5 cosas horribles que hacen los narcisistas para controlar a sus víctimas

Las personas que sufren un Trastorno Narcisista de la Personalidad no saben cómo comportarse en las relaciones íntimas.

Carecen de empatía y comprensión hacia otras personas y, en el proceso de descuidar y manipular a sus parejas, sólo piensan en sí mismos.

It’s not that they are incapable of feeling love, they are incapable of loving anyone but themselves.

Su amor por sí mismos está por encima de todo y les hace manipular a sus víctimas para que hagan lo que ellos quieren y como ellos quieren.

Being trapped in a narcissist’s grasp can destroy you and it’s almost impossible to break free from it. You are a victim of mind control and manipulación.

You are being brainwashed and your confidence and self-love are crushed into dust—they don’t exist. That is, in fact, how they keep you under their control.

Te aplastan para poder gobernarte.

They destroy you completely, making you think that you don’t deserve anything else.

Te hacen pensar que tienes suerte de tenerlos en tu vida porque te han hecho creer que nadie te querrá nunca, que no eres digno de ser amado y que eres completamente horrible.

So, you hang on to their abusive love because you don’t know any better and you’re scared to let go and start all over again.

When someone keeps feeding you with negativity and claims that you are incapable of living without them, that you are incompetent and actually there is no use to you whatsoever, after some time, you start believing it and when the time comes and you want to leave, you can’t.

You’re scared that you are not going to make it.

Las relaciones narcisistas son como las drogas.

El abuso dura tanto tiempo que tu cuerpo y tu mente se acostumbran a él.

If you break free finally, you’ll start craving it in a second. You’ll crave the dose of a narcissist because he managed to emotionally hook you on his evil.

Las relaciones narcisistas son humillantes.

He will drag you to the darkest place of your life. You won’t be able to think straight nor will you know what you’re doing. The only thing you will know is that you want it to stop.

You’ll keep praying for the pain to go away and for him to stop, to shut up. You’ll burn inside, but your face will be calm. Cold. Blank.

Las relaciones narcisistas te cambian.

They change who you’ve been. Those people tear you down and crush you from the inside with their abuso narcisista tácticas. 

They rebuild you into the person they want by their side, not you. You are just a casual victim whom they don’t give a shit about.

Your feelings don’t matter to them. You are not a human being. To them, you are a little insignificant nobody.

Eso te cambia desde la médula. Aunque te alejes de él, nunca volverás a ser la misma.

You will try to bring joy back into your life and in the beginning, it’s going to be excruciating.

You’ll wish you’d never been born. You’ll curse the day you met him.

You’re going to be angry with yourself for letting a narcissistic sociopath ruin your life, ruin you. But, it’s not your fault.

You did nothing wrong, so you can’t blame yourself. You never see them coming.

Son tan astutos y manipuladores que pueden disfrazarse de lo que quieran. Una vez que lo hacen, una vez que confías en ellos, te atrapan.

Los narcisistas utilizan tácticas furtivas manipular para que hagan las cosas a su manera. Siempre consiguen lo que quieren y en cualquier circunstancia, y tú eres quien paga el precio.

Proyección de sentimientos negativos

It’s a defense mechanism to protect themselves.

They will project their negative feelings onto you and they will put the blame on you which will make you feel like crap when instead, it’s them who have to feel that way.

Pero te manipularán para que pienses que ha sido culpa tuya y que tienes que sentirte mal por algo que ellos han hecho.

In the end, you’ll find yourself apologizing for something you haven’t done. This turns into a serious problem because a narcissist can’t accept he was wrong.

He can’t accept that he is not flawless and that from time to time, he can make a mistake. That’s why he needs you to project his negative feelings, too.

Necesita sentirse inocente y que tú te sientas culpable.

He will do this by any means necessary. He’ll be hurtful and cruel because, in the end, he really doesn’t care about you or your feelings at all.

Un cambio de juego

He will find something wrong in everything you do. No matter how hard you try, he will ruin it and crap all over everything you’ve done so far.

If you did everything he has asked you to do, and he can’t complain because he has got no reason for saying anything, he will change the rules.

Pasará por encima de lo que ha dicho antes y te impondrá una nueva serie de normas que son casi imposibles, sólo para que fracases y te sientas mal por ello.

Te pondrá en una situación en la que trabajes duro, para que él pueda aprobarte. Por desgracia, usted está buscando su validación y aprobación.

Pero sus constantes críticas le pasarán factura.

Los regaños constantes te dejarán una cicatriz. Te sentirás angustiado y deprimido porque nada de lo que hagas te parecerá suficiente.

Your self-esteem falls faster than the speed of light and as it decreases, the chances you’re going to be more submissive to him are bigger.

The thing is by criticizing you all the time, he is diverting you from all the good things you’ve done and making you focus on just the bad ones which makes you feel bad and obsessed with thinking about why can’t you succeed in anything.

Controlar

Intentará aislarte del resto del mundo porque, lo creas o no, tiene miedo. Tiene miedo de que le abandones, de perder a su víctima.

He won’t have anybody to drain and that’s what will destroy him. If he doesn’t have anyone to suck the energy from, like an vampiro emocionalperecerá.

Quieren ser los únicos que puedan tener alguna influencia en tu vida, para poder controlarte.

They will cut you off from your friends and family, so you don’t get the chance to hear the truth or a few words of support and advice.

Apart from the getting you as far away as possible from the people you love, they will try to control where you’re going, with whom you are going, how much money you’re spending and for what.

Tu vida se convertirá básicamente en una prisión a la intemperie.

Cambiar de tema

When you’ve had enough and if you sober up even for a minute, you’ll see things for what they are. Maybe you’ve just had enough and you want to confront him.

De alguna manera, consigues todo el coraje y la fuerza para hacerlo, pero ¿qué hace él?

He plays the victim and brings out a completely different subject and punishes you for something that you’ve done 3 months ago.

Esto es lo que hacen todo el tiempo.

He will blame you or point out a mistake you did a long time ago and it’s not just coincidental.

He’s been keeping that for times just like this, for times when he hasn’t got any other way out but to bring out your past mistakes to make you feel like you’re the abuser and he is the victim.

And of course, he never mentioned it before now. He didn’t mention it three months ago because he knew he was going to need it some other time.

Sarcasmo

Utilizará bromas crueles para herirte, pero por supuesto, se harán pasar por bromas inofensivas.

Así que si te enfadas, él hará que parezca que estás exagerando y que no hay razón para enfadarse o hacerse daño porque sólo estaba bromeando.

But the real motive behind it is never to tease you. It’s exactly what you think it is—it’s to hurt you.

He will use a patronizing tone with you to humiliate you even more. He will act like you’re a child, you are incapable of doing things for yourself and you need him to show everything to you.

It’s hard to stay strong and resist everything narcissists are capable of doing to you. They are extremely dangerous and their disease can destroy you if you let it.

Tienes que mantenerte fuerte, believe in yourself and believe in what you’re doing because it’s right. Don’t let him mess up your mind because if you surrender, you won’t be able to bounce back so easily.

And even if he broke you, it’s not too late to come back to life. At least you’ll learn a lesson and find out more about yourself. You’ll bring back your self-worth and respect.

You’ll learn to love yourself again because no one can take that away from you forever. They can only make you forget about it—not lose it.