Prefira sempre perder um homem a perder a cabeça

I’ll be honest with you here: Love is important. Whether someone likes to admit this or not, it’s nice having a man whom you care for and who cares for you back.

It won’t magically put your life in perfect order, but a healthy romantic relationship will make you happier – there is no doubt about that.

No entanto, sabes o que é ainda mais importante? A relação que tens contigo mesmo.

Esta é a relação que simplesmente tem de ser saudável, bem sucedida e gratificante se quisermos sequer pensar em romance.

Então, porque é que continua a pôr o seu homem à frente de si própria e durante quanto tempo tenciona continuar a fazê-lo?

Sei que te consideras duro. You’re strong and, at first glance, it appears that you’re handling this awful situation you got yourself dragged into surprisingly well.

De alguma forma, consegue-se lidar com todas as separações e reconciliações.

You keep your head above the surface despite all the insults, arguments, and toxicity. But let’s be real.

You can’t go on like this forever. Sooner or later, you’ll see the damage all of this is leaving on you and you’ll start feeling the consequences of this hell you’re going through.

So, ask yourself if it’s really worth it. Vale a pena perder a cabeça com um homem?

You see, there will be plenty of men in your life, even though you probably don’t think that way now.

Mais cedo ou mais tarde, vai esquecer esse homem e começar a amar alguém novo com a mesma intensidade com que o amava.

No entanto, nunca se pode substituir a si próprio. Time will do its trick and heal your broken heart. Sooner or later, you’ll stop missing this guy.

But you can’t find a new woman to live your life, once you lose yourself.

Prometo-vos uma coisa: You can make it without anyone, including this guy. But you can’t make it without yourself.

Lembre-se que you don’t need him – you chose to give him a place in your heart – but you do need yourself.

Sobreviverá mesmo que o deixe ir, mesmo que as coisas não pareçam assim neste momento.

Sei que neste momento queres manter este homem ao teu lado.

You’re ready to do whatever it takes just for him to remain in your life.

No entanto, em vez de fazer isso, para variar, concentre-se em manter-se são. Concentre-se em preservar a sua saúde mental e emocional.

Concentre-se em fazer-se feliz e veja a sua paz interior como a prioridade número um.

Por favor, ser suficientemente inteligente para escolher perder um homem em vez de perder a cabeça.

Trust me, nobody – and especially not someone who doesn’t appreciate you – is worth you going crazy over him.

É exatamente assim que as coisas vão continuar se ficarem presas neste círculo sem fim.

That’s what will happen if you stay in this toxic relationship, full of emotional abuse, gaslighting, and constant fights.

Tu sabes, if it happens, he won’t stick around to help you.

He won’t be there to give you a hand or pull you out of your darkness.

He won’t put an effort into fixing your heart, even though he’s the one who broke it.

He won’t be there to glue you back together, even though he’s the one who crushed you.

He won’t have your back to catch you when you start falling.

He won’t stand by your side to help you heal, even though he is the one who destroyed you.

He won’t be there to bring you back to life, even though he’s the one who spiritually killed you.

Before you know it, this man will be gone and you’ll be left all alone to fight with your demons and traumas.

You won’t just lose precious years of your life, you’ll also have to deal with depression, insecurities, and anxiety, which is much worse.

Sooner than you might think, you’ll look around and see that the girl you used to be is nowhere to be found.

She’ll be replaced by a negative and bitter woman who’ll need ages to fully recover from everything she’s been through.

Por favor, salvar a si próprio on time. Ditch his sorry ass and pull yourself out of this misery before it’s too late to be sorry.