Mostre-lhe que é um bom partido

Tem consciência de que pode estar a sabotar as suas próprias hipóteses de encontrar o verdadeiro amor sem sequer o saber?

If you were unlucky in love so far, it’s probably time to change some things.

No, you aren’t doing anything wrong per se, you’re probably being too good. And you know what they say: it’s possible to have too much of a good thing.

É que as coisas que fazemos ditam a forma como um homem nos vê.

For instance, if you’re always at his beck and call, investing too much of your time and effort in him, he’ll start taking you for granted.

Instead of meeting you halfway, he’ll let you do all the work.

And sure it will work for a while, but he’ll lack a challenge and sooner or later get bored. He won’t be able to appreciate your affection or goodness.

That’s why it’s time to turn the tables. No, you don’t need mind games. All you need to do is show him what you are made of. Show him how lucky he is to have someone like you in his life.

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Ser acessível

If you are playing hard to get, distant, and cold, it’s only natural for a man to think he has no chance with you, so he won’t even bother approaching you.

On the other hand, if you give him a hint – a simple cocky smile – it will be a sign for him to make his move.

No entanto, há um senão. Primeiro, construa uma relação consigo próprio. Seja seguro de si e consciente do seu próprio valor.

As coisas são muito mais fáceis para uma mulher confiante que gosta da sua própria companhia, e qualquer homem aproveita a oportunidade para a desfrutar também. Torna-te nessa mulher.

Don’t fall into the availability trap

O que a maioria de nós, mulheres, faz de errado quando se apaixona é tornar-se demasiado disponível. Aproveitamos todas as oportunidades para estar com ele e esquecemo-nos de tudo o resto que temos.

We adjust our lives to accommodate a man. And that’s exactly where everything goes wrong. We send a message that we don’t have a life of our own to live.

Don’t fall into that trap. If you have a girl’s night planned and he calls you out of the blue, say, “Sorry, I have something else planned. See you in a couple days?”

If he doesn’t text you back right away, don’t jump to answer as soon as your phone lights up.

You don’t want him to perceive you as someone who sits and waits for his messages, but as a woman who has a lot going on.

Ele precisa de saber que tem de fazer um esforço para o ver e ouvir.

Don’t be a gift, be an investment

Quando nos apaixonamos, temos o desejo instintivo de dar o nosso melhor ao nosso amado. Por isso, esforçamo-nos por agradar-lhe. Telefonamos, enviamos mensagens, fazemos planos, esforçamo-nos e muito mais.

Dessa forma, estamos a servir-nos numa bandeja de prata. Estamos a dar o nosso coração e a nossa alma como se fosse um presente gratuito.

Essentially, that leads us nowhere. That’s why you should let him invest in you as much as you invest in him, if not more.

Allow him to meet you halfway and learn to receive from him everything you so selflessly give. Trust me, it’ll make him appreciate you more.

Resistir às chamadas nocturnas

No matter how much you like him, and how intoxicatingly attractive you find him, don’t answer his late-night calls.

Don’t settle for hangouts in his place or yours because the only thing you will become is a number on his hookup list.

Se exigir respeito, receberá respeito da parte dele.

I’m not saying you should wait until you get married to sleep with him, just don’t give him boyfriend benefits until he actually is your boyfriend.

There is an unwritten rule that men don’t appreciate things they can easily get. So, whatever you do, don’t be easy.

Don’t forget about the feel-good factor

A lot of us come with a lot of emotional baggage and issues from the relationships past, but that doesn’t mean we should drop them on a new guy we just started seeing.

Seja a luz que o atrai e não a escuridão que o afasta. Viva o momento e deixe o passado de lado.

Keep the topics of your conversation light and fun. Make him feel good about himself when he’s around you.

Be the person he wants to get to know better because you’re so positive and laid back. There will be plenty of time to talk about the big and deep stuff when the time is right.

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Pare de se apressar e alcançará o seu objetivo mais rapidamente

 

Love is not a race. You don’t need to have all the answers right away. You can’t know if he is your forever person based on the few first dates.

Good things take time. Take it one step at a time and get to know each other. Don’t take things too seriously right from the start.

Talvez queiram namorar durante algum tempo e conhecerem-se melhor antes de iniciarem uma relação.

O nce you’re there, there’s plenty of time for bonding and building a world together before the next relationship level. You’ll get there naturally.

So don’t force it. Avoid topics of moving in together, marriage, and kids early on. Let him initiate those topics when he’s ready.

Permita que ele seja um homem, mantendo a sua independência

 

Ser um mulher independente é uma coisa óptima, mas por vezes levamos essa independência longe demais.

O que temos de fazer é estabelecer um equilíbrio entre a nossa independência e a parceria com um homem.

You see, what every man wants is to feel needed. If he doesn’t, then he sees no reason for staying by your side. So what’s wrong with him carrying your grocery bags? Absolutely nothing.

Sure, you can do it yourself, but it’s also great when he’s able to do something nice for you. The same applies to everything else in life.

You don’t need to depend on him for every little thing, but it’s important you let him know you want him in your life. Also, it’s important to motivá-lo a perseguir-te.

Se te perderes a ti próprio, perdê-lo-ás a ele

 

A razão pela qual muitas relações potencialmente excelentes falham é o facto de as mulheres começarem a dar prioridade ao homem que amam e, nesse processo, negligenciarem-se a si próprias.

Esquecem-se dos seus objectivos, aspirações, amigos e da vida em geral, e fazem dele todo o seu universo.

Nesse processo, o seu homem perde o interesse porque uma mulher que já foi interessante e tinha uma vida própria para levar, agora não tem nada para mostrar.

Fight the instinct. You’ll want nothing more than to spend every waking moment with him, but resist the urge. Find the right balance.

Arranje sempre tempo para si e para as pessoas que já faziam parte da sua vida muito antes de ele aparecer. Sonhe, crie e construa uma vida de que se orgulhe.

Torne a sua vida tão fantástica que qualquer homem queira fazer parte dela.