Lembre-se: está a ensinar aos homens como a tratar

Desde que te lembras, tiveste alguns relacionamentos maus, para dizer o mínimo.

De factoNa maioria dos seus romances, existe um padrão contínuo, pelo que se pode dizer que a história se repete quando se trata de si.

You don’t pick guys who are douchebags at first sight. You don’t go after actores. Pelo contrário, a maior parte dos seus ex-namorados pareciam ser simpáticos no início.

Enquanto o cortejavam, fizeram-lhe um monte de promessas e considerou-se sortudo por os ter encontrado.

No entanto, à medida que cada relação avançava, as coisas começaram lentamente a mudar. Estes homens simpáticos transformaram-se em monstros.

A pior parte é que te trataram ainda pior no momento em que lhes mostraste o teu lado vulnerável. Quanto mais os amávamos, mais idiotas eles se tornavam.

Então, qual foi o problema? Bem, o facto é que provavelmente começou com o pé errado.

É que cada um destes homens conseguiu encantá-la de tal forma que se esqueceu de estabelecer algumas regras básicas. De facto, parece que nos esquecemos completamente dos nossos "quebra-galhos" quando nos apaixonamos.

I get your point of view. You think that compromise is everything and you don’t want to ask for too much from the man you care about.

Afinal de contas, se o amor é verdadeiro, não há necessidade de jogar. Não tem problemas em admitir as suas emoções ao seu parceiro, nem exige dele o impossível.

Bem, infelizmente para si, A maioria dos homens vê este comportamento como uma oportunidade para a magoar. Começam a tomá-la por garantida e deixam de se esforçar na vossa relação.

Don’t misunderstand me; I’m not advising you to become hard to get. I’m not telling you to suddenly become a bitch just to get your boyfriend’s attention.

However, don’t lower your standards for him either. Don’t settle for the things that shouldn’t be acceptable just because you love him.

Remember one thing: you’re training men how to treat you. 

Every time you put your man’s needs in front of your own, without expecting him to return the favor when you are in need, you’re showing him that you don’t matter.

You’re indirectly telling him that he is more important than you and that you’re perfectly okay with your well-being coming last.

Every time he insults you and you keep quiet, you’re telling him that you don’t mind his behavior. You’re showing him that you really do believe him that you’re not good enough.

Every time he cancels plans without you saying anything about it, you show him that your time isn’t valuable. You’re actually telling him that you can put your life on hold and wait until he has the decency to see you.

Every time you double or triple text him, despite him not answering your messages for hours without a valid reason, you’re telling him that he has your undivided attention, no matter what.

You’re showing him that he doesn’t have to lift a finger to win it and that he doesn’t have to fight for your love. You’re indirectly saying that you’re not going anywhere, despite his treatment.

Every time you catch him flirting with other girls but stay by his side, you’re showing him that you wouldn’t have a problem sharing him with someone else. You’re telling him that you would even accept his infidelity.

The list can go on forever but I’m sure you see where I’m going. It’s up to you how you will set rules in your relationship and your partner will just follow your example.

Whenever you accept this man’s lack of respect, you’re showing him that you don’t respect yourself either.

Whenever you settle for crumbs of his love and attention, you’re telling him that even you think you don’t deserve more. 

Whenever you complain about him not treating you right but don’t actually do anything about it, you’re applauding him for his behavior. 

Sempre que lhe deres um segunda oportunidade for something he shouldn’t have done, you’re showing him that your capacity to forgive is endless.

Whenever you tolerate your boyfriend’s misbehavior, you’re giving him the green light to keep up the good work. 

You’re telling him that everything he does is perfectly acceptable and that you don’t have a problem with his actions.