Você é o alvo de um sociopata? 10 maneiras de descobrir

Normalmente, quando penso num sociopata, vem-me imediatamente à cabeça filmes de terror e programas de televisão sobre assassinos em série. 

But the frightening truth is, you’ve probably encountered a sociopath more than once, without even being aware of it. Freaky, huh?

It’s a scary thought thinking that your next-door neighbor could be a sociopath in disguise or that o teu ex-namorado pode muito bem ter tendências sociopatas graves e que tu não fazias ideia durante todo o tempo em que estiveram juntos.

But it’s perfectly plausible. Sociopaths learn to blend in and go about their lives unnoticed for the most part.

O seu charme é o que os ajuda a enganar-nos tão bem e é isso que realmente me assusta pessoalmente.

Do you think you may have been involved with a sociopath? Or do you perhaps feel like you’re being pursued (romantically) by one right now but are too scared to actually believe it?

If your gut feeling is trying to tell you something, my advice is to listen to it. Don’t wait until it’s demasiado tarde!

Your gut feeling is there for a reason and I’m sure it hasn’t failed you so far.

Aqui estão 10 sinais de que pode muito bem ser o alvo de um sociopata. Não deve de forma alguma ignorar isto.

Leia com atenção e faça o que é melhor para si.

1. Ele consegue facilmente encantar até o público mais difícil

Os sociopatas sabem como usar a lisonja para elogiar as pessoas para o seu maior prazer.

Ele sabe o equilíbrio perfeito para não exagerar, mas ainda assim empurrar a quantidade certa.

You’ve noticed him charm the pants off the most difficult people to impress. And not many can do that.

And this is what’s making you wonder if there’s more to the story than what he’s letting on.

Mas atenção: o charme é apenas um indicador de um sociopata, não é uma certeza. Há mais sinais a procurar.

2. Ele põe de lado os seus sentimentos

Sociopaths don’t care about anyone’s feelings because they lack empathy.

If you express your dissatisfaction with a situation or inform him that he’s causing you sadness, he’s going to disregard it.

He doesn’t care and he most probably won’t try to hide it, unless he’s using it as leverage.

And if you keep pushing him to feel something, he’s going to put all the blame on you for trying to make him appear a certain way.

3. Sometimes you get the feeling he doesn’t even believe the shit he’s saying

The things he’ll tell you and promise you will seem so implausible that you’ll get the feeling he knows it as he’s saying it but he just keeps going at it.

He can lie his ass off, and while he’s convincing for the most part, sometimes you just know he’s not buying his own shit.

4. A mentira faz parte da sua natureza

Ser mentiroso faz parte do pacote de um sociopata.

It can be anything from those little white lies you wouldn’t think twice about to those severe, problematic lies about relevant things.

Apanhou-o muitas vezes a mentir, mas ele tinha sempre a desculpa perfeita, pela qual caía completamente.

Mas agora que pensas nisso, quem é que mente assim tanto e safa-se todas as vezes com tanta facilidade?

5. Nunca se pode ficar zangado com ele

E isso deve-se à sua capacidade de manipulação! Ele sabe sempre o que dizer para o acalmar, para o fazer pensar que exagerou ou para lhe dar outra oportunidade.

He’s perfect at that. And even though you’re aware of it, you just fall for it every time. Staying mad at him is almost impossible.

6. He’s ALWAYS there (you can’t escape him)

You can’t go anywhere without him. He’s somehow always there.

Quer acompanhar-te para onde quer que vás, sob o pretexto de não se fartar de ti.

But it’s become a bit creepy. You can’t shake the feeling he’s somehow observing you, studying you and controlling you.

You want to be able to go somewhere (anywhere!) without him but you can’t and this is causing you major anxiety and fear.

7. He’s flaky and you can’t count on him

Quase nunca faz o que promete. Quase nunca vem quando garante que virá.

There is always a prior engagement he couldn’t say no to. There is always something at work that he just can’t escape.

Mas a verdade é que, he just doesn’t care enough para estar lá para si.

He needs you to be there by his side but when it comes to you, he’ll always make excuses and do as he pleases.

8. He’s always in-between jobs

This man can’t hold on to a job to save his life. Sociopaths are most often unemployed due to getting fired because of their temper.

He can blow up very easily and he doesn’t know how to control himself when that happens.

Sociopaths want everything their way or no way and they don’t respond well to criticism.

É por isso que nunca duram num emprego mais do que algumas semanas. O facto de se inflamarem tão facilmente faz com que seja impossível trabalharem com alguém.

9. You’re always the one to blame

Whatever he messes up, he’ll find a way to pin it on you. If he has trouble with his attitude (which he does), he’ll make you guilty for putting him in that situation.

Whenever you get yelled at, you’ll have had it coming because you’re a bad partner and making him behave this way, when in fact it’s in his nature, as is his need to assign blame.

10. Ele sente-se com direito ao que é seu

Sociopaths don’t care about what’s his and what’s yours.

If he’s dating you or courting you, he feels entitled to your money and possessions. And he’ll have no problem letting you know.

He’ll ask to take your credit card or expect you to pick up the check at a restaurant.

He won’t feel obliged to partake in any expenses and this is the final sign that you are in fact dealing with a legit sociopath.