O amor unilateral não é o que mereces

“…unrequited love does not die; it’s only beaten down to a secret place where it hides, curled and wounded. For some unfortunates, it turns bitter and mean, and those who come after pay the price for the hurt done by the one who came before.” – Elle Newmark

Dear “Whoever is reading this”,

A love that is a one-way street in which you are steering the wheel is not what you deserve. It’s not what anyone deserves.

Maybe it’s hard for you to understand and admit to yourself that you are a única pessoa na vossa relação que se importa com isso. I get it. I’ve been there. I’ve felt that.  

É IS hard, but as soon as you stop fooling yourself into believing things are great and that they couldn’t be better, it is going to be easier for you to finally understand you’re MISERÁVEL.   

Quanto mais cedo perceberes isto, mais cedo serás poupado à dor paralisante do amor unilateral.

Se acha que está preso nesse círculo vicioso de dar amor e não o receber de volta, saia dele e abra os olhos.

Mereces mais do que isso.

O amor unilateral é uma tortura.

It’s giving yourself entirely to someone who is totally indifferent. It’s the constant fear that someone will leave you because their eyes are blank, empty when they look at you.

Everyone’s eyes are windows of their souls and one simple look will tell you how they actually feel about you.

Don’t deceive yourself into thinking they care for you when you see they don’t. By doing that, you are only torturing yourself.

Falando por experiência própria, sei que é difícil encarar o facto de a sua relação não estar a dar em nada. Está disposta a fazer tudo o que estiver ao seu alcance para que resulte, mas, infelizmente, é a única.

Mereces mais do que isso.

O amor unilateral é um desgosto.

It’s seeing people are as cold as ice while you are burning up with all the love you have to give.

Está disposto a fazer um esforço suplementar por eles, enquanto eles se recusam a dar um pequeno passo. Isn’t that selfish?

You are left with the void in your heart and there’s no one there to fill it. It’s as if they are so bored, so they decided to kill some time by being in a relationship with you.

That leaves someone crying (you) and someone smiling (them). You are the one left to cry and you know they are not worth your tears, but you still don’t give up on them and your relationship because you care too much when you shouldn’t.  

Mereces mais do que isso.

O amor unilateral está a destruir a sua auto-confiança.

You might deny this while it’s happening, but when it’s all over, you are left broken and alone. You will probably not be able to love someone that way anytime soon.

Devido à sua falta de apreço, fica a questionar-se, “What did I do wrong? I gave him everything, why couldn’t he love me back?”

Enviou-lhes mensagens de texto, levou-os a jantares românticos, comprou-lhes presentes e deixou-lhes bilhetes bonitos e tudo o que recebeu em troca foi um afeto piedoso que durou cerca de 3 segundos.

Depois disso, a indiferença deles voltou à vida. É assim que eles o apreciam.  

Pergunto-me como é que eles reagiriam se provassem o seu próprio remédio. Se houver alguma justiça no universo, eles terão a oportunidade de o provar, só para verem como se sentiam e pelo que estavam a passar.

No que lhe diz respeito, ponha a indiferença deles no gelo e esmague-a, porque ninguém tem o direito de o fazer duvidar de si próprio.

Mereces mais do que isso.

O amor unilateral é uma rua de sentido único.

There is always one person who is doing all the work and the other one who lays back and enjoys. It shouldn’t be like that. The two of you should be equals. It’s the only way for a relationship to work—to grow into a life-time partnership.

You are the one who is left to choose where you are going to go on a date. You are the one who is initiating all your conversations because if it weren’t for you, uncomfortable silence would dominate.

They aren’t able to feel the awkwardness between the two of you because they couldn’t care less.

É o iniciador dessas relações quando, na verdade, os dois deviam estar a trabalhar em conjunto.

Mereces mais do que isso.

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O amor unilateral é uma obsessão.

Being in a one-sided relationship is a 24/7 job. You won’t quit because you love them and you are giving your best to prove it to them, hoping that things will change. But they won’t and somewhere deep inside, you know that, but you won’t admit it.

They have you by their side, but they don’t respect you. They don’t have a problem with making you lose your mind over the success of your relationship. They are turning you into an obsessive maniac.  

Real love is not one-sided, it’s reciprocated. Save yourself the trouble if that isn’t the case in your relationship.

You will end up obsessing over the fact your relationship is getting sick and you haven’t got the cure to heal it.

A sua relação é um navio a afundar-se e tem de o deixar para se salvar.

Mereces mais do que isso.

O amor unilateral está a fazer-te perder a fé.

How can it be that one person would sacrifice anything to make a relationship work, while the other one couldn’t care less?

Porque é que essas pessoas insensíveis se comprometem connosco se a única coisa que nos vão deixar é uma perda de fé nas pessoas?

Como é que se pode confiar em alguém depois de alguém nos ter feito passar por parvos?

É preciso reagir a tempo e acabar com a relação antes que ela o incapacite.

Mereces mais do que isso.

O amor unilateral é uma batalha.

It’s your battle—the one you are struggling with on the inside. One moment you feel you are about to win, and the next moment you are surrendering and counting your dead.

You’ve finally realized they don’t reciprocate your love, but you can’t help yourself from trying because you love them.

At the end of the day, the ball is in your court. You have the power to end it, so you won’t suffer, but do you have the guts to do it?

Claro que sim, porque és melhor do que isso.