No puedes construir una relación con alguien si tú haces todo el trabajo

I’m sure you’ve already heard someone tell you that toda relación es una calle de doble sentido. Puedo asegurarle que es algo más que una frase vacía.

Si quieres una relación sana, no hay otro camino que compartirlo todo. Debéis tener los mismos derechos, responsabilidades y deberes.

Sin embargo, lo más importante aquí es que ambos tienen que invertir un igual cantidad de esfuerzo si quieres que tu romance funcione.

You can’t build anything if you’re the only one trying and the only one pushing it forward.

Nevertheless, this is exactly what’s going on in your relationship. You’re doing all the hard work while your boyfriend lies back and expects to get everything served on a silver platter.

At first glance, it seems that everything is working out just fine between you two. You have a seemingly average relationship without many unresolvable issues. But let’s be real.

Ask yourself whether all of this would be possible if you weren’t the one taking on all the burdens?

¿Habríais seguido juntos tanto tiempo si te hubieras esforzado tanto como él?

The painful truth is your boyfriend isn’t ready to do anything for the sake of your relationship. He acts completely indifferent toward you and behaves like he doesn’t give a damn about your future together.

You’re the one who initiates all contact, the one who makes all the compromises yourself and the one who makes all the adjustments.

You’re the one who tries hard to make the peace after every fight and the one who keeps your relationship from breaking apart.

Nevertheless, things shouldn’t be like this. You two are a couple and should act as a team.

Be honest and ask yourself why you’re actually keeping this man by your side. Would he turn around if you let him go?

Lo más importante: ¿Haría algo para retenerte si quisieras abandonarle? ¿Se daría cuenta siquiera de que te has ido?

He doesn’t mind your presence but would he be in any way impacted by your absence? ¿O su vida seguiría igual con o sin ti?

¿Qué pasaría con tu relación si te comportaras como tu novio? ¿Qué pasaría si te rindieras? ¿Cambiaría su comportamiento?

¿Este hombre tiene miedo de perderte o te da por sentada?

I’ll give you the answers to all of these questions. He doesn’t care for you enough and you’re only convenient for him.

He likes the fact that you take care of him and of your relationship. He enjoys how you’re carrying all the weight and as long as you’re acting like this, he’ll never change.

The harsh truth is that you’re in a relación unilaterallo quieras admitir o no.

You’re the only one making sacrifices, the only one investing herself, the only one fighting, the only one trying to prevent things from going downhill and the only one doing the damage repair.

Having all of this in mind, the brutal reality is that at the end of the day, you’re the only one in this story who loves.

I know that this is a hard pill to swallow but deep down, you’re also aware that you’re not wanted here.

You’re aware that you’re actually alone and that you don’t have this man to stand by you when you need him.

No está ahí para cogerte de la mano en los momentos difíciles, no está ahí para empujarte hacia adelante cuando necesitas ánimos y no está ahí para prestarte su atención o apoyo.

Basically, you’re not fighting for your relationship. You’re fighting against your boyfriend and that is in no way a recipe for success.

You’re struggling against his indifference and falta de esfuerzo.

Well, what you seem to be forgetting is that someone’s effort mirrors their interest in you.

The bottom line is that it’s about time for you to see that you deserve and need more.

You don’t deserve an immature boyfriend who acts like he doesn’t know that healthy relationships require hard work and devotion.

So please, stop wasting any more of your precious time. You’re throwing away all of your energy on someone who will never give you anything in return.

You’re giving your entire self for this man’s half-hearted love. You’re moving mountains for someone who isn’t ready to lift a finger for your sake.