25 maneiras de ser gentil consigo mesmo e por que isso é importante

“Be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars. In the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.” ― Max Ehrmann

As pessoas dizem que devemos tratar os outros como queremos ser tratados, mas eu digo que deve ser vice-versa.

Deves tratar-te a ti próprio da mesma forma que queres que os outros te tratem.

In other words, be gentle with yourself because that’s how you teach people how they should treat you.

Uma pergunta que todos nós nos devemos fazer é, continuaríamos a conviver com os nossos amigos se eles nos tratassem da mesma forma que nos tratamos a nós próprios?

Tens orgulho na forma como te tratas a ti próprio? És sempre a tua prioridade?

If you aren’t, you should definitely change that because it is vital for your own well-being.

Estamos tão ocupados com o nosso trabalho, as nossas carreiras e o nosso crescimento pessoal que, de alguma forma, nos esquecemos de cuidar de nós próprios.

O facto é que nos preocupamos mais com os outros do que com nós próprios.

To clarify, I don’t think that worrying about other people’s well-being is a bad thing, but we should make ourselves a priority.

Tens de ser mais brando contigo mesmo. Deves isso a ti próprio.

Procure alguns conselhos em livros de autoajuda e comece a tratar-se com mais delicadeza e gentileza.

Como ser gentil consigo próprio

Agora que sabe a importância de ser gentil consigo próprio, podemos ver algumas formas muito fáceis de o fazer.

Always be honest with yourself…

Por mais difícil que a vida se torne (e vai tornar-se de certeza), temos sempre de ser honestos connosco próprios.

Lying to yourself isn’t allowed – even white and consoling lies are forbidden.

Há uma solução para todos os problemas, há uma saída para todas as situações, por mais difíceis que sejam.

Só tem de ser sincero consigo próprio e começar a procurar a melhor solução.

Aceitar a vida como ela realmente é. Aceitar a realidade. Se cometer um erro ou fizer algo errado, admita-o, tente corrigi-lo e siga em frente.

It’s the only recipe for living a fulfilled life.

…but also, always speak kindly to yourself

So what if you’ve made a mistake? So what if you gave someone another chance even if you knew they didn’t deserve it.

It’s not a reason for you to be angry or hard on yourself. Be gentle on yourself.

We all make mistakes and do things we aren’t proud of sometimes, you aren’t the only one, trust me.

We all have our inner critics but don’t allow them to be louder than you. If you do, it’s going to have a negative impact on your self-esteem.

Partilhe os seus sentimentos com os seus entes queridos

Se algo o incomoda, deve sentir-se à vontade para o partilhar com o seu melhor amigo ou com o seu parceiro.

They’ll listen to you and give you the best advice.

You don’t have to manage all your emotions by yourself.

I know we all get overwhelmed sometimes and we start thinking about how we can’t take it anymore.

Well, in those moments, feel free to talk it over with your loved ones. It’ll help you feel better instantly.

Deixar de pôr os outros à frente de si próprio

It’s nice to worry about your loved ones, take care of them, and help them whenever you can.

However, that shouldn’t be a reason for you to neglect your own needs.

É necessário ponha-se em primeiro lugar and take care of your own needs. It’s not selfish, it’s normal. You’ll see how it benefits your self-image.

By putting yourself first, you’ll come to the conclusion that some people don’t even deserve to have any place in your life.

You’ll realize that after all, you are the most important character in your life.

Praticar o autocuidado

Listen to your body, it’ll always say what it needs.

Por muito ocupada que seja a sua agenda semanal, tem sempre de arranjar tempo para o autocuidado.

Both your body and your soul need it. It’s connected with your physical and mental health. And the best part is that it’s so easy.

Só precisa de arranjar tempo para isso. Tão fácil mas, ao mesmo tempo, tão benéfico.

Mime-se de vez em quando

You definitely deserve it. Go shopping or order something online for yourself. Go buy that bag you’ve had your eye on for two months now.

Depois de todo o seu trabalho árduo, precisa de se mimar.

It doesn’t even have to be a piece of clothing or jewelry – you can travel somewhere or spend the day at a spa.

Trabalhar a sua autoestima

A sua autoestima é muito influenciada pela sua autoimagem e vice-versa.

Tem de trabalhar em ambos se quiser tornar-se mais confiante e mostrar às pessoas que está feliz consigo próprio.

It’s essential for your personal growth, success, and dating life. There are so many ways to raise your self-esteem.

Deve concentrar-se nas coisas que mais gosta em si e em algumas das suas capacidades de que se orgulha.

Nobody’s perfect and you should always remember this.

Cuide da sua saúde mental

If you’re too hard on yourself, you’ll feel depressed and uncertain.

If you set some high expectations for yourself and you’re unable to fulfill them, you’ll feel like you’ve failed and it’ll leave some consequences on your mental health.

A sua saúde mental é mais importante do que o seu emprego, a sua carreira ou qualquer outra coisa.

The connection between your mind and your body is so strong and that’s why you should take equal care of both.

Praticar a auto-compaixão

Isto está relacionado com o autocuidado e com o facto de sermos gentis connosco próprios.

É preciso ter uma compreensão de si próprio, das suas acções e dos seus sentimentos.

You can do something you later realize was wrong for you, but still, you shouldn’t judge yourself. Accept it as your mistake and move on.

Of course, you should always work on yourself to be a better person, but you have to accept that you’ll make some mistakes on the way.

Ouvir mais a sua voz interior

If all the people around you say that something is wrong for you and that you shouldn’t do it but your gut doesn’t really agree with it, you should listen to that inner voice.

Maybe sometimes it’ll lead you in the wrong direction but at least you’ll know that it was your own mistake and it’ll be easier for you to accept it.

I’m sure you’ve heard a million times that deve seguir o seu coração.

Well, that’s not just some ordinary saying. It’s a truth and you should believe in it and deixa-te guiar pelo teu coração.

Ser sempre otimista e pensar positivo

My personal motto is “think positive and positive things will happen.”

It’s really helped me a lot because I know how important hope is and hope is actually something that helps me get through all of life’s misfortunes.

Surround yourself with people who also have an optimistic perspective of life. Don’t allow anyone’s mood to affect yours.

Worrying about the future won’t do you any good because you can’t change it. You can affect it but you certainly can’t change it.

It’s okay to feel tired sometimes

É mesmo assim. Por vezes, estamos todos cansados e precisamos de descansar. Tire uns dias de folga do trabalho e vá a algum lado.

Visit a place you’ve always wanted to. Recarregar as baterias antes de voltar à sua vida quotidiana.

Faça coisas que normalmente o ajudam a relaxar. Dormir o suficiente. Faça as sestas que achar necessárias.

Desligue o telemóvel e leia alguns livros. Por mais que precisa de descansar o corpo, é preciso descansar também a mente e a alma.

Don’t take work stress home

Deixe o seu trabalho no escritório.

You have your working hours and that’s the only time you should be working and thinking about things from work.

Se trouxer o stress do trabalho para casa, isso pode afetar também as pessoas que o rodeiam.

You’ll be nervous and tense and it can so easily provoke a fight between you and your partner or a family member.

Reserve tempo para fazer as coisas que mais gosta de fazer

Quais são as coisas que mais gosta de fazer? Bem, devias fazer mais vezes as coisas que te fazem feliz.

Faça uma lista. Escreva todas as coisas que o fazem feliz. Depois, coloque-as no seu horário. Faça pelo menos uma por dia.

Things or people who make your heartbeat a little faster are all that’s important.

Start with some simple things and you’ll soon feel the benefits.

Don’t be your own worst critic

It’s good to set some goals and dreams for yourself but you don’t have to criticize yourself if you aren’t able to achieve every one of them.

Don’t be too hard on yourself because you’re only a human being. You aren’t perfect just as I’m not, just as no one is.

Learn from your mistakes and motivate yourself to be better the next time. Be proud of yourself and everything you’ve achieved so far in your life.

Aprender a perdoar-se a si próprio

Esteja sempre pronto a perdoar-se a si próprio.

You fell in love with the wrong person, you trusted someone easily and they betrayed you, you gave another chance to someone who didn’t deserve it and they didn’t know how to appreciate it…

Sim, são todos erros, mas são seus e deve ser capaz de se perdoar. Faz desses erros as tuas lições.

Learn something from them and don’t allow yourself to repeat any of them.

Desligue-se de toda a negatividade à sua volta

Don’t hang out with people who only share negative vibes. I mean, I know you can’t stop hanging out with them, but try to avoid them.

Infelizmente, há muitas pessoas tóxicas que têm inveja das pessoas que as rodeiam.

Essas pessoas drenam a energia dos outros e deve tentar conviver com elas o menos possível.

Se algumas dessas pessoas forem seus entes queridos, deve falar com eles sobre o assunto.

Warn them about the negative and bad vibes that they’re sending out to the rest of the world and tell them how they could end up alone if they don’t change.

Aproveite o seu tempo sozinho

Estar sozinho doesn’t have to mean that you’re lonely.

Significa simplesmente que tem algum tempo para si e que encontrou uma forma de o aproveitar e passar da melhor maneira possível.

Tome um banho ou organize uma festa de dança privada na sua sala de estar. Faça o que o faz feliz e o que o entretém.

When you have more obligations in life, you’ll miss those times, trust me. Being alone is also a great way to practice self-love.

Tomar uma desintoxicação das redes sociais

Sometimes, social media is so toxic for us that we aren’t even aware of it. We should all take a social media detox from time to time.

Volte à sua vida real e dedique-se mais a ela.

You don’t always have to compete with your friends about who has posted a better photo or who has more likes and comments.

Real-life is something completely different. Go hang out with your friends, walk more, enjoy nature – camping is also a great idea.

Whatever, just don’t be obsessed with your virtual life anymore.

Don’t allow other people to control your life

You should never – NEVER – allow anyone to control you and your life. You’re the only one who has the right to do that.

Todos os conselhos são bem-vindos.

If a dear friend of yours wants to tell you something or give you advice about something, you should listen to them but you don’t have to take their advice if you don’t agree with it.

Understand that you can’t always please everyone

Please, don’t ever be a people pleaser. I think that’s the most irritating trait a person can have.

Além disso, por muito que se tente, nunca se pode agradar a toda a gente.

People are so strange. They set some unrealistic expectations for you and then they get disappointed when you don’t meet them.

You shouldn’t worry about this, nor should you worry about the opinions that other people have of you.

A única coisa importante é o que queremos e devemos tentar agradar-nos sempre.

You don’t have control over some things and you should stop worrying about it

Há coisas que simplesmente não podemos controlar e que devemos deixar passar. Aceite-as como são e espere sempre o melhor.

If you can’t affect something, if you can’t change it, then why should you worry about it?

It’s not worth sacrificing your mood and mental health over.

Descontrair e deixar andar. Esteja pronto a aceitar as consequências, por muito más que sejam.

What’s meant to happen will always happen no matter how much you try to stop it.

Passar tempo com crianças pequenas ajuda sempre

Their giggles, the way they pronounce some words… It’s all so cute and it’s something that really can make everyone smile.

Small children are so naive, pure, kind, and well-meaning. You feel like you just don’t have to think about anything when you hang out with them.

Even though most of us aren’t aware of it, we can learn so many things from them.

Por exemplo, podemos aprender que vale sempre a pena sermos honestos e que o nosso sorriso também pode fazer os outros felizes.

Devia mesmo experimentar a meditação

Why not? Give me one good reason why you think that meditation won’t help you?

Everyone that’s tried it will tell you how it made them more relaxed.

Try to learn how to do it properly and if the Internet can’t help you, you can always find a group of people and meditate with them.

Take a deep breath and begin. I’m sure it will help you to feel more relaxed and to understand yourself better.

Apaixone-se pela sua vida

Life is really beautiful, but it’s also short and you should enjoy every moment of it.

É preciso encontrar coisas e pessoas que nos façam felizes e mantermo-nos fiéis a elas.

É também necessário dedicar algum tempo ao auto-aperfeiçoamento.

You should always try to see the best in people but you should never expect them to be the same with you as you’re with them.

Ao longo do caminho, se tiveres a oportunidade de um amor verdadeiro, deves aproveitá-la. A coisa mais bonita deste mundo é o amor verdadeiro.

All in all…

I hope you’ve understood the importance of being gentle with yourself. It’s very sad and strange that most of us still aren’t aware of it.

It’s no wonder that many people feel burned out and emotionally drained these days.

Most of us aren’t even aware of it and therefore don’t look for advice on how to help ourselves.

Start changing the way you treat yourself and you’ll see how your whole life will change for the better immediately.

When you do that, you’ll realize how badly you’ve been treating yourself and that you need to apologize to yourself right away.

Remember and always keep in mind the quote from Paulo Coelho that goes like this: “Seja gentil consigo mesmo. Está a fazer o melhor que pode.”