Quest'anno, definite la vostra quasi relazione

Quando si parla di appuntamenti moderni, non definire una relazione tra due persone è diventato del tutto normale.

In fact, it’s like this has become a standard; you’re even at risk of being called old-fashioned if you demand to know where you stand right from the start.

After all, what’s wrong with having some casual fun?

What’s the harm in seeing a guy from time to time, sleeping with him with senza vincoli e di uscire con lui ogni volta che ne avete voglia, senza alcuna promessa per il futuro?

We’re all just living in the moment, right? Who cares what will happen tomorrow if we’re enjoying each other’s company right now?

Don’t get me wrong—I’m no Judge Judy and all of this is perfectly fine with me as long as both parties involved agree upon the nature of their relationship.

Una persona ha il diritto di non volere una relazione in certi momenti della sua vita e tutto ciò che deve fare è essere completamente onesta sulle sue intenzioni senza illudere l'altra persona.

Tuttavia, nel vostro caso le cose non stanno così, vero? The truth is that you’re not okay with this almost relationship you got yourself involved in.

At first, you thought you could make it. You wanted to blend in with the masses and you wanted to try something new but obviously, you miscalculated things and you didn’t evaluate your emotional capacities well.

In effetti, questo Situazione di vita ti sta distruggendo dall'interno da un po' di tempo a questa parte.

Even though you don’t want to admit it to yourself, let alone to your quasi fidanzatoIl fatto è che si vuole molto di più.

You’re not comfortable with not labeling your relationship.

You’re not happy being with a guy who refuses to commit, who never swore his loyalty and who has no duty to be faithful to you.

This type of arrangement doesn’t suit you, as much as you try to convince him, yourself and the rest of the world that it does.

You’re settling for less by accepting the role of his part-time girlfriend, by seeing him occasionally, by not having the right to text him whenever you feel like it and by being his booty call.

La verità è che avete sviluppato dei sentimenti per quest'uomo, per quanto stiate lottando contro di essi.

Volete che sia il vostro vero fidanzato e volete una relazione romantica seria con lui.

However, you’re too scared of coming clean. You’re afraid of admitting your emotions because they were not part of the deal.

You assume that he’ll start perceiving you as too weak or pathetic.

You’re convinced that you’ll end up with both your ego and heart crushed into pieces if you give it a shot and be honest about your feelings and desires.

I won’t lie to you: this can happen.

There is the possibility of this guy telling you that he doesn’t want the same things you do, that he doesn’t care about you enough to make you his girlfriend, that he doesn’t find you two compatible or that he is simply not ready to commit right now.

Tuttavia, even this case scenario is better than being left on hold; at least, you’ll know where you stand and what you’re dealing with.

You’ll know it’s time to ditch all of your hopes, you’ll walk away from him before you get yourself dragged into this mess even deeper and most importantly—you’ll stop wasting your time.

Yes, you’ll be hurt but the pain will go away.

D'altra parte, c'è anche la possibilità che voi due facciate davvero ginnastica.

La possibilità che lui abbia gli stessi dilemmi che avete voi e la possibilità che questa si trasformi in una favola reale.

Nevertheless, whatever happens, please, make your new year’s resolution to put a stop to this agony.

Nel 2025, abbiate il coraggio di definire la vostra quasi relazione; trasformarla in una vera e propria o di porvi fine.

After all, whatever happens, at least you’ll know you tried. You’ll be proud of yourself for following your heart and for doing exactly what it wanted you to do.

Sì, potreste fallire, ma sarebbe eroico. Tuttavia, potreste anche volare.

Trust me—either way, you’ll feel much better than now.

Essere consapevoli della peggiore verità è sempre meglio che passare ogni giorno nell'ignoranza, senza sapere cosa aspettarsi e cosa sperare.