Eu não sou difícil, tu é que és desrespeitoso

Porque é que é tão fácil rotular uma mulher de difícil quando ela não quer comprometer o respeito, o amor e a confiança?

I guess it’s easier for men to pronounce a woman impossible to deal with than to actually put some effort into meeting her needs.

Yeah, I get why you do that, but I won’t accept it. I’m not willing to forget who I am just so you can tell me how easygoing and cute you find me. Nope.

Sempre que uma rapariga tem respeito por si própria e sabe exatamente o que quer para se sentir amada, cuidada e segura, é misteriosamente apelidada de mulher louca e carente que explora o seu homem.

Are you not used to dealing with a woman who knows she’s good enough and doesn’t question herself just because you decided that you’re the most important person in the relationship?

I guess you’re not.

There was a time when I actually thought that I might be asking for too much from my boyfriend. Luckily, I’ve realized just how little sense that makes.

I’m not asking you to give anything I’m not already giving you.

Só peço que sejamos parceiros, iguais no respeito e no carinho que temos um pelo outro. Quero que o meu esforço seja recíproco.

You chose to ignore my needs so you can fulfill yours and that doesn’t mean I’m being difficult or selfish, it means I’m being desrespeitado.

Sei que estavas à espera que eu fosse suficientemente insegura para te deixar controlar a nossa relação e fazer de ti o rei do meu castelo.

Unfortunately for you, I’m perfectly aware of how much value I have and I demand to be treated with as much respect and love as I treat you.

I’m not okay with you paying attention to me only when you feel like it.

I want to constantly feel like you’re there for me and I’m not assentamento para nada menos do que isso.

That doesn’t mean that I won’t give you time, freedom, or space for your individuality. It doesn’t mean that you have to be at my beck and call 24/7.

It only means that you have to give me the respect that I deserve – the same kind you want me to give you and that I do give happily every day.

I’m tired of being called nagging and demanding just because I have to remind you of the right way for you to show me you love me.

You should know that on your own. You should appreciate that I’m willing to give you time to learn and change.

Parece que, em qualquer situação em que espero que te esforces mais e me mostres o quão carinhoso podes ser, encontras uma forma de me desiludir.

Sure enough, a woman shouldn’t say anything, not even then, unless she wants to be called difficult.

Espera-se que uma boa rapariga se contente com um amor medíocre, uma relação medíocre e uma paixão medíocre, para que possa ter o privilégio de ser rotulada de fácil, descontraída e suave.

Well, guess what? I don’t care what you call me, because what you call me only speaks of who you are and what your shallow expectations of me are.

You don’t get to guilt-trip me into thinking that I should abandon my rights, my needs, and my wants.

Things don’t work that way. If you want to have a woman in your life who’ll give you everything. you need to learn to treat her the way she deserves to be treated.

Em última análise, o que é que quer? Queres ter uma grande mulher na tua vida?

I’m right here. The thing is, you won’t keep me by trying to baixar os meus padrões em vez de simplesmente se esforçar mais na nossa relação.

I won’t have you trying to bring me down just so you can feel better about yourself. You’re not being strong or clever by doing that, you’re just being annoyingly insensitive and demeaning.

I need love, devotion, admiration, and respect and if that’s just too much for you to give, I have a label for you and it says you’re ’a low effort man who doesn’t have what it takes to love me’.

I’ll always keep my head high, no matter how difficult you think that makes me.