Este ano, defina a sua quase relação

Quando se trata de encontros modernos, não definir uma relação entre duas pessoas tornou-se completamente normal.

In fact, it’s like this has become a standard; you’re even at risk of being called old-fashioned if you demand to know where you stand right from the start.

After all, what’s wrong with having some casual fun?

What’s the harm in seeing a guy from time to time, sleeping with him with sem compromisso e ir para a cama com ele sempre que vos apetece, sem quaisquer promessas para o futuro?

We’re all just living in the moment, right? Who cares what will happen tomorrow if we’re enjoying each other’s company right now?

Don’t get me wrong—I’m no Judge Judy and all of this is perfectly fine with me as long as both parties involved agree upon the nature of their relationship.

Uma pessoa tem o direito de não querer uma relação em determinadas alturas da sua vida e tudo o que tem de fazer é ser completamente honesta sobre as suas intenções, sem enganar a outra pessoa.

No entanto, não é assim que as coisas se passam no seu caso, pois não? The truth is that you’re not okay with this almost relationship you got yourself involved in.

At first, you thought you could make it. You wanted to blend in with the masses and you wanted to try something new but obviously, you miscalculated things and you didn’t evaluate your emotional capacities well.

De facto, este situação tem vindo a destruir-te por dentro há já algum tempo.

Even though you don’t want to admit it to yourself, let alone to your quase namoradoO facto é que quer muito mais.

You’re not comfortable with not labeling your relationship.

You’re not happy being with a guy who refuses to commit, who never swore his loyalty and who has no duty to be faithful to you.

This type of arrangement doesn’t suit you, as much as you try to convince him, yourself and the rest of the world that it does.

You’re settling for less by accepting the role of his part-time girlfriend, by seeing him occasionally, by not having the right to text him whenever you feel like it and by being his booty call.

A verdade é que tem sentimentos crescentes por este homem, por mais que esteja a lutar contra eles.

Queres que ele seja o teu verdadeiro namorado e queres ter uma relação romântica séria com ele.

However, you’re too scared of coming clean. You’re afraid of admitting your emotions because they were not part of the deal.

You assume that he’ll start perceiving you as too weak or pathetic.

You’re convinced that you’ll end up with both your ego and heart crushed into pieces if you give it a shot and be honest about your feelings and desires.

I won’t lie to you: this can happen.

There is the possibility of this guy telling you that he doesn’t want the same things you do, that he doesn’t care about you enough to make you his girlfriend, that he doesn’t find you two compatible or that he is simply not ready to commit right now.

No entanto, even this case scenario is better than being left on hold; at least, you’ll know where you stand and what you’re dealing with.

You’ll know it’s time to ditch all of your hopes, you’ll walk away from him before you get yourself dragged into this mess even deeper and most importantly—you’ll stop wasting your time.

Yes, you’ll be hurt but the pain will go away.

Por outro lado, há também a possibilidade de vocês os dois estarem mesmo a trabalhar.

A possibilidade de ele ter os mesmos dilemas que tu e a possibilidade de isto se transformar num conto de fadas da vida real.

Nevertheless, whatever happens, please, make your new year’s resolution to put a stop to this agony.

Em 2025, seja suficientemente corajoso para definir a sua quase relação; transformá-lo num verdadeiro ou pôr-lhe fim.

After all, whatever happens, at least you’ll know you tried. You’ll be proud of yourself for following your heart and for doing exactly what it wanted you to do.

Sim, pode falhar, mas será heroico. No entanto, em vez disso, podes voar.

Trust me—either way, you’ll feel much better than now.

Estar ciente da pior verdade é sempre melhor do que passar todos os dias na ignorância, sem saber o que esperar e o que esperar.