Deja de enamorarte si él deja de intentarlo

Dicen que el amor verdadero exige esfuerzo y sacrificios. Hay que luchar por la persona amada y estar dispuesto a superar todos los obstáculos que la vida ponga a tus pies. 

After all, you’ve read all the fairytales. You know how both the Prince and the Princess fight the evil witches and don’t let anyone stand in the way of their romance. 

And I couldn’t agree more: no relationship can become healthy overnight. Instead, it takes a lot of hard work, commitment, devotion, trust, and compromise to make things work. 

Of course, most importantly—it takes a lot of love to build it right. 

However, the truth is that sometimes, love isn’t enough, especially if it’s one-sided.

There is no point if you’re el único que lo intentael único que hace avanzar su relación y el único que se preocupa por su futuro.

Remember: every relationship is a two-way street, and all of your efforts are in vain if the other person isn’t ready to move his finger for the sake of your romance.

In this case scenario, you will burn out in a matter of time, while your partner will start taking you for granted and assume that you’ll always be there to prevent your relationship from going downhill. 

Así que, por favor, entiende que luchar por el amor y perseguirlo son dos cosas distintas. Dar lo mejor de uno mismo y ser el único que lo intenta no es lo mismo. 

No, you’re no pedir demasiado just because you want to have a mentally and emotionally present boyfriend who doesn’t consider his job to be done the moment he sees that you’ve fallen for him.

You’re not overdemanding for wanting a man who will spend the rest of his life in attempts to win you over with each day that comes. 

You don’t have too high of a standard for expecting a gentleman who will forever court you—a real man who will never forget your worth and who will consider himself lucky for having a woman like you by his side. 

No, it is not selfish to walk away from someone who stops putting effort around you; leaving a man who obviously couldn’t care less whether you’re around or not is an act of self-care, not a sign of ego-centrism. 

All of this is a lot easier said than done, I know. However, it seems that you keep forgetting that you’re the ruler of your own emotions, not the other way around. 

Yes, you have what it takes to order your heart to stop loving someone who doesn’t deserve it.

Tienes la capacidad de dejar de dar todo de ti, sin recibir nada a cambio.  

Yes, you can—and have to—stop falling in love the moment you see that he isn’t trying to put a smile back on your face anymore or that he doesn’t care whether he is breaking your heart and how his actions are affecting you; the moment you see that this man wouldn’t do anything if you abandon him and that he would never chase you to come back. 

You need to stop falling in love when he stops seducing you and putting effort into reminding you how butterflies feel each day; when he stops paying attention to the little things—when he starts forgetting your birthday or anniversary date, stops noticing that you have a new haircut, and stops caring when he sees that you’re sad. 

It’s time to call it quits the moment you start feeling like his second choice.

The moment he puts everyone and everything in front of you, just because he’s certain that you’re not going anywhere. 

It needs to happen when you see that he doesn’t appreciate you anymore; that he is taking you for granted and stops matching your sacrifices. 

Deja de enamorarte cuando él deje de estar totalmente implicado. 

Deja de entregarte por completo en el momento en que te des cuenta de que esto se ha convertido en una relación unilateral; cuando empieces a sentirte más sola de lo que te sentirías si estuvieras soltera y ese hombre sólo fuera oficialmente tu pareja sentimental. 

Deja de enamorarte cuando esa relación empiece a traerte más penas que alegrías; cuando veas que agobia tus pensamientos y que te sigue rompiendo el corazón. 

Back out when you see that it has a negative impact on your emotional and mental health; once you see that you’re losing yourself, in attempts to save the remains of this already failed relationship. 

Deja de enamorarte de él en cuanto veas que está a punto de desenamorarme de ti.

Sí, admitir ante ti misma que el hombre que creías tu alma gemela se está volviendo indiferente hacia ti es increíblemente difícil, pero créeme, es mucho mejor hacerlo antes de que sea demasiado tarde. 

Don’t be desperate, and don’t wait for all of his emotions to fade away. Don’t settle for crumbs, and don’t expect things to go back the way they used to be.

En lugar de eso, corre por tu vida, sin mirar atrás.

Olvídate de culparte y olvídate de las segundas oportunidades porque el momento en el que este hombre dejó de intentarlo fue el momento en el que rompió vuestra relación sin remedio.