Estou a aprender lentamente que não tenho de reagir a todas as coisas que me incomodam

“Think once before you act, twice before you speak, and three times before you post on Facebook.” P.C. Brunson

I really don’t live by this quote, except maybe just the part related to Facebook.

I say the first thing that comes to my mind. Sometimes my mouth runs faster than my brain and I say something I definitely shouldn’t. 

Os meus amigos dizem sempre, “You have to learn to count to ten when in these situations,” o que significa que tenho de aprender a controlar-me.

I can’t say the first thing that pops into my mind when I am in the middle of some kind of discussion, because I usually unintentionally hurt the people involved.

Apesar de ter uma boca grande, nunca fiz mal a ninguém e as pessoas que me conhecem bem sabem isso sobre mim.

Agora, quando penso nisso, provavelmente sou assim porque fui magoado demasiadas vezes.

As pessoas costumavam aproveitar-se do facto de eu ser basicamente uma boa pessoa, do tipo que carrega o coração na manga.

I was really losing sleep thinking about why someone would be so mean to me or why someone is treating me like I’m not good enough.

Tudo o que eu sabia era que tinha de aprender a defender-me. As pessoas magoaram-me tantas vezes que acho que as minhas reacções eram inevitáveis.

The problem now is that I tend to overreact at times. I think that people have bad intentions even when they don’t.

And that’s something I need to change about myself when I take a step back and look at the whole picture it only drains my energy and brings me stress that I don’t really need.

That’s why I am slowly learning not to act on all the things that bother me.

Estou a aprender que nem tudo precisa da minha reação. Estou a dominar a arte do autocontrolo. Estou a tentar ser a pessoa mais importante.

It doesn’t mean that I agree with everything people say or do, it just means that I am choosing to rise above it.

Ignorar é normalmente a melhor cura para qualquer situação. As discussões sobre algumas coisas que são irrelevantes são, na verdade, uma perda de tempo. 

Arguing drains your energy and it doesn’t solve anything; you are trying to make a point, the other person is trying to make theirs and nobody manages to hear anything.

That’s why, sometimes, ignoring the whole situation is the best thing you can do. You actually say a lot when you don’t say anything at all.

I am becoming aware that self-control is the best thing you can master. It’s all about you and within you.

You can’t control what other people say or how they act but you can control yourself.

Quando nos limitamos a observar a situação em que nos encontramos, aprendemos mais do que quando reagimos a ela.

Não agir é, na verdade, a melhor reação que se pode ter numa discussão.

Deixarás as pessoas a pensar no que aconteceu aqui. Há pessoas que estão apenas à espera que aja de alguma forma para verem que pode ser controlada.

That’s why I am refusing to give them control over me.

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I am starting to see that in the end, it’s all about me.  I have to be OK with myself. I won’t change anybody’s mind with my reaction.

Everybody will stick to their beliefs no matter what I say. My opinion won’t make them change theirs. It won’t make them treat me better or with greater respect. 

That’s why I am learning to stay silent.

I am starting to see that other people’s behavior has more to do with the relationship they have with themselves than the one they have with me. 

I don’t have to react to everything that’s getting on my nerves. I don’t have to turn every wrong to right. I have my own opinions and beliefs. 

Também estou disposto a ouvir as opiniões de outras pessoas. Talvez eu possa aprender alguma coisa. Talvez eles possam aprender alguma coisa comigo se estiverem dispostos a ouvir-me também.

It’s never about other people – let them go. It’s not about seeking explanations – some things are better left unsaid.  

It’s not about who is right or wrong – sometimes there are no rights or wrongs. Sometimes it is what it is and nothing more.

It’s always about being satisfied with yourself. It’s about something priceless like inner peace. It’s about the fact that happiness is a state of mind.

Por isso, seja feliz e lembre-se que, por vezes, não reagir é a melhor ação que pode tomar.