¿Es usted el objetivo de un sociópata? 10 maneras de averiguarlo

Normalmente, cuando pienso en un sociópata, mi mente se dirige inmediatamente a películas de terror y programas de televisión sobre asesinos en serie. 

But the frightening truth is, you’ve probably encountered a sociopath more than once, without even being aware of it. Freaky, huh?

It’s a scary thought thinking that your next-door neighbor could be a sociopath in disguise or that tu ex-novio podría muy bien tener graves tendencias sociópatas y que tú NO tenías ni idea durante todo el tiempo que estuvisteis juntos.

But it’s perfectly plausible. Sociopaths learn to blend in and go about their lives unnoticed for the most part.

Su encanto es lo que les ayuda a engañarte tan bien y eso es lo que realmente me asusta personalmente.

Do you think you may have been involved with a sociopath? Or do you perhaps feel like you’re being pursued (romantically) by one right now but are too scared to actually believe it?

If your gut feeling is trying to tell you something, my advice is to listen to it. Don’t wait until it’s demasiado tarde!

Your gut feeling is there for a reason and I’m sure it hasn’t failed you so far.

Aquí tienes 10 señales de que puedes ser el blanco de un sociópata. No debes ignorarlas de ninguna manera.

Lee atentamente y haz lo mejor para ti.

1. Es capaz de cautivar al público más duro

Los sociópatas saben utilizar la adulación para halagar a la gente a su mayor placer.

Sabe encontrar el equilibrio perfecto para no exagerar y presionar lo justo.

You’ve noticed him charm the pants off the most difficult people to impress. And not many can do that.

And this is what’s making you wonder if there’s more to the story than what he’s letting on.

Sin embargo, ten cuidado; el encanto sólo es indicativo de un sociópata, no es algo seguro. Hay más signos en los que fijarse.

2. Deja de lado tus sentimientos

Sociopaths don’t care about anyone’s feelings because they lack empathy.

If you express your dissatisfaction with a situation or inform him that he’s causing you sadness, he’s going to disregard it.

He doesn’t care and he most probably won’t try to hide it, unless he’s using it as leverage.

And if you keep pushing him to feel something, he’s going to put all the blame on you for trying to make him appear a certain way.

3. Sometimes you get the feeling he doesn’t even believe the shit he’s saying

The things he’ll tell you and promise you will seem so implausible that you’ll get the feeling he knows it as he’s saying it but he just keeps going at it.

He can lie his ass off, and while he’s convincing for the most part, sometimes you just know he’s not buying his own shit.

4. Mentir está en su naturaleza

Ser un mentiroso viene como parte del paquete con un sociópata.

It can be anything from those little white lies you wouldn’t think twice about to those severe, problematic lies about relevant things.

Le pillaste en una mentira muchas veces, pero siempre tenía la excusa perfecta con la que te tragabas todo.

Pero ahora que lo piensas, ¿quién miente tanto y se sale con la suya cada vez con tanta facilidad?

5. Nunca puedes estar enfadada con él

Y esto se debe a su pericia manipuladora. Siempre sabe qué decir para tranquilizarte, para que pienses que has exagerado o para que le des otra oportunidad.

He’s perfect at that. And even though you’re aware of it, you just fall for it every time. Staying mad at him is almost impossible.

6. He’s ALWAYS there (you can’t escape him)

You can’t go anywhere without him. He’s somehow always there.

Quiere acompañarte allá donde vayas con la excusa de no poder saciarse de ti.

But it’s become a bit creepy. You can’t shake the feeling he’s somehow observing you, studying you and controlling you.

You want to be able to go somewhere (anywhere!) without him but you can’t and this is causing you major anxiety and fear.

7. He’s flaky and you can’t count on him

Casi nunca hace lo que promete. Casi nunca viene cuando te asegura que lo hará.

There is always a prior engagement he couldn’t say no to. There is always something at work that he just can’t escape.

Pero la verdad es, he just doesn’t care enough para estar a tu lado.

He needs you to be there by his side but when it comes to you, he’ll always make excuses and do as he pleases.

8. He’s always in-between jobs

This man can’t hold on to a job to save his life. Sociopaths are most often unemployed due to getting fired because of their temper.

He can blow up very easily and he doesn’t know how to control himself when that happens.

Sociopaths want everything their way or no way and they don’t respond well to criticism.

Por eso nunca duran en un trabajo más de unas pocas semanas. El hecho de que estallen con tanta facilidad les hace imposible trabajar a las órdenes de nadie.

9. You’re always the one to blame

Whatever he messes up, he’ll find a way to pin it on you. If he has trouble with his attitude (which he does), he’ll make you guilty for putting him in that situation.

Whenever you get yelled at, you’ll have had it coming because you’re a bad partner and making him behave this way, when in fact it’s in his nature, as is his need to assign blame.

10. Se siente con derecho a lo que es suyo

Sociopaths don’t care about what’s his and what’s yours.

If he’s dating you or courting you, he feels entitled to your money and possessions. And he’ll have no problem letting you know.

He’ll ask to take your credit card or expect you to pick up the check at a restaurant.

He won’t feel obliged to partake in any expenses and this is the final sign that you are in fact dealing with a legit sociopath.