Pare de se apaixonar se ele parar de tentar
Dizem que o verdadeiro amor exige esforço e sacrifícios. Deve-se lutar por quem se ama e estar pronto para ultrapassar todos os obstáculos que a vida possa atirar aos nossos pés.
After all, you’ve read all the fairytales. You know how both the Prince and the Princess fight the evil witches and don’t let anyone stand in the way of their romance.
And I couldn’t agree more: no relationship can become healthy overnight. Instead, it takes a lot of hard work, commitment, devotion, trust, and compromise to make things work.
Of course, most importantly—it takes a lot of love to build it right.
However, the truth is that sometimes, love isn’t enough, especially if it’s one-sided.
There is no point if you’re o único que está a tentarO único que faz avançar a vossa relação e o único que se preocupa com o seu futuro.
Remember: every relationship is a two-way street, and all of your efforts are in vain if the other person isn’t ready to move his finger for the sake of your romance.
In this case scenario, you will burn out in a matter of time, while your partner will start taking you for granted and assume that you’ll always be there to prevent your relationship from going downhill.
Por isso, por favor, compreendam que lutar pelo amor e persegui-lo são duas coisas diferentes. Dar o melhor de si e ser o único a tentar não são a mesma coisa.
No, you’re não pedir demasiado just because you want to have a mentally and emotionally present boyfriend who doesn’t consider his job to be done the moment he sees that you’ve fallen for him.
You’re not overdemanding for wanting a man who will spend the rest of his life in attempts to win you over with each day that comes.
You don’t have too high of a standard for expecting a gentleman who will forever court you—a real man who will never forget your worth and who will consider himself lucky for having a woman like you by his side.
No, it is not selfish to walk away from someone who stops putting effort around you; leaving a man who obviously couldn’t care less whether you’re around or not is an act of self-care, not a sign of ego-centrism.
All of this is a lot easier said than done, I know. However, it seems that you keep forgetting that you’re the ruler of your own emotions, not the other way around.
Yes, you have what it takes to order your heart to stop loving someone who doesn’t deserve it.
Tem a capacidade de deixar de dar tudo de si, sem receber nada em troca.
Yes, you can—and have to—stop falling in love the moment you see that he isn’t trying to put a smile back on your face anymore or that he doesn’t care whether he is breaking your heart and how his actions are affecting you; the moment you see that this man wouldn’t do anything if you abandon him and that he would never chase you to come back.
You need to stop falling in love when he stops seducing you and putting effort into reminding you how butterflies feel each day; when he stops paying attention to the little things—when he starts forgetting your birthday or anniversary date, stops noticing that you have a new haircut, and stops caring when he sees that you’re sad.
It’s time to call it quits the moment you start feeling like his second choice.
The moment he puts everyone and everything in front of you, just because he’s certain that you’re not going anywhere.
It needs to happen when you see that he doesn’t appreciate you anymore; that he is taking you for granted and stops matching your sacrifices.
Deixar de se apaixonar quando ele deixar de estar totalmente envolvido.
Deixe de dar tudo de si no momento em que se aperceber que esta se tornou uma relação unilateral; quando começar a sentir-se mais sozinha do que se fosse solteira e que este homem é apenas oficialmente o seu parceiro romântico.
Deixe de se apaixonar quando essa relação começar a trazer-lhe mais tristeza do que felicidade; quando vir que sobrecarrega os seus pensamentos e que continua a partir-lhe o coração.
Back out when you see that it has a negative impact on your emotional and mental health; once you see that you’re losing yourself, in attempts to save the remains of this already failed relationship.
Deixar de se apaixonar por ele no momento em que vê que ele está prestes a apaixonar-me por ti.
Sim, admitir para si própria que o homem que pensava ser a sua alma gémea está a tornar-se indiferente para si é incrivelmente difícil, mas acredite em mim, é muito melhor fazê-lo antes que seja tarde demais.
Don’t be desperate, and don’t wait for all of his emotions to fade away. Don’t settle for crumbs, and don’t expect things to go back the way they used to be.
Em vez disso, corra pela sua vida, sem nunca olhar para trás.
Esqueça as culpas e as segundas oportunidades, porque o momento em que este homem deixou de tentar foi o momento em que quebrou a vossa relação de forma irreparável.
