É por isso que tens de te afastar dele, mesmo que isso te magoe

Quando amar realmente um homem, you follow your heart blindly, and you don’t listen to reason.

You ignore that voice in the back of your head telling you that he doesn’t treat you well and that you deserve much more than what he can give you.

When you love a man, you’re ready to do whatever it takes just to save your relationship and avoid a painful heartbreak. You never want to abandon this guy, even if there are millions of things telling you that this is exactly what you should do.

You don’t want to walk away from him even when he’s the main cause of your misery – even though you’re aware that he’s the only one responsible for all of this pain that’s been eating you alive.

Even if he’s the one making your life a living hell. Even when you know that this man doesn’t deserve you, that your needs aren’t met, that he is wrong for you, and even when his toxicity is threatening to ruin you completely.

You don’t want to leave him alone to fight with his demons, and you continue hoping that you’ll manage to bring him to the light.

You’re willing to sacrifice your self-respect for him. You’re convinced that you’ll manage to save him.

But somehow, this isn’t happening. Instead, you’re the one who is slowly being pulled down into his darkness.

Em vez de o salvar e fazer a sua trabalho de relacionamento, you’re allowing him to destroy your vida própriasem que se dê conta disso.

E é exatamente por isso que é necessário afastar-se Não é possível que o teu amor por este homem seja tão forte como o teu amor por ele. É por isso que precisa de se salvar dele, e a única forma de o fazer é escolher o amor-próprio em vez do amor que tem por ele.

Sim, real o amor precisa de trabalho árduo, and you can’t just leave the moment things get rough.

It takes a lot of patience, effort, and energy for two people to build a healthy relationship, and you shouldn’t give up on your loved one at the first glance of trouble, an unanswered phone call, or ignored text messages.

But love isn’t pain. Because there is nothing romantic in staying next to someone who’s crushing you to pieces with every new day that dawns. Someone who can’falar durante 20 segundos sem dizer apenas mentiras. 

Não há nada de poético na dor devastadora de permitir que um narcisista e um relação tóxica para continuar a partir o teu coração.

Porque amor verdadeiro should never hurt, and it should never bring you more sadness than happiness. It shouldn’t be this difficult, and it definitely shouldn’t make your life harder.

Fazer todos os sacrifícios para o bem da outra pessoa não é prova do seu amor por ela. Perder-se a si próprio e lutando todas as batalhas sozinho aren’t signs of your devotion to your relationship.

Instead, these are signs that you don’t respect and love yourself the way you should.

As a matter of fact, when a man figures out that he’s your whole life, he won’t see you as a high quality woman and, therefore, he’ll never stop tomar-te por garantido. And no matter how much you’ve been fighting for him, you’ll end up running in circles. 

Passar tempo com um homem assim é mais uma maldição do que uma bênção. 

Por isso, por favor, façam o que é correto: acabem com esta agonia. Afastar-se dele e a sério. Esqueça o primeira vez o conheceu, impeça-o de mensagens de texto e salva-te antes que ele te destrua completamente.

Deixá-lo and choose yourself over him before it’s too late. 

And even if your man wants you to stay and begs you not to leave him, don’t fall for his fake, selfish behavior because his only motive is to feed his big ego. The reason why he’s doing it is because he’s the wrong man.

Por isso, em vez de lutar pelo homem errado, passe tempo com os seus melhores amigos, com as pessoas que a amam e, aconteça o que acontecer, nunca deixe de acreditar que deixá-lo foi a coisa certa a fazer.

Em vez de lutar pelo homem errado, concentre-se em amar-se a si própria, em tratar-se com carinho e em esperar pelo verdadeiro homem que merece. 

Life is too short to waste it on men who don’t know how to treat you right, who aren’t ready to make an effort and keep their promises. Life is too short to be cruel to yourself and prevent yourself from experiencing true happiness.

Now, I know that leaving him is easier said than done and I know that you’re scared of stepping into your future without him because you’re convinced that leaving this guy will hurt you more than staying with him.

I know that it’s not easy to start living a new life and end the toxic chapter you spent so much time on.

But I promise you that you’ll end up much happier and healthier once you start focusing on your own happiness and say your despedida final to him. That you’ll feel liberated once you set yourself free from all of his toxicity.

I know that leaving this man is the last thing you want to do and I’m not here to convince you that it’ll be a walk in the park. I just want you to have faith in yourself because you are strong enough to close the doors behind you and never look back.

Strong enough to do what has to be done, even though you don’t think this way now. 

Afinal de contas, afastar-se é a única opção real que tem e a escolha que precisa de fazer se quiser dar a si próprio uma oportunidade de ser feliz.

And I promise you that once the pain goes away, you’ll never regret doing it. Instead, you’ll see it for what it is: the best decision of your life.

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