20 cosas que aprendí cuando dejé de perseguirle

1. You can’t catch happiness.

No puedes obligarle a llamar a tu puerta. Ocurrirá, pero no cuando tú quieras. Ocurrirá cuando sea el momento adecuado.

2. Ningún hombre merece tanto de tu tiempo.

Sólo me hacía perder el tiempo y me engañaba. Sabía que no iba a pasar nada entre nosotros, pero le gustaba llamar la atención. Así que yo... dejó de perseguirlo y empecé a valorarme a mí mismo y a mi tiempo un poco más.

3. Waiting for a text for more than an hour means he doesn’t like you.

Si le gustaras de verdad, estaría impaciente y llevaría el teléfono encima sólo en caso de que le enviaras un mensaje. He couldn’t wait to hear from you.

Cualquier otra cosa significa que no está interesado.

4. Siempre acabamos persiguiendo a los equivocados.

The moment I realized he wasn’t worth chasing or giving him any kind of attention, and I gave up, another man walked into my life.

A man who deserved to be chased but a man who didn’t let me chase him.

Un hombre que me perseguía.

5. A veces hay que ser brutalmente honesto.

That’s the only way to sálvate de las malas relaciones y los desengaños amorosos. You have to be straight about what you like and don’t like.

Tienes que ser transparente sobre lo que quieres.

6. Me sentí indeseada por su culpa.

Me hizo sentir así. En cierto modo, me rechazó. Nunca dijo esas palabras de rechazo, pero el hecho de que mantuviera la boca cerrada era un rechazo en sí mismo.

So, I felt like shit, I felt undesirable but just because he didn’t like me, that didn’t mean no one else did. I was just blind to see that. I saw only him.

7. Yo quería amor verdadero y él quería algo aparte.

Let’s say we weren’t on the same page.

8. Los niños juegan, a diferencia de los hombres.

Men are honest and mature. Men don’t string you along. Men mean what they say.

9. Casi las relaciones son una tortura.

You’re always chasing someone who cannot be caught. You’re trying your best, you’re making their wishes come true but there is nothing in it for you.

Acabas con las manos vacías y herido.

10. Tú eres el que merece ser perseguido.

You’re smart and beautiful, and men should have to fight over you. Don’t let yourself chase anyone, it never ends well.

11. You’ll wonder if there is something wrong with you.

You’ll feel like you’re not good enough because despite your efforts, that person still doesn’t appreciate you.

A bunch of insecurities will come to the surface and a lot of time will have to pass for you to realize that it wasn’t your fault he sent you señales contradictorias.

12. You’re allowed to plan one or two dates but nothing more.

If you’re the one planning where you’ll go next, it means that you’re the only one trying.

13. Never get up and go to him in the middle of the night, especially if you haven’t heard from him in a few days.

He’s only calling because he needs someone by his side. He needs fun, distraction or whatever. He is not serious about you.

14. Don’t date him if he is not sure about you from the start.

He isn’t going to change his mind. He is going to string you along until something better comes along.

A man in love won’t spend a second longer than he needs in order to be with you.

15. You can’t force someone to date you.

Te gusta, vale, pero si el sentimiento no es mutuo, en el mejor de los casos acabaréis en una relación unilateral.

16. No hay ningún significado oculto en sus palabras.

I know that every time he messages you or sends you something, you’re trying to figure out whether he meant something else.

You’re hoping that his indifference toward you is actually love, in a hidden meaning.

17. You’re going to hate him for making you give him everything and getting nothing in return.

Ese enamoramiento del principio se convertirá en resentimiento.

18. No matter how attractive he is, don’t fall for him.

He’s picked up so many women like that before you and it always ended up the same. They were all chasing him.

19. Una cosa es segura: nunca cambiará de opinión.

So if you comfort yourself with the thought that he’ll change, you’re wrong. That is only prolonging your agony.

20. La persecución nunca acaba bien.

Busca a alguien a quien le gustes tanto como él a ti. Esa relación tiene potencial para ser feliz.