!
As I’ve already established, nobody in this world has it all. Not one person leads a perfect life filled with sunshine and rainbows. So why do you keep expecting to get to a place that doesn’t exist?
Abraça a tua vida tal como ela é. Confusa, imprevisível, cheia de surpresas inesperadas, mas autêntica e real!
You’re not a robot. Things won’t always automatically be great but that’s okay!
A confusão e os erros são ferramentas que nos libertam da necessidade incessante de fazer tudo bem. E sabe muito bem quando se aprende a aceitá-lo.
So what if things are a bit confusing right now? So what if you’re stuck in a job you don’t like or in a city you want to escape? It’s not going to last forever.
Life has this miraculous way of working itself out in the most unexpected ways. Things rarely pan out exactly the way you envisioned they would. But that’s the beauty of life!
You never really know what you’re getting and it keeps you on your toes every single day. Isn’t that the best way to live?
