5 maneiras duras de deixar de amar alguém

Se alguma vez tentaste deixar de amar alguém, sabes como isso pode parecer impossível.

But although it is a process that takes time, energy and patience, it is far from impossible. Although love is an emotion that can’t be controlled, there are some ways that can help you kill all the feelings you have for someone.

Aqui estão 5 deles:

1. Enfrentar a realidade

When you feel like you’ve lost yourself to a heartbreak, the hardest but most necessary thing is to accept the harsh truth. Whether your relationship is over or the man you love just doesn’t love you back, if you want to stop loving him, the first thing you need to do is to face reality, no matter how painful it can be.

You need to get rid of all the hope that this man will be yours, because hope is exactly what is keeping your love for him alive. I am not saying this will be the easiest thing to do—I know it is painful but it is just something you need to do if you really want to move on with your life.

I know you can’t tell your heart what to do but the first step you have to take is consciously deciding that you will stop loving him.

2. Abraça a tua tristeza

As pessoas têm normalmente a tendência de fazer tudo o que está ao seu alcance para fugir à tristeza, porque pensam que isso as torna demasiado fracas. E eu estou aqui para vos dizer que este é um dos maiores erros que podem cometer.

Não há nada de errado em expressar os seus sentimentos e escondê-los de si próprio pode ser mais prejudicial do que pensa. Se lhe apetecer chorar, chore. Se lhe apetecer gritar, sinta-se à vontade para gritar.

Faz o que for preciso, apenas dê a si próprio tempo para se curar. A pior coisa que se pode fazer é fingir que se está bem quando, obviamente, não se está. É melhor dar a si mesmo um período de luto do que deixar que essas emoções negativas o apanhem mais cedo ou mais tarde.

3. Pensa em todas as qualidades negativas dessa pessoa

Quando amamos alguém, normalmente olhamos para essa pessoa com óculos cor-de-rosa.

You probably think of this man as better than he really is and you fail to see his numerous flaws. But if you want to stop loving him for real, you’ll have to start looking at him differently. I am not saying that you should start hating him but maybe it’s time to focus on his negative qualities.

This way, you’ll see that he is only human and that he has his imperfections as well. Every time you start to think of this man, force yourself to think about the things you don’t like about him and that will help you change the image you have of him.

4. Afastar-se desta pessoa

If you really want to stop loving someone, you need to keep him out of your sight. And that means that you should avoid all form of contact with this man—you shouldn’t call him or answer his calls, you should avoid going to the places where you think you might meet him.

If it is necessary, block his number or change yours and block him on all social networks. This may appear like an impolite thing to do and you may think it is too harsh, but trust me—it is something you need to do if you want to get over him.

With time, you’ll see the results of this step, because there will be fewer and fewer things reminding you of him and causing you to think of him.

5. Manter-se ocupado

While you are in a grieving period, you think you’ll never stop loving this man. You can’t make yourself do anything except cry for this guy. Your friends and family bore you and there is nothing that can keep your attention for long enough.

Em vez de sair em público, prefere ficar deitado na sua cama, a chorar a sua perda. E esse é um dos piores erros que se pode cometer. Se queres mesmo deixar de amar alguém, tens de fazer tudo o que for preciso para não pensar nele. E a melhor coisa a fazer é manter-se sempre ocupada.

It will be hard in the beginning but with time, you’ll see that you are slowly starting to focus on some other things.