Sente-se derrotado e perdido? Estas 10 coisas vão ajudá-lo a lidar com isso

Feeling defeated is something we’re all familiar with, no matter how much we try to deny it.

If at this very moment you’re struggling with pensamentos negativos e sente que o seu saúde mental is severely hit, know that you’re not alone.

Isto é algo com que me debato muitas vezes.  Um tempo há algum tempo, comecei a aperceber-me de que o mundo me quer apanhar.

Now, I know this isn’t really the case, but it genuinely feels that way sometimes.

Coisas que deveriam ser boas e ajudar-me na vida acabam por ser grandes desilusões.

As pessoas dizem-me sempre que passará e que trabalho árduo is the key to happiness. But honestly, there’s so much more to it than that.

You can’t control life’s circumstances. You can’t control feeling strong desânimo no dia a dia e perder de vista quem és.

Pode escolher a forma como deixa que as suas dificuldades o afectem, mas de uma forma que lhe permita viver a sua dor para encontrar a melhor maneira de a ultrapassar.

It’s okay to feel anxious, perplexed, and lost. Sentir-se derrotado não é motivo de vergonha.

I want to create a new narrative where people stop thinking they know what you’re going through when they have no clue.

Quero que toda a gente pare de citar Oprah every time I’m going through the motions.

Life sucks sometimes, so let me go through my stuff and don’t make me feel bad about it. And I’m pretty sure I’m not alone in feeling this way.

Membros da família e melhores amigos são sempre uma boa escolha para quando o mundo nos esmaga.

Auto-piedade is perfectly normal and don’t let anyone tell you to simply recupere-se as if it’s actually that easy.

Autocuidado is really difficult when you feel there’s nothing left worth fighting for.

But this is why I want you to know that I share your suffering and I’m not going to tell you to simply brush it off and google as melhores maneiras de se recompor. 

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Na vida, vais vacilar and it’s important that you know it’s not about how fast you get up.

It’s about taking the time you need to pull yourself together and find the best way to recupere-se ao seu próprio ritmo.

Don’t go reading about how pessoas de sucesso simply brush it off and go do their thing every morning as if there’s nothing weighing them down because that’s not true. It’s what they want you to think.

A realidade é muito mais complexa e cansativa do que aquilo que as pessoas tentam vender.

As pessoas sempre tweet about positive, happy stuff in their life, but they’ll never tell you how gut-wrenching their journey to success was.

Millennials se consideram dignos de notícia blogueiros hoje em dia e fazer todos estes blogues e autocuidado tips, thinking they’ve got it all figured out.

But unless you’ve been through the wringer, you really can’t speak on anyone’s bumpy journey through life.

It’s wrong to expect a inovador if you don’t put in the work. I understand how challenging life can become and how one’s reality is far more taxing than anyone can imagine.

This is why I’m going to share with you my own personal tips and tricks that have somewhat helped me find a reason to get up again.

Sem julgamentos, sem presunções e sem expectativas irrealistas.

Apenas algumas das formas mais eficazes que me ajudaram a alcançar crescimento pessoal, através do qual consegui lidar com as coisas difíceis com uma cabeça mais calma.

I’m not going to tell you to just get out of your cio and move on. That’s a shitty way to handle anyone’s issues.

O que eu am vou fazer é dizer-lhe algumas verdades duras e necessárias que, esperamos, mudem a sua mente para uma nova lado positivo e ajudá-lo a orientar-se na direção certa.

Don’t expect miracles in a short amount of time. And don’t put too much pressure on yourself.

Life’s hurdles can be overbearing and sometimes time is the only thing that can help make it right.

E pode ajudar-se a si próprio implementando estas estratégias na sua vida quotidiana e vivendo um dia de cada vez. Até que ponto depende totalmente de si.

Qualquer progresso é motivo de orgulho, por isso, que este seja o seu sinal de alerta para viver melhor and to become the best version of yourself – one who is truly content with their life.

Always remember, you’re a boa pessoa independentemente do que a vida nos atira.

Todos nós nos deparamos com obstáculos de vez em quando. Mas a vida é não deixar que os dias maus definam a nossa vida. quem és.

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Como lidar com o sentimento de derrota

1. Accept the situation you’re in

O primeiro passo para a recuperação é aceitar a sua realidade. Todos os seus aspectos merdosos e todas as coisas que queremos mudar.

Abrace-a porque esta é a sua realidade atual e, para a ultrapassar, primeiro tem de fazer as pazes com ela.

Sometimes, bad things just happen and there’s not much you can do about it.

There’s nobody to blame and you didn’t somehow deserve this. Bad shit happens to the most amazing people, so give yourself a break. Don’t let your pensamentos negativos distorcem a sua realidade atual.

Depois de fazer as pazes com a situação, tente encontrar formas de a melhorar. Isto é para toda a vida?

Não. Acabarás por encontrar a saída deste inferno? Claro que sim. Nada é permanente e isto também não é!

So start with that and let it lead the way. Every single time you’ve felt like giving up, somehow you’ve managed to dig your way out.

The same thing will happen here. The sooner you stop being angry, bitter, and resentful about it, the sooner you’ll find the best solution to your problem.

2. One bad thing doesn’t equal a bad life

This is where people always get stuck. Something negative happens – maybe even a few things in a short span – and immediately their minds go to the worst places.

Como se, de alguma forma, este período mau ou uma coisa má significasse que, de repente, toda a sua vida é má.

No! Don’t mistake this shitty phase for the entirety of your life. You’ve gone through so much.

You’ve been through a number of good things as well as bad, and they’ve all shaped you into quem és agora.

Sem o mau, não há o bom! Só depois de ter passado por momentos muito negros um tempo Há muito tempo que não sou capaz de apreciar verdadeiramente todas as coisas boas que me aconteceram posteriormente.

Embrace this attitude. Don’t think that your life sucks just because it’s crappy right now.

In a few weeks, things will be so different and you’ll see what I’m talking about.

Life is more than just the unpleasant things. It’s all the good, the bad, and the amazing that happens while you’re busy dwelling on what cannot be changed.

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3. Absorver todas as coisas positivas à sua volta

Chances are that, during your struggles with one particular aspect, there is surely something positive that can crack a smile on your face, am I right? Perhaps it’s the fact that your family is happy and healthy.

Maybe it’s your melhor amigo que está sempre a ver como estás no meio da sua vida agitada.

A questão é que há sempre algo por que estar grato. Por vezes, perde-se nos momentos difíceis.

But that’s precisely when you should remind yourself of all the things that have kept you sane so far.

Be happy because you have the most supportive romantic partner. Say your thanks for all the health that you’ve been blessed with.

Saia e desfrute do sol fazendo um piquenique com o seu melhores amigos.

Soak in all the positivity that surrounds you and that way, you’ll help yourself see that things are never truly as bad as they seem.

4. Failing doesn’t make you a loser

If you’re struggling with having failed at work, at home, or in some other aspect of life, take a deep breath and think about what you’re doing to yourself.

Feeling defeated due to not being perfect in one area of life isn’t something you should be doing to yourself.

People fail all the time. Things don’t go according to plan and you just have to accept it and move on to other, better things. It doesn’t mean you’re a loser if you’ve failed in some aspect of life.

It means you’re only human – to make mistakes is the most human thing ever!

Finding a way to make it work is what life is about. It won’t always be easy and not everything will go to plan.

But don’t beat yourself up when that happens. Life’s too short to be your own enemy.

5. Concentre-se no seu objetivo final e não na sua situação atual

É evidente que o ponto em que se encontra agora não é o ponto em que quer estar a longo prazo.

A viagem até ao destino desejado nunca é fácil, e a última coisa de que precisa é de desânimo e a falta de esperança.

Elimine as suas pensamentos negativos e meter na cabeça que isto também passará.

You’re not stuck here. You’re just moving through life and right now, this is where you find yourself.

At times, it’ll appear as if your ambition might be the end of you, but that’s when you need to persevere more than ever.

As suas capacidades irão provar-lhe o quão engenhoso é quando decidir ver para além da luta e visualizar onde quer chegar.

Focus on getting to your next chapter and plan the best way to do it. Get out of your head and implement all of your ideas into reality. If you can dream it – you really can achieve it.

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6. Liberte-se da sua raiva e frustração

Feeling defeated and being unwilling to let go of your frustration doesn’t go hand in hand.

Se quer ajudar-se a si próprio, tem de encontrar uma forma de esquecer isso e não deixar que isso o sobrecarregue.

You’re hurting your saúde mental ao recusar-se a afastar-se da negatividade. Está a ir contra si próprio e a prestar um enorme mau serviço a quem és.

You know that you’re better than this. Acknowledge your anger and frustration and then let it evaporate into thin air.

You don’t need it anymore. It has taught you what you needed to learn and now it’s time for a different mindset.

Não há necessidade de ser auto-destrutivo. Escolhe o caminho mais alto. Deixa-o ir. Fale sobre os seus problemas. Escreva sobre eles, se necessário.

But don’t bottle it up because it may end up exploding at the worst possible time.

7. Deixar de comparar

Este é um hábito tóxico que é extremamente prejudicial para o seu saúde mental e psique.

Só leva a dores desnecessárias e a constatações dolorosas. Por que razão faria esta atividade inútil para se deitar abaixo?

The grass is never greener on the other side, it’s greener where you water it!

So focus on yourself and how to nurture your own well-being. People will make you believe that they’ve got it all figured out, but nobody does!

Everyone goes through their own trials and tribulations, they just don’t shout it from the rooftops.

Ninguém alcançou o sucesso e crescimento pessoal sem uma quantidade substancial de contratempos e obstáculos.

Até o seu melhores amigos go through all kinds of complex stuff they don’t tell you about.

That’s just what people do. It’s easier to put up a front that makes you appear great, than actually be open and honest, and discuss your innermost troubles.

So next time you think your friends have it better… think again.

8. Deixe que as suas dúvidas sejam a sua motivação

The best way to prove your doubters wrong is to let their negativity give you the push you need to get to a place you’ve set for yourself.

If they’re doubting you, soak it in, smile, and go do your thing.

Nada será tão doce como o sucesso que foi possível graças a esta enorme motivação proporcionada pelos vossos haters.

Infelizmente, as pessoas terão sempre as suas opiniões e tentarão deitá-lo abaixo.

They will butt in where they don’t belong and offer unwarranted opinions with the sole purpose of tearing you down.

It’s impossible to change that. But what IS possible is turning the other cheek and letting your naysayers see how unphased you are and how much you thrive on their doubt.

Este será um importante passo pessoal inovador and it’ll be a stepping stone to a better tomorrow.

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9. Reclamar não leva a lado nenhum

I told you I’d serve you some tough truths, and this is one of them. You can complain all you want, but it won’t help you with your mission.

It only weighs you down, destroys you mentally, and doesn’t paint the right picture of quem és.

Instead of complaining, try to develop a new habit where every time the mood for it strikes, you have to remind yourself of one good thing you’re forgetting.

That way, you’ll always be mindful that things aren’t as bad as they seem and that no matter what you’re going through now, there’s always a reason to smile.

Choramingar porque as coisas não correm como queremos é a forma menos produtiva de fazer alguma coisa.

You’ll always remain stuck in a cio enquanto tivermos uma razão para estarmos cansados.

10. Efetuar uma alteração

I don’t know what it is that’s bringing you down, but one thing’s for sure. It’s never too late to make a change.

You’re never too old to change your ways and do something that’s likely to help you in the long run.

Instead of assigning blame for whichever issue you’re facing, why not turn it around and try to see it from a new perspective.

Será que está na altura de mudar as coisas e, assim, evitar futuros contratempos?

Existe alguma forma de ajudar a situação através da implementação de uma ideia nova e fresca?

You’re the only one who knows how to achieve this, so I’m only trying to let you know how easy it is to get things going with a little bit of trabalho árduo e dedicação.

Ficar aí sentado a lamentar-se não o leva a lado nenhum.

Mas tomar uma decisão para impedir que isso aconteça fá-lo-á ver a sua própria resiliência, capacidade e inteligência.

Change what needs changing and don’t dwell on past misfortunes. Your future is in your hands.

Faça com que a sua mente coopere e comece a criar uma realidade melhor para ter um futuro promissor.

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A Word To The Wise…

Feeling defeated isn’t something you should ever run away from.

Os problemas podem encontrá-lo onde quer que vá, por isso a melhor estratégia é aceitar as mudanças, por mais difíceis que sejam, e encontrar o seu caminho através dos contratempos.

I’ve personally felt defeated and lost more times than I can count. It’s really important to me that there’s an open and honest conversation regarding these issues.

There’s no shame in feeling lost. There should be no judgment during your toughest ordeals.

Por vezes, por mais que tentemos manter-nos positivos, a vida acaba por se intrometer.

During your life’s journey, you’re likely to stumble upon people who will try to use your troubles against you.

You’re very likely to feel worthless, low and bitter by the harsh words of toxic individuals. Don’t let them have any power over you.

Sabe quem és – they don’t. You know how many setbacks you’ve had to endure to get to where you are.

And that’s reason enough to always remain calm in the face of naysayers. There will always be someone thinking they know better.

And those people are precisely the ones who don’t have their shit together.

People who are content and fulfilled in life don’t feel the need to bring others down, especially during their hardships. Only those who’re struggling themselves will stoop this low.

Stay faithful to your journey. As bumpy as it may be, it’s yours to take.

And when you get to your final destination, you’ll know you got there through all kinds of obstacles that only made you stronger in the process. 

Right now you’re feeling defeated, but with the right attitude and a willful mind, who knows what tomorrow might bring?

That’s the beauty of life. Things can change in a matter of minutes. Be patient – your blessings are coming.