Leia isto se está a pensar em dar-lhe uma segunda oportunidade

Someone once told me that giving second chances to someone is like falling into a trap set by the one we’re facing.

I didn’t understand it then, because I truly thought that people could change and regret their mistakes.

Pensava que as pessoas podiam acordar uma manhã e decidir que queriam voltar a amar e a apreciar a pessoa que tanto amavam e que queriam compensá-la. Mas enganei-me.

At one point you will realize, just like I did, that when people hurt you it’s not an accident. Whoever dói faz de propósito.

Do you really think that a cheater can justify his actions by saying that he ‘didn’t mean it’ or that it ‘wasn’t his intention’?

I am very much aware of the fact that under the influence of alcohol we might not have a sense of judgment but why would he even want to put himself in that situation? And it’s not just cheaters we should be talking about.

He knew that you would be hurt if he told you that you were a ‘bad girlfriend’, he knew how much it would hurt you by saying that you weren’t worth his time and he still said it like it was nothing.

Achas mesmo que alguém que te amasse faria uma coisa dessas?

Tudo o que esse homem lhe fez, fê-lo de propósito. Todo aquele abuso, toda aquela manipulação e tudo o resto.

Yes, this also means that he did all those sweet things on purpose. All those times he made you feel safe, all those times he told you how much he loved you—everything.

E, acima de tudo, ele fê-lo sabendo que tu também o amavas.

It’s up to you to determine whether or not you want him in your life but let me just tell you that it takes years to build trust but a second to break it.

É realmente capaz de o perdoar pelo que ele fez? Pode dizer com certeza que ele não voltará a repetir o mesmo erro?

Consegue perdoar o facto de ele ter abusado da sua confiança para seu próprio prazer?

You are thinking about giving him another chance. This is, of course, a chance for him to make everything right but it’s not just that.

Ao tentar de novo, está a dar-lhe livre acesso ao seu coração e uma oportunidade de a magoar mais uma vez.

Está a dar-lhe a oportunidade de, mais uma vez, transformar a vossa relação num campo de batalha, quando deveria ser um porto seguro.

Uma manhã, acordarás ao lado dele e lembrar-te-ás do que ele te fez de mal, lembrar-te-ás de como estás destroçada e devastada.

But that exact same man will be lying next to you and you will keep on wondering what would have happened if you hadn’t let him voltar para si.

Maybe you would have healed very quickly. Maybe you wouldn’t be so mad about your decision and maybe you would have been happy with another man next to you.

There is a long list of maybes just waiting for you and it doesn’t matter if you choose to take him back or not, you will wonder what would have happened if you chose otherwise.

Unconditional love is a beautiful thing, especially when you realize that there are so many people out there in this world who will never be able to feel what you’re feeling.

Mas o que é mais mágico do que o amor incondicional para com outra pessoa é o amor incondicional que sentimos por nós próprios.

There shouldn’t be anyone dizendo que amar a si mesmo é egoísmo ou que possa haver algo mais importante do que o amor-próprio.

That’s why I think that if you loved yourself enough, you wouldn’t give him another chance.

You wouldn’t give this man a chance to break your heart once more because he does not deserve it. He had his chance and he blew it.

This is your time to shine, dear, so don’t let it slip out of your hands.

Ficará devastada e poderá chorar sempre que pensar nele, mas isso não é nada comparado com a miséria por que se deixará passar se decidir voltar a dar-lhe um lugar no seu coração enquanto ele faz a mesma coisa vezes sem conta.

Age com inteligência. Sei que o seu coração está a puxar por si, mas isso não é desculpa para se tratar mal.

Ame-se o suficiente para se afastar dele para sempre.