Smettete di innamorarvi se lui smette di provarci

Si dice che il vero amore richieda sforzi e sacrifici. Dovete lottare per la persona che amate ed essere pronti a superare tutti gli ostacoli che la vita vi pone davanti. 

After all, you’ve read all the fairytales. You know how both the Prince and the Princess fight the evil witches and don’t let anyone stand in the way of their romance. 

And I couldn’t agree more: no relationship can become healthy overnight. Instead, it takes a lot of hard work, commitment, devotion, trust, and compromise to make things work. 

Of course, most importantly—it takes a lot of love to build it right. 

However, the truth is that sometimes, love isn’t enough, especially if it’s one-sided.

There is no point if you’re l'unico che ci provaL'unico a spingere in avanti la vostra relazione e l'unico a preoccuparsi del suo futuro.

Remember: every relationship is a two-way street, and all of your efforts are in vain if the other person isn’t ready to move his finger for the sake of your romance.

In this case scenario, you will burn out in a matter of time, while your partner will start taking you for granted and assume that you’ll always be there to prevent your relationship from going downhill. 

Quindi, per favore, capite che lottare per l'amore e inseguirlo sono due cose diverse. Dare il meglio di sé ed essere l'unico a provarci non sono la stessa cosa. 

No, you’re non chiedere troppo just because you want to have a mentally and emotionally present boyfriend who doesn’t consider his job to be done the moment he sees that you’ve fallen for him.

You’re not overdemanding for wanting a man who will spend the rest of his life in attempts to win you over with each day that comes. 

You don’t have too high of a standard for expecting a gentleman who will forever court you—a real man who will never forget your worth and who will consider himself lucky for having a woman like you by his side. 

No, it is not selfish to walk away from someone who stops putting effort around you; leaving a man who obviously couldn’t care less whether you’re around or not is an act of self-care, not a sign of ego-centrism. 

All of this is a lot easier said than done, I know. However, it seems that you keep forgetting that you’re the ruler of your own emotions, not the other way around. 

Yes, you have what it takes to order your heart to stop loving someone who doesn’t deserve it.

Avete la capacità di smettere di dare tutto voi stessi, senza ricevere nulla in cambio.  

Yes, you can—and have to—stop falling in love the moment you see that he isn’t trying to put a smile back on your face anymore or that he doesn’t care whether he is breaking your heart and how his actions are affecting you; the moment you see that this man wouldn’t do anything if you abandon him and that he would never chase you to come back. 

You need to stop falling in love when he stops seducing you and putting effort into reminding you how butterflies feel each day; when he stops paying attention to the little things—when he starts forgetting your birthday or anniversary date, stops noticing that you have a new haircut, and stops caring when he sees that you’re sad. 

It’s time to call it quits the moment you start feeling like his second choice.

The moment he puts everyone and everything in front of you, just because he’s certain that you’re not going anywhere. 

It needs to happen when you see that he doesn’t appreciate you anymore; that he is taking you for granted and stops matching your sacrifices. 

Smettete di innamorarvi quando lui smette di essere pienamente coinvolto. 

Smettete di dare tutta voi stessa nel momento in cui vi rendete conto che questa è diventata una relazione unilaterale; quando iniziate a sentirvi più sole di quanto vi sentireste se foste single e che quest'uomo è solo ufficialmente il vostro partner romantico. 

Smettete di innamorarvi quando questa relazione inizia a portarvi più dolore che felicità; quando vedete che appesantisce i vostri pensieri e che continua a spezzarvi il cuore. 

Back out when you see that it has a negative impact on your emotional and mental health; once you see that you’re losing yourself, in attempts to save the remains of this already failed relationship. 

Smettete di innamorarvi di lui nel momento in cui vedete che sta per disinnamorarsi di te.

Certo, ammettere a se stessi che l'uomo che pensavate fosse la vostra anima gemella vi sta diventando indifferente è incredibilmente difficile, ma credetemi, è molto meglio farlo prima che sia troppo tardi. 

Don’t be desperate, and don’t wait for all of his emotions to fade away. Don’t settle for crumbs, and don’t expect things to go back the way they used to be.

Invece, correte per la vostra vita, senza mai voltarvi indietro.

Dimenticatevi di incolparvi e di dare una seconda possibilità, perché il momento in cui quest'uomo ha smesso di provarci è stato il momento in cui ha spezzato la vostra relazione in modo irreparabile.