20 coisas que aprendi depois de parar de o perseguir

1. You can’t catch happiness.

Não podes forçá-lo a bater à tua porta. Acontecerá, mas não quando tu quiseres. Acontecerá quando for a altura certa.

2. Nenhum homem é digno de tanto do teu tempo.

Ele só estava a fazer-me perder tempo e a enganar-me. Ele sabia que não ia acontecer nada entre nós os dois, mas gostava da atenção. Por isso, eu deixou de o perseguir e comecei a dar um pouco mais de valor a mim próprio e ao meu tempo.

3. Waiting for a text for more than an hour means he doesn’t like you.

Se ele gostasse mesmo de si, seria impaciente e teria o telemóvel sempre consigo caso lhe tenhas enviado uma mensagem. He couldn’t wait to hear from you.

Tudo o resto significa que ele não está assim tão interessado.

4. Acabamos sempre por perseguir os errados.

The moment I realized he wasn’t worth chasing or giving him any kind of attention, and I gave up, another man walked into my life.

A man who deserved to be chased but a man who didn’t let me chase him.

Um homem que me perseguiu.

5. Por vezes, uma pessoa tem de ser brutalmente honesta.

That’s the only way to salvar-se de maus relacionamentos e desgostos. You have to be straight about what you like and don’t like.

É preciso ser transparente quanto ao que se pretende.

6. Senti-me indesejada por causa dele.

Ele fez-me sentir assim. De certa forma, rejeitou-me. Nunca disse essas palavras de rejeição, mas o facto de ter ficado calado foi uma rejeição em si mesmo.

So, I felt like shit, I felt undesirable but just because he didn’t like me, that didn’t mean no one else did. I was just blind to see that. I saw only him.

7. Eu queria um amor verdadeiro e ele queria algo para além disso.

Let’s say we weren’t on the same page.

8. Os rapazes jogam jogos, ao contrário dos homens.

Men are honest and mature. Men don’t string you along. Men mean what they say.

9. Quase todas as relações são uma tortura.

You’re always chasing someone who cannot be caught. You’re trying your best, you’re making their wishes come true but there is nothing in it for you.

Acabamos de mãos vazias e magoados.

10. Tu é que mereces ser perseguido.

You’re smart and beautiful, and men should have to fight over you. Don’t let yourself chase anyone, it never ends well.

11. You’ll wonder if there is something wrong with you.

You’ll feel like you’re not good enough because despite your efforts, that person still doesn’t appreciate you.

A bunch of insecurities will come to the surface and a lot of time will have to pass for you to realize that it wasn’t your fault he sent you sinais contraditórios.

12. You’re allowed to plan one or two dates but nothing more.

If you’re the one planning where you’ll go next, it means that you’re the only one trying.

13. Never get up and go to him in the middle of the night, especially if you haven’t heard from him in a few days.

He’s only calling because he needs someone by his side. He needs fun, distraction or whatever. He is not serious about you.

14. Don’t date him if he is not sure about you from the start.

He isn’t going to change his mind. He is going to string you along until something better comes along.

A man in love won’t spend a second longer than he needs in order to be with you.

15. You can’t force someone to date you.

Se gosta dele, tudo bem, mas se o sentimento não for mútuo, o melhor cenário é acabar numa relação unilateral.

16. Não há qualquer significado oculto nas suas palavras.

I know that every time he messages you or sends you something, you’re trying to figure out whether he meant something else.

You’re hoping that his indifference toward you is actually love, in a hidden meaning.

17. You’re going to hate him for making you give him everything and getting nothing in return.

Essa paixão do início transformar-se-á em ressentimento.

18. No matter how attractive he is, don’t fall for him.

He’s picked up so many women like that before you and it always ended up the same. They were all chasing him.

19. Uma coisa é certa, ele nunca vai mudar de ideias.

So if you comfort yourself with the thought that he’ll change, you’re wrong. That is only prolonging your agony.

20. A perseguição nunca acaba bem.

Procure alguém que goste de si tanto quanto você gosta dele. Essa relação tem potencial para ser feliz.