Ele continua a olhar para mim à distância: 14 razões possíveis para isso

Do you know that feeling when you’re not sure whether he’s looking at you from a distance or looking through you? I’m sure all of you, fellow women, have experienced this “phenomenon” at least once in your life.

Depois começa-se a questionar tudo: É um rapaz tímido?? Será que ele gosta de mim? Porque é que ele está a agir desta forma? Uma coisa é certa: “As he keeps looking at me from a distance, I keep going crazy about it.”

Sinceramente, porque é que os homens o fazem? Has looking at someone from a distance become a new method of seducing that we, women, aren’t aware of?

Muito bem, já chega de perguntas por hoje. It’s time to get some answers!

Below you’ll find all the possible reasons why he keeps looking at you from a distance and how you can test whether he’s attracted to you or not.

Ele continua a olhar para mim à distância: 15 razões mais comuns para isso

Quando um rapaz olha para si à distância, isso pode ser bastante desconfortável e confuso. Não se preocupe, aqui estão as razões mais comuns pelas quais os homens fazem isso:

1. Ele tem uma paixoneta por ti

Sim. Em 99,99% dos casos, quando um homem olha para nós, significa que ele gosta de nós. Ponto final. Ok, talvez não nessa percentagem, mas 80% seria razoável.

Sabem como é que eu sei isto? Porque todos nós o fazemos. Os olhares de paixoneta são os olhares mais famosos do mundo (por mais estranho que isso pareça).

When we like someone, we can’t help but look at them, mostly from a distance, because being in close proximity to them would kill us. ?

I know for a fact that I had trouble breathing next to my crush, so it’s no wonder many people choose to stare at their crushes before making a move. Por isso, sim, o facto de ele olhar para ti é uma das sinais de que ele tem uma paixão secreta por ti.

Esta bela citação de esmagamento explains it perfectly: “Quando te vejo, admito que começo a perder o controlo e toda a minha calma.” – Kara Dioguardi & Patrik Jens Berger

2. He likes you, but he thinks you’re out of his league

Sometimes, when a guy looks at you, it’s because he’s attracted to you, but he’s scared that you’re too good for him.

Por outras palavras, ele pensa you’re out of his league, so he doesn’t dare do anything but stare at you from a distance.

What’s happening in his brain is an eternal battle filled with these questions: Should I approach her or not? What if she rejects me? What if…

Se também gostas dele, podes ajudá-lo a avançar sorrindo para ele. Maybe that’s the green light he’s been waiting for to approach you. I’ve tried this, my friends have tried this, and it worked in all cases.

3. He’s trying to get to know you better from a distance

Dizem que uma imagem vale mais do que mil palavras. Apenas observando-a e as pequenas coisas que faz, ele pode aprender um milhão de coisas sobre si.

A sua postura, linguagem corporal, expressões faciais e outras coisas podem dizer-lhe muito sobre a sua personalidade, o seu estado de espírito atual, a sua profissão e outras coisas.

If he has that curious facial expression spiced up with a smile, then you know he’s trying to get to know you better before he’s ready to eventually approach you.

Additionally, when guys are totally mesmerized by you, they can’t help but observe everything you do. O simples facto de o verem a carregar as compras é interessante para eles. Pois é.

4. He’s flirting with you from a safe distance

Sabias que quando um homem olha para ti, isso também pode ser interpretado como um sign he’s flirting with you? Eyes are one of the main flirting tools, so it’s no wonder that staring, in most cases, actually means flirting.

Imagine a girl sitting in a bar and a guy observing her from his corner and giving her those flirty looks. We all know what happens next. If she’s interested, she smiles at him, and he plucks up the courage to approach her.

If she’s not interested, she looks away, and he stops staring at her. In some cases, guys don’t stop staring at you because they think you’re just jogar duro para conseguir.

How will you know that he’s flirting with you?

Trust me, you’ll know. When a guy is interested in you, he exhibits positive body language. Literalmente, a sua alma sorri só de a ver. Isso soou muito poético, certo? ?

5. He’s waiting for you to make the first move

Do you think him staring at you because he’s waiting for you to make the first move is a valid reason? I don’t know about you, but I, as a woman, don’t have a problem approaching guys first if I like them.

É claro que, antes de o fazer, esperaria primeiro por alguns sinais subtis de que gosta de mim também. Estes sinais subtis incluem o facto de ele sorrir e olhar para mim.

Also, if I notice that he’s a little bit shy, I immediately enter “chase him” mode, but that’s just me. I’m not saying that this method is 100% flawless, but it works.

However, it doesn’t work if a guy who is staring at you is a legit fobia de compromissos who doesn’t know what he wants. In that case, I don’t recommend making the first move but letting him do all the work (if he wants to).

6. He’s a shy guy (self-explanatory)

Ele olha para si e quando você olha para ele, ele desvia o olhar? Este é um sinal claro de que he’s a shy guy (provavelmente um introvertido também). Uma pessoa tímida passa muito tempo a observar alguém de quem gosta a partir de uma distância segura.

Contacto visual prolongado is out of the question. When they’re caught staring, they immediately redirect their focus elsewhere. (That’s how you know they’re shy.)

The truth is some women misinterpret the signs of a shy guy. When he looks away, they think he’s not interested and that he’s probably playing with them.

If you notice that he’s reserved around others and is not that talkative, then you can be sure he’s a legit shy guy, and no, he’s not playing with you.

He’s just waiting for you to confirm that you like him. So, will you? You can do so by staring at him as well but without looking away when he looks at you.

7. He’s intimidated by you

When a guy is intimidated by you, it could be that he has low self-esteem or thinks you’re out of his league. All in all, there is something about you that makes him think that he’s not good enough for you.

Pensar em aproximar-se de si causa-lhe ansiedade porque ele gosta de si mas tem medo de ser rejeitado ou de que se riram. So, what’s the only thing left for him to do? Stare at you, of course! ?

If a guy is intimidated by you, chances are he won’t reach out to you. The best thing about this is that you don’t need guys who are intimidated by you in your life.

They will always seek validation from you, and it will be impossible to establish a meaningful connection with them because of their assumption that you’re too good for them.

If he’s intimidated by you, just let him stare until he finds the courage to make a move. To do that, he’ll have to work on himself to become “worthy of being with you.”

8. He’s actually looking through you

Sometimes, guys aren’t actually looking at you from a distance but looking through you. It means that he’s thinking about a third thing that isn’t connected with you. It just happened that you were there in his proximity during his “mental session.”

Maybe he’s thinking about his girlfriend, his job, what he’s going to eat, you name it. It could be anything, and it definitely doesn’t matter.

What matters is that he’s looking through you because he’s lost in thought. To know for sure that this is the case, just pay attention to his facial expression and eyes.

Does he look absent, and are his eyes not actually directed at you specifically but focused on one point? If yes, then you know he’s looking through you.

9. Ele confundiu-te com outra pessoa

He keeps looking at me from a distance. Hmm… Well, how do you know that he hasn’t mistaken you for someone else? Here’s how I know.

When a guy mistakes you for someone else, he’ll look at you for a while until his brain tells him that you’re the wrong person. Then he’ll laugh at himself and his bad evaluation.

Just wait for the laughing part, and you’ll know whether he mistook you for someone else or not. Also, sometimes guys decide to tell you that they mistook you for someone close to them.

Se quer que ele se aproxime de si, sugiro que também o olhe fixamente, o que o deixará pouco à vontade. He’ll feel kind of obliged to let you know why he was staring at you in the first place.

Keep in mind that sometimes guys do this on purpose. It’s one of the approach tactics they use when they’re not sure whether you like them or not.

Dir-lhe-ão que o confundiram com outra pessoa e depois convidam-no para sair ou pedem-lhe o seu nome para o seguirem nas redes sociais.

10. He’s a legit creep

If you’ve watched that popular TV show “You,” then you know what I’m talking about. Okay, we won’t go to such lengths to say that he could be a murderer, but you never know.

Os cretinos estão por todo o lado. Quando alguém nos olha de longe (ou olha para o seu corpo), it could be that he’s just another rastejar que o segue durante dias e recolhe informações sobre si.

He wants to know everything about your life, so staring at you while you’re doing even the most mundane chores will work for him.
Os creeps podem estar na sua vizinhança, no trabalho, com estranhos e até com os seus ex. (A categoria "ex" é definitivamente um tópico em si).

11. He’s playing mind games

Now you’re probably wondering: How is he trying to take control of me from a distance? Well, it’s possible.

Sabe aquele jogo em que duas pessoas se olham em silêncio e o perdedor é aquele que começa a rir de repente?

O mesmo se aplica a contacto visual. Some men see it as a game where they try to control you. So, he’ll keep staring at you on purpose only to make you feel uncomfortable.

If you can’t maintain eye contact with him and feel nervous, he’ll think that he’s won. Why would he do that, right? Some men enjoy playing mind games, and yes, they enjoy feeling like winners.

12. He’s trying to exhibit his dominant side

Há homens (e também mulheres) que gostam de ser dominantes em todos os sentidos do termo. Por isso, aproveitam todas as oportunidades para mostrar o seu lado dominante.

Quando se trata de homens, fazem-no principalmente para impressionar uma mulher e atraí-la. So, he keeps looking at you from a distance because he’s deeply attracted to you.

Ele quer arrebatá-la, mostrando a sua masculino, dominant side. Also, by doing this, he’s letting you know that he’s a confident guy.

Let’s be honest. There isn’t a single woman in the world who doesn’t fall for confident men. Their vibe is utterly contagious regardless of whether they’re next to you or looking at you from a distance.

13. He’s your ex who still has feelings for you

Ele continua a olhar para mim à distância. Espera, o homem que está a olhar para ti à distância é mesmo o teu ex?

If yes, then chances are he still hasn’t moved on and has feelings for you. Also, it could be that he’s trying to figure out whether you’re happy without him.

He’s doing this from a safe distance because he doesn’t want you to notice that he’s staring at you. Remember one thing: Quando um homem descobre que a sua ex está a sair-se bem sem ele, quer que ela volte.

It’s like he’s trying to regain his self-confidence and self-worth by winning you over again. If o teu ex ainda sente algo por ti, it’s up to you to decide whether this is a good sign or not-so-good.

14. He’s TOO confident and self-absorbed

Last but not least. The reason why a guy keeps staring at you is that sometimes he’s overly confident and self-absorbed. He’s not really interested in you, but he’s only interested in showing off his egocentric side.

Truth be told, he probably isn’t even aware of what exactly he’s doing. If you ask me, such men aren’t really confident. I call it fake confidence.

When you feel the constant urge to show off in front of others, it means that you aren’t really confident. By doing this, he’s actually trying to boost his self-esteem.

DICA PRO: Run away from men who are too confident and self-absorbed. It’s not your job to save them.

Mais coisas a considerar quando um homem está a olhar para ti à distância

Quando um rapaz está a olhar para si à distância, há muitos outros factores que deve ter em conta, como por exemplo

A sua linguagem corporal.

- Contacto visual: Preste atenção à frequência com que ele olha para si e durante quanto tempo. Se durar mais do que alguns segundos, é um sinal claro de interesse.

The eyes never lie. Also, if you happen to be near him, pay attention to his pupils. If they are dilated, then you know for sure that he’s attracted to you. Needless to say, quando um homem evita o contacto visual, it usually means he’s not interested (unless he’s shy).

- Expressão facial: Does his face tell you that he’s lost, anxious, or just happy to look at you from a distance? Pay attention to his facial expression, and you’ll discover his true intentions. If he looks confused, chances are that he’s anxious about making a move, or he’s mistaken you for someone else.

- A sua posição: A psicologia da linguagem corporal claims that we subconsciously point our feet to the object of our attention (or affection). If his feet are pointed toward you, then you know he’s thinking about you. However, if his feet are pointed somewhere else, then he’s also there mentally.

- Os seus braços: If his arms are crossed, this suggests defensive, self-protective mode. Maybe he’s worried about being rejected by you if he decides to make a move. If his hands are on his hips, it means he’s in control and ready to pursue you.

A sua relação atual com ele (se o conhecer).

Is this the first time you’ve ever seen him? Is he your ex? Is he someone you know or a complete stranger? Your current relationship with him can help you determine his intentions.

If he’s your ex, chances are he’s interested in what’s going on in your life, and perhaps he secretly wants to get back together with you. If he’s a complete stranger, you probably caught his attention, and now he’s thinking of ways to approach you.

If he’s someone you know, then this is a great thing because you can teasingly ask him why he stared at you that day. I suggest doing this via text because it’s less painful.

“Staring location.”

Location also plays a great part in interpreting their intentions. If a guy stares at you at a bar or in a pub, then you can be sure he’s subtly flirting with you.

Neste caso, pode esperar que ele dê um passo em frente ou pode ser você a iniciar a conversa (partindo do princípio que gosta dele).

If he’s staring at you in church, the workplace, or similar, then you should think twice before staring back at him. In such instances, reciprocating is not recommended because of the not-so-appropriate setting.

Ele está sozinho ou com alguém?

Ele está sempre a olhar para mim à distância. Mas espera, ele está sozinho, com os colegas de trabalho, ou com os seus melhores amigos? Ou está com a namorada?

If he’s with his friends, then pay attention to whether they’re teasing him. If yes, chances are they know he’s into you, and now they’re mocking him for staring at you.

If he’s with his girlfriend, then be the better person and don’t stare back. If he doesn’t respect her, there’s no need for you to approve of his behavior.

If he’s alone, then yes, he’s probably an macho alfa à espera do momento certo para fazer uma jogada. Bem, pode acelerar tudo isto dando-lhe um sorriso de sedução.

O teste do espelho: ele sente-se atraído por si ou não?

I’m sure the biggest dilemma for every woman when it comes to this is: Is he staring at me because he’s attracted to me, or is there something else at play?

Here’s how you can know what exactly is going on here. I’m talking about a quick test called “mirroring your actions.”

Simply put, when we’re attracted and connected to someone, we tend to mirror their actions/gestures. For example, if I touch my ear, forehead, or hair while talking to a guy, chances are he’ll do the same if he’s connected/attracted to me.

This happens on a subconscious level, which means we’re not aware of doing it. So, I suggest you do the same when he’s looking at you from a distance.

Touch your hair, place your hand somewhere, or do anything else only to see if he’ll do the same thing. If he does, then he’s mirroring your actions because he’s totally focused on you, which is one of the sinais mais verdadeiros de atração.

Reflexões finais

A questão é Ele continua a olhar para mim à distância still bothering you? There’s no need for you to overthink it. I’m sure the reason he’s staring at you is one of the common ones explained above.

All in all, you shouldn’t worry much about it but pay attention to a sua linguagem corporalO que é que se pode fazer? Fazer um teste rápido e esperar. In most cases, he’ll either approach you or keep staring at you.

Don’t shy away from making the first move (especially if he’s a shy guy). Men love when a woman takes the initiative because it shows that you ooze confidence.

After all, you’ve got nothing to lose. Better to approach first than to overthink. (I like this one. ?)