5 coisas horríveis que os narcisistas fazem para controlar as suas vítimas
As pessoas que sofrem de uma Perturbação da Personalidade Narcisista não sabem como se comportar nas relações íntimas.
Falta-lhes empatia e compreensão para com os outros e, no processo de negligenciar e manipular os seus parceiros, só pensam em si próprios.
It’s not that they are incapable of feeling love, they are incapable of loving anyone but themselves.
O seu amor por si próprios está tão acima de tudo o resto e leva-os a manipular as suas vítimas para que façam o que eles querem e como eles querem.
Being trapped in a narcissist’s grasp can destroy you and it’s almost impossible to break free from it. You are a victim of mind control and manipulação.
You are being brainwashed and your confidence and self-love are crushed into dust—they don’t exist. That is, in fact, how they keep you under their control.
Esmagam-vos para vos poderem dominar.
They destroy you completely, making you think that you don’t deserve anything else.
Fazem-nos pensar que temos sorte em tê-los na nossa vida porque nos fizeram acreditar que nunca ninguém nos amará, que não somos amáveis e que somos completamente horríveis.
So, you hang on to their abusive love because you don’t know any better and you’re scared to let go and start all over again.
When someone keeps feeding you with negativity and claims that you are incapable of living without them, that you are incompetent and actually there is no use to you whatsoever, after some time, you start believing it and when the time comes and you want to leave, you can’t.
You’re scared that you are not going to make it.
As relações narcisistas são como as drogas.
O abuso dura tanto tempo que o corpo e a mente se habituam a ele.
If you break free finally, you’ll start craving it in a second. You’ll crave the dose of a narcissist because he managed to emotionally hook you on his evil.
As relações narcisistas são humilhantes.
He will drag you to the darkest place of your life. You won’t be able to think straight nor will you know what you’re doing. The only thing you will know is that you want it to stop.
You’ll keep praying for the pain to go away and for him to stop, to shut up. You’ll burn inside, but your face will be calm. Cold. Blank.
As relações narcisistas mudam-nos.
They change who you’ve been. Those people tear you down and crush you from the inside with their abuso narcísico tácticas.
They rebuild you into the person they want by their side, not you. You are just a casual victim whom they don’t give a shit about.
Your feelings don’t matter to them. You are not a human being. To them, you are a little insignificant nobody.
Isso muda-nos por completo. Mesmo quando te afastas dele, nunca mais serás a mesma.
You will try to bring joy back into your life and in the beginning, it’s going to be excruciating.
You’ll wish you’d never been born. You’ll curse the day you met him.
You’re going to be angry with yourself for letting a narcissistic sociopath ruin your life, ruin you. But, it’s not your fault.
You did nothing wrong, so you can’t blame yourself. You never see them coming.
Eles são tão sorrateiros e manipuladores, que podem disfarçar-se como o que quiserem. Quando o fazem, quando confiamos neles, eles encurralam-nos.
Os narcisistas usam tácticas furtivas para manipular e fazer as coisas à maneira deles. Conseguem sempre o que querem e em todas as circunstâncias, e é o utilizador que paga o preço.
Projeção de sentimentos negativos
It’s a defense mechanism to protect themselves.
They will project their negative feelings onto you and they will put the blame on you which will make you feel like crap when instead, it’s them who have to feel that way.
Mas eles manipulam-no para que pense que a culpa é sua e que tem de se sentir mal por algo que eles fizeram.
In the end, you’ll find yourself apologizing for something you haven’t done. This turns into a serious problem because a narcissist can’t accept he was wrong.
He can’t accept that he is not flawless and that from time to time, he can make a mistake. That’s why he needs you to project his negative feelings, too.
Ele precisa de se sentir inocente e precisa que tu te sintas culpada.
He will do this by any means necessary. He’ll be hurtful and cruel because, in the end, he really doesn’t care about you or your feelings at all.
Mudança de jogo
He will find something wrong in everything you do. No matter how hard you try, he will ruin it and crap all over everything you’ve done so far.
If you did everything he has asked you to do, and he can’t complain because he has got no reason for saying anything, he will change the rules.
Ele vai passar por cima do que disse anteriormente e impor-lhe um novo conjunto de regras que são quase impossíveis, só para que falhe e se sinta mal por isso.
Ele vai colocar-te numa situação em que trabalhas muito, para que ele te aprove. Infelizmente, estás a procurar a sua validação e aprovação.
Mas as suas críticas constantes terão o seu preço.
As queixas constantes deixarão uma cicatriz em si. Sentir-se-á ansioso e deprimido porque nada do que faz parece ser suficientemente bom.
Your self-esteem falls faster than the speed of light and as it decreases, the chances you’re going to be more submissive to him are bigger.
The thing is by criticizing you all the time, he is diverting you from all the good things you’ve done and making you focus on just the bad ones which makes you feel bad and obsessed with thinking about why can’t you succeed in anything.
Controlo
Ele vai tentar isolá-la do resto do mundo porque, acredite ou não, ele tem medo. Tem medo que o deixes, que perca a sua vítima.
He won’t have anybody to drain and that’s what will destroy him. If he doesn’t have anyone to suck the energy from, like an vampiro emocional, ele perecerá.
Querem ser os únicos que podem ter alguma influência na sua vida, para o poderem controlar.
They will cut you off from your friends and family, so you don’t get the chance to hear the truth or a few words of support and advice.
Apart from the getting you as far away as possible from the people you love, they will try to control where you’re going, with whom you are going, how much money you’re spending and for what.
A sua vida tornar-se-á basicamente uma prisão a céu aberto.
Mudar de assunto
When you’ve had enough and if you sober up even for a minute, you’ll see things for what they are. Maybe you’ve just had enough and you want to confront him.
De alguma forma, arranja toda a coragem e força para o fazer, mas o que é que ele faz?
He plays the victim and brings out a completely different subject and punishes you for something that you’ve done 3 months ago.
É o que eles fazem a toda a hora.
He will blame you or point out a mistake you did a long time ago and it’s not just coincidental.
He’s been keeping that for times just like this, for times when he hasn’t got any other way out but to bring out your past mistakes to make you feel like you’re the abuser and he is the victim.
And of course, he never mentioned it before now. He didn’t mention it three months ago because he knew he was going to need it some other time.
Sarcasmo
Ele vai usar piadas cruéis para o magoar, mas, claro, vão ser disfarçadas de piadas inofensivas.
Assim, se se zangar, ele fará com que pareça que está a exagerar e que não há razão para se zangar ou magoar porque ele estava apenas a brincar.
But the real motive behind it is never to tease you. It’s exactly what you think it is—it’s to hurt you.
He will use a patronizing tone with you to humiliate you even more. He will act like you’re a child, you are incapable of doing things for yourself and you need him to show everything to you.
It’s hard to stay strong and resist everything narcissists are capable of doing to you. They are extremely dangerous and their disease can destroy you if you let it.
Tens de te manter forte, believe in yourself and believe in what you’re doing because it’s right. Don’t let him mess up your mind because if you surrender, you won’t be able to bounce back so easily.
And even if he broke you, it’s not too late to come back to life. At least you’ll learn a lesson and find out more about yourself. You’ll bring back your self-worth and respect.
You’ll learn to love yourself again because no one can take that away from you forever. They can only make you forget about it—not lose it.
