Não se pode estragar algo que foi feito para nós

Alguma vez pensou nas suas relações passadas e sentiu que estava a desperdiçar a sua preciosa vida com alguém que não a merecia?

Talvez o facto de pensar que estava a fazer algo errado seja o que o impede de ter o que quer agora.

If that one man didn’t recognize your worth right away, it might not mean you did something wrong, but perhaps that he simply wasn’t someone you needed.

Maybe it means there’s a greater plan ahead.

If he criticizes you often, he’s not the one

If a man keeps telling you you’re not doing something right or keeps downplaying your emotions, I’m sorry, but that means he isn’t the one.

What he’s doing is  abuso emocional. Ninguém merece ser tratado assim.

It’s important you recognize the signs on time. Emotional abuse is a real thing that happens to many women who don’t even realize it.

You don’t need your partner to put so much unneeded pressure on you.

O que precisas é de apoio infinito. Um lugar seguro para onde voltar.

Alguém que te protege sempre, aconteça o que acontecer.

Precisas que ele seja o teu maior apoio. Tudo o que seja menos do que isso é inaceitável.

He must accept you as you are – no more, no less

If the love is real, you can’t really mess up. So-called mess ups are just an opportunity for more understanding and strengthening your relationship.

And if your partner’s the right one, he will know that better than anyone.

Understanding your partner’s flaws is the best way to show them you accept them fully.

Só quando souber que ele a aceita como um todo é que se pode sentir segura e começar a construir uma vida com ele sem medo de falhar novamente.

If he constantly makes you feel like you need to be somehow better, he’s got a problem, and that problem isn’t you.

Encare o fracasso como uma garantia, não como uma tragédia

Instead of believing your fears and thinking you’re doing something wrong, try seeing failures as a sign telling you something’s not good for you.

Ou melhor ainda:

A sign telling you there is something else waiting for you and when the time comes, you’re going to know that’s it.

Every cloud has a silver lining. Nothing is lost. You’re not there yet.

But you’re not late. There’s time.

There’s no plan you should follow. Nobody can control life.

You’re allowed to have your own life’s rhythm. And dance how you want to.

Acredite na sua intuição

This is the thing most people seem to forget about or simply dismiss because they think somebody else knows better what’s good for them.

It doesn’t make sense. How can someone else know what you’ve been through and what you’ve been feeling better than you?

No one else can know it more intensely than yourself! That’s the truth of life.

The sooner you realize it, the sooner your life starts to change. Rapidly. You’ll start trusting yourself more and more.

Só precisa de ter fé em si próprio e o resto virá a seguir.

Deixem de pôr tudo o resto à vossa frente.

If you needed a sign to tell you it’s time to take your life into your own hands and start trusting your inner voice, this is it.

Encorajo-vos a eliminar todas as vossas dúvidas e a dar corajosamente o primeiro passo para a vossa nova vida.

A new life where you’re always sure your decisions are what leads you right there where you need to be.

And remember:  You can’t mess up something that’s meant for you. So, keep your head up and start being brave again.