5 formas duras de dejar de querer a alguien

Si alguna vez has intentado dejar de querer a alguien, sabes lo imposible que puede parecer.

But although it is a process that takes time, energy and patience, it is far from impossible. Although love is an emotion that can’t be controlled, there are some ways that can help you kill all the feelings you have for someone.

He aquí 5 de ellas:

1. Afrontar la realidad

When you feel like you’ve lost yourself to a heartbreak, the hardest but most necessary thing is to accept the harsh truth. Whether your relationship is over or the man you love just doesn’t love you back, if you want to stop loving him, the first thing you need to do is to face reality, no matter how painful it can be.

You need to get rid of all the hope that this man will be yours, because hope is exactly what is keeping your love for him alive. I am not saying this will be the easiest thing to do—I know it is painful but it is just something you need to do if you really want to move on with your life.

I know you can’t tell your heart what to do but the first step you have to take is consciously deciding that you will stop loving him.

2. Acepta tu tristeza

La gente suele tener la tendencia de hacer todo lo que esté en su mano para escapar de la tristeza, porque piensan que eso les hará demasiado débiles. Y yo estoy aquí para decirte que este es uno de los mayores errores que podrías cometer.

No hay nada malo en expresar tus sentimientos y ocultártelos puede ser más perjudicial de lo que crees. Si tienes ganas de llorar, llora. Si tienes ganas de gritar, no dudes en hacerlo.

Haz lo que sea necesario, sólo date tiempo para curarte. Lo peor que puedes hacer es fingir que estás bien cuando es evidente que no lo estás. Es mejor darse un periodo de duelo que dejar que estas emociones negativas te atrapen tarde o temprano.

3. Piensa en todas las cualidades negativas de esta persona

Cuando amamos a alguien, solemos mirar a esa persona a través de unas gafas de color de rosa.

You probably think of this man as better than he really is and you fail to see his numerous flaws. But if you want to stop loving him for real, you’ll have to start looking at him differently. I am not saying that you should start hating him but maybe it’s time to focus on his negative qualities.

This way, you’ll see that he is only human and that he has his imperfections as well. Every time you start to think of this man, force yourself to think about the things you don’t like about him and that will help you change the image you have of him.

4. Aléjate de esta persona

If you really want to stop loving someone, you need to keep him out of your sight. And that means that you should avoid all form of contact with this man—you shouldn’t call him or answer his calls, you should avoid going to the places where you think you might meet him.

If it is necessary, block his number or change yours and block him on all social networks. This may appear like an impolite thing to do and you may think it is too harsh, but trust me—it is something you need to do if you want to get over him.

With time, you’ll see the results of this step, because there will be fewer and fewer things reminding you of him and causing you to think of him.

5. Mantente ocupado

While you are in a grieving period, you think you’ll never stop loving this man. You can’t make yourself do anything except cry for this guy. Your friends and family bore you and there is nothing that can keep your attention for long enough.

En lugar de salir en público, prefieres quedarte en la cama, llorando tu pérdida. Y ese es uno de los peores errores que puedes cometer. Si realmente quieres dejar de amar a alguien, tienes que hacer lo que sea necesario para mantener tu mente alejada de él. Y lo mejor que puedes hacer es mantenerte ocupada en todo momento.

It will be hard in the beginning but with time, you’ll see that you are slowly starting to focus on some other things.