Não se pode construir uma relação com alguém se se está a fazer todo o trabalho

I’m sure you’ve already heard someone tell you that todas as relações são uma via de dois sentidos. Bem, posso garantir-vos que isto é mais do que uma frase vazia.

Se quiser ter uma relação saudável, não há outra forma senão partilhar tudo. Devem ter direitos, responsabilidades e deveres iguais.

No entanto, o que é mais importante aqui é que ambos têm de investir um igual quantidade de esforço se querem que o vosso romance resulte.

You can’t build anything if you’re the only one trying and the only one pushing it forward.

Nevertheless, this is exactly what’s going on in your relationship. You’re doing all the hard work while your boyfriend lies back and expects to get everything served on a silver platter.

At first glance, it seems that everything is working out just fine between you two. You have a seemingly average relationship without many unresolvable issues. But let’s be real.

Ask yourself whether all of this would be possible if you weren’t the one taking on all the burdens?

Teriam permanecido juntos durante tanto tempo se estivessem a fazer o mesmo esforço que ele?

The painful truth is your boyfriend isn’t ready to do anything for the sake of your relationship. He acts completely indifferent toward you and behaves like he doesn’t give a damn about your future together.

You’re the one who initiates all contact, the one who makes all the compromises yourself and the one who makes all the adjustments.

You’re the one who tries hard to make the peace after every fight and the one who keeps your relationship from breaking apart.

Nevertheless, things shouldn’t be like this. You two are a couple and should act as a team.

Be honest and ask yourself why you’re actually keeping this man by your side. Would he turn around if you let him go?

O mais importante: Ele faria qualquer coisa para o manter se o quisesse abandonar? Será que ele daria pela tua ausência?

He doesn’t mind your presence but would he be in any way impacted by your absence? Ou a vida dele continuaria a ser a mesma com ou sem ti?

O que aconteceria à vossa relação se se comportassem como o vosso namorado? O que aconteceria se desistisse? Ele mudaria o seu comportamento?

Este homem tem medo de a perder ou está a tomá-la por garantida?

I’ll give you the answers to all of these questions. He doesn’t care for you enough and you’re only convenient for him.

He likes the fact that you take care of him and of your relationship. He enjoys how you’re carrying all the weight and as long as you’re acting like this, he’ll never change.

The harsh truth is that you’re in a relação unilateralQuer o queiras admitir ou não.

You’re the only one making sacrifices, the only one investing herself, the only one fighting, the only one trying to prevent things from going downhill and the only one doing the damage repair.

Having all of this in mind, the brutal reality is that at the end of the day, you’re the only one in this story who loves.

I know that this is a hard pill to swallow but deep down, you’re also aware that you’re not wanted here.

You’re aware that you’re actually alone and that you don’t have this man to stand by you when you need him.

Ele não está lá para te dar a mão nos momentos difíceis, não está lá para te empurrar para a frente quando precisas de ser encorajado e não está lá para te dar a sua atenção ou apoio.

Basically, you’re not fighting for your relationship. You’re fighting against your boyfriend and that is in no way a recipe for success.

You’re struggling against his indifference and falta de esforço.

Well, what you seem to be forgetting is that someone’s effort mirrors their interest in you.

The bottom line is that it’s about time for you to see that you deserve and need more.

You don’t deserve an immature boyfriend who acts like he doesn’t know that healthy relationships require hard work and devotion.

So please, stop wasting any more of your precious time. You’re throwing away all of your energy on someone who will never give you anything in return.

You’re giving your entire self for this man’s half-hearted love. You’re moving mountains for someone who isn’t ready to lift a finger for your sake.