Ele bloqueou-me: O que é que isso significa e o que fazer em relação a isso

Olhas para o teu telemóvel e, de repente, apercebes-te: ele bloqueou-me. Provavelmente não faz ideia de como e porquê isso aconteceu, muito menos o que fazer. Well, today you’ll learn all you need to know about the potential reasons why ele bloqueou-o e o que se pode fazer!

Don’t worry. You’re not alone! Happened to me multiple times and I know it’s not really comforting, but all I’m saying is that blocking must be a trending thing for the guys. (Still, this doesn’t justify their stupid actions.)

And, don’t worry, him blocking you doesn’t necessarily mean it’s the end.

Honestly, If you don’t want it to be the end, there are always ways to get him back. The easiest way I know is just UM CLIQUE away. I promise you won’t regret it.

There are many reasons why he’d do such a thing and sometimes it’s just because he needs some time and space (I’ll explain all of it in detail below).

Bloquear alguém é imaturo?

Sim, bloquear alguém é considerado um forma imatura de lidar com a situação. Sem dúvida, um dos as piores coisas dos encontros modernos é o facto de existirem inúmeras opções, quer se trate de ignorar, silenciar ou bloquear.

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Before, people would just stop seeing each other and the only way to block the other person was by using one’s imagination.

Mas hoje, com apenas um clique, as pessoas apagam potenciais parceiros, novas relaçõesou relações duradouras, bloqueando a pessoa nas redes sociais. Uau. Quão maduro.

I wish I could conclude all this by simply saying: “Modern dating requires modern solutions,” but it’s much more complex than that.

Como já foi dito, há muitas razões para uma pessoa bloquear alguém.

There are many reasons why he would decide to do such an immature thing aka “delete you from his life,” and some of them are, let’s say, positive, and some not-so-positive.

Also, there are many ways to deal with it, and choosing the right one is of utmost importance! So, let’s get straight to work – you might want to buckle up because it’s gonna be a bumpy ride!

Relacionadas: O que acontece quando ele percebe que você o bloqueou

O que é que significa quando um homem te bloqueia?

A ação de bloquear uma ex-namorada ou um ex-namorado evoca normalmente uma conotação: a de que se está a bloquear uma ex-namorada ou um ex-namorado: seguir em frente. Mas nem todos os bloqueios significam isso mesmo. Há muitas razões possíveis para um rapaz a bloquear e uma delas é que precisa de tempo e espaço (ou que quer que ande atrás dele).

Quando se trata de lidar com um problema, o primeiro passo é perceber porque é que algo aconteceu.

Porque é que, de repente, o seu ex-bloco vos da sua conta(s) de redes sociais) (da vida dele) e impedi-la de voltar a enviar-lhe mensagens e a contactá-lo?

You would be surprised how many hidden meanings are behind this action on the spectrum of moving on to “jogar duro para conseguir and hoping you’ll persegui-lo.”

Yes. I know you’re probably reading this in disbelief, but trust me, guys are totally unpredictable, but not undecipherable.

Por vezes, quando querem o seu ex voltar, guys use lame methods like blocking in the hope that you’ll decide to chase after them.

And sometimes, it just means that they’re moving on and turning a new page.

There are also some possible reasons in between these two, so let’s check out all of them and figure it all out along the way:

Magoa-o demasiado ter-te nas redes sociais

Ao contrário das mulheres, Deus sabe que os homens são tão maus a compreender os seus sentimentos que chegam ao ponto de bloquear a outra pessoa só porque lhes custa ver o seu perfil.

O exercício é mais ou menos assim:

Maybe she already met someone new and I couldn’t stand it if I saw her with another guy.

Or maybe she’s perfectly happy without me while I’m still feeling miserable and it would be too painful to realize that.

I’ll just block her, so that I can’t receive mensagens de texto ou telefonemas dela, ou ver as suas fotografias nunca mais.

It would be easier for me if I don’t know what’s really going on in her life and whether or not she’s happy without me.

This is exactly what happens in a guy’s head who’s afraid of potential disappointment.

Não suporta o facto de a pessoa ainda estar virtualmente presente no seu mundo e de poder ver como ela é feliz sem ele.

So, he thinks blocking that person on social media will solve the issue – alas, it won’t in the long run.

There are still mutual friends who might at some point tell him everything about that one person he’s been desperately trying to ignore.

Deleting someone’s phone number or blocking them on social media is just a temporary solution, and after some time every guy realizes that (but sometimes a little too late).

He doesn’t want to hurt you

Como já foi dito, os homens sempre tiveram dificuldade em lidar com as suas emoções, pelo que optam frequentemente por atalhos como o bloqueio.

When they are confused about how they really feel about you and want to end things, but don’t want to do it in person, they choose a cowardly method of blocking you from their social media accounts.

Aplicam-se a regra de não contacto a little prematurely because they don’t want to leave you heartbroken. But, on the contrary, that’s exactly what they’re doing without even knowing it.

So, when a man blocks you because he doesn’t want to hurt you, he’s basically doing it because he doesn’t have the courage to do it in person.

He knows that he wouldn’t survive seeing you hurt and sad, and he’s afraid that he might either have second thoughts about the whole situation or say some mean things.

Na sua mente, bloqueá-lo é menos doloroso do que ter uma conversa difícil. Mas, a verdadeira questão é: para quem é que é menos doloroso? Para ele, sem dúvida.

Blocking you means he will not have insight into how you’re feeling about the whole thing. But what he doesn’t get is that not knowing how you feel doesn’t mean that you aren’t hurt.

Just because he doesn’t see you in tears, doesn’t mean that you aren’t feeling sad and confused.

But, it’s really hard, if not impossible to explain this to a man, so the only thing we can do is try to understand it and act accordingly.

Ele sabe que bloquear-vos vai magoar-vos

Por outro lado, por vezes os homens optam por bloqueá-la apenas porque sabem que isso a vai magoar. Atrevo-me a dizer que esta razão é provavelmente o pior cenário para qualquer rapariga.

It’s evident that they want revenge because of something you did or said. And sometimes, they do it because they’re under false impressions.

Acha que o seu o ex quer vingança?

If you’ve cheated on him or similar (which is usually the case with relações à distância), then you know the real reason why he blocked you, but if you didn’t, then the situation is a little bit more complicated (but nothing we can’t solve together, right?)

Pense em tudo o que aconteceu ultimamente (especialmente durante a semana passada) e tente ligar os pontos.

If you don’t succeed in it, try asking his melhores amigos ou os vossos amigos comuns do Facebook, se sabem alguma coisa sobre o seu comportamento estranho e a razão pela qual ele decidiu bloqueá-lo no primeiro lugar.

You need to find the answer to why he would want to hurt you when you haven’t given him a reason to do so.

And if you can’t find it – not even when you’ve talked with all of his friends – then you know it’s something he probably imagined or misunderstood.

So, he blocked you on impulse because he didn’t want to talk to you about it or try to understand what really happened.

(E esse impulso pode custar-lhe muito mais tarde).

Ele quer eliminar-te da vida dele

Se o queres de volta, esta é provavelmente a que mais te vai doer ouvir. Mas, seja como for, tens de a ouvir.

Assim, quando um homem decide que quer eliminá-la da sua vida para sempre, utiliza o método de bloqueio.

Aconteceu-me a mesma coisa no ano passado. Estava numa relação de seis meses e, de repente, ele bloqueou o meu número sem explicar porquê nem dizer nada.

Então, no dia seguinte, enquanto tentava perceber o que raio tinha acontecido, vi uma fotografia dele com outra mulher no Whatsapp e no Snapchat.

Also, our mutual friend told me that he was probably already seeing someone else behind my back, but couldn’t say for sure.

I guess he decided it’s finally time to delete me for good and he did it by blocking me so that he can avoid all the drama.

Now, I’m not saying that your guy wants to delete you from his life because he found someone else.

It’s one of the possibilities, but it’s not necessarily the truth. Other possíveis razões As razões que levam um homem a querer eliminá-la da sua vida são as seguintes

• He’s afraid of commitment
• He’s emotionally unavailable
• He’s met someone new
• He doesn’t like you anymore
• He’s feeling stuck or bored
• He’s a player.

All the above reasons are too painful to think about, so you shouldn’t think about them at all.

Whatever the reason behind him wanting to delete you from his life, know that he’s not even worthy of being with you.

If he belongs to any above category, you definitely don’t need complications in your life because, confiar em mim, men like this aren’t worthy of it.

(Passar tempo no Tinder seria muito mais sensato e valioso do que esperar que eles mudem).

Ele precisa de algum tempo e espaço

E depois há este grupo de homens que decidem bloquear alguém só porque se sentem assim: I precisar de tempo e espaço (because apparently, it’s easier than saying it).

This happened to one of my female friends recently and I can’t tell you how mad I was about the whole situation. It was as if it was happening to me.

Então, o tipo com quem ela andava a sair há algum tempo bloqueou-a de repente.

Ela estava fora de si, porque eles se deram bem e ela viu que eles tinham realmente potencial.

Given that she hadn’t heard about him ever since, she decided to imaginary delete him from her life and continue living as if she never met him.

E depois BOOM! No outro dia, após alguns meses, ele desbloqueou-a sobre redes sociais e mandou-lhe uma mensagem.

Depois de alguns meses, pessoal!

She couldn’t believe it, I couldn’t believe it, and I bet all the people within a 5 mile radius couldn’t believe it either.

We were both in shock and disbelief. She couldn’t imagine that he would ever contact her again and to her amazement, he did.

Pela primeira vez, ele disse-lhe que só precisava de tempo e espaço para resolver tudo e pediu desculpa por ter desaparecido da face da terra.

A SÉRIO, PESSOAL?

Since when is it easier to block someone and assume that they’ll understand what you meant by it than to say what you really mean to them in person?

And, the worst of all, do you really expect that they’ll wait for an eternity for you to desbloquear que tudo ficará na mesma quando decidires voltar de repente? LOL.

Acho que os homens nunca compreenderão as dificuldades das suas decisões de nos bloquearem como pessoas importantes do nada, arruinando literalmente a nossa saúde mental só porque precisavam de algum espaço e tempo.

And we’ll never find a way to deal with them once they decide to come back into our lives. In situations like that, listening to our gut would seem like the best bet.

Veja também: Ele precisa de espaço ou já acabou? 7 maneiras de saber

Ele bloqueou-te sem motivo

The phenomenon “He blocked me on everything” or He blocked me for no reason” happens to a lot of women.

After trying to reach him, you get a voicemail or he sends some of his friends to explain to you that he blocked you for no reason – to convince you that no reason is a reason.

Ladies, if I learned anything during my humble life, it’s this: There is a reason behind every action and for every action, there is a reaction.

Por outras palavras, há uma razão para ele o ter bloqueado e tem todo o direito de ficar chateado com isso.

You have every right to yell, scream, or curse, but there’s one thing you should never do.

Don’t just accept that he blocked you for no reason or beg him to come back and explain to you what happened.

The possible reasons why he blocked you are listed above, so if you haven’t figured it out yet, it’s better to re-read it again than to lie to yourself.

A única forma de lidar com a situação é começar por aceitá-la e compreendê-la.

And thinking that there’s no reason behind his action will not help. It will only prolong your pain and misery.

Por isso, seja honesto consigo próprio e aceite a razão, por mais difícil que pareça fazê-lo.

Other Things To Consider…

Para o ajudar a compreender a verdadeira razão pela qual ele o bloqueou (e se alguma vez o irá desbloquear), eis algumas questões adicionais a considerar:

É a primeira vez que ele a bloqueia ou já o tinha feito antes?

If this is not the first time he’s blocked you, then you know it’s his way of dealing with problems.

I know many people who block their partner literally whenever anything bad happens because they don’t know how to cope with it. There was this one guy who blocked me on Facebook not once but multiple times. It was hilarious.

And sometimes it’s not even a big deal, but they still do it because it’s their way of dealing with negative things in life.

Pensam que, ao eliminarem a outra pessoa, eliminam também toda a negatividade. E, normalmente, passado algum tempo, ganham juízo e desbloquear a pessoa.

But, if he’s never done it before, then you know it’s not his way of dealing with problems, it’s something else.

A razão é provavelmente uma das anteriores ou está escondida nas perguntas que se seguem. Tudo o que precisa de fazer é abrir os olhos e olhar com atenção!

Were you fighting over something or did you hurt each other’s feelings in some way?

Se fosse ter uma discussão durante a qual disseram muitas palavras duras um ao outro, então esta pode ser a razão pela qual ele a bloqueou.

When you’re feeling mad, hurt, or disappointed, it’s hard to think rationally. All you can think of is how to make it go away.

And that’s why some people use this blocking method as a way of wiping negative things from their life. But this doesn’t help in the long run.

Mesmo que ele a tenha bloqueado, não conseguirá esquecer o que aconteceu, porque isso vai persegui-lo.

Because of that, there’s a good chance that he will unblock you once he’s recharged and had time to think things through.

Poderão os amigos ou a família dele ter-lhe dito para o bloquear por alguma razão?

Multiple times I’ve witnessed the situation where friends and family advise someone to do certain things like blocking, deleting numbers, stop seeing the person, and so on.

It’s important to understand that it’s one thing to give advice, but telling them what to do and controlling their love life is a totally different thing.

E talvez isto também lhe tenha acontecido a si.

One way to find out whether this is true is by asking your mutual friends about it, but you definitely don’t want to go too deep when it comes to this one.

Arguing with his loved ones over him blocking you could escalate real quickly and you don’t need all that extra drama in your life.

We can all make decisions for ourselves, so the sheer fact that he’s obeying other people’s commands says a lot about his “maturity.”

Foi demasiado intrusivo depois de terem terminado?

As separações são sempre difíceis e, por vezes, levam-nos a fazer coisas que (normalmente) nunca teríamos pensado em fazer.

Tornamo-nos perseguidores, arrepiantes. Sentamo-nos ao lado do telemóvel 24 horas por dia, 7 dias por semana, na esperança de que nos liguem ou enviem mensagens.

And when they don’t, we decide to take the initiative and hope they’ll reciprocate. We become too intrusive without even being aware of it.

Por ser demasiado intrusiva, refiro-me a estar constantemente a enviar mensagens, a telefonar, a implorar, a perseguir e a outras acções que talvez o tenham motivado a bloqueá-la.

I know it sounds harsh, but he was probably annoyed by all those calls and texts from you, that’s why he decided to block you.

But still, you shouldn’t give a damn about it. And you know why?

Because you obviously care about him a lot and you were trying to tell him that, but he didn’t give you a chance to say what you really mean.

The easiest thing a man can do is block someone, but it takes courage to deal with an issue. That’s how you know whether he’s a real man ou apenas mais um idiota.

Ver também: 11 coisas para fazer quando não consegues parar de pensar nele

Did he ask you to give him some space (but you didn’t)?

Men are really weird when it comes to the “needing space” thing and you can never know what they really think or need.

But, if he specifically asked you to give him some space and you didn’t, then you know why he blocked you.

Perhaps he needed some time alone to reflect on your relationship or whatever you call it, and because you didn’t give it to him, he decided to do it his way and block you.

If that is the case, you can’t be mad at him because he asked you to give him space, but you decided not to do it.

Because of that, he might classify you as being needy and selfish. But, you shouldn’t really worry about it either because this doesn’t mean that he’s blocked you for good.

It’s just that he took some time and space for himself and when he’s done with it, he will probably unblock you sooner than you think.

Será que ele vai voltar depois de me ter bloqueado?

The answer to the question “He blocked me, will he come back?” depends greatly on the reason why he did so in the first place.

Se ele te bloqueou por outras razões para além destas duas: Ele sabe que bloquear-te te vai magoar e quer eliminar-te da sua vida, then there’s a high chance he might unblock you at some point.

Remember my friend’s situation in the He needs some time and space section?

Bem, pode esperar que lhe aconteça exatamente a mesma situação, independentemente de a razão ser ele precisar de espaço ou não querer magoá-la.

Ele pode desbloqueá-la após uma semana, um mês, dois meses ou mesmo um ano. Tudo depende do que realmente se passa na cabeça dele e do tempo que ele precisa para resolver tudo.

As already said, some men need more time, while others less. Now, I’m not saying that you should wait for him to desbloquear (mesmo que isso signifique esperar muito tempo).

All I’m saying is that it’s possible and it’s very likely that it will happen.

We’ll talk more about it later on. Now let’s focus on what you should do or not do in the meantime!

Ele bloqueou-me: O que fazer em relação a isso?

Now that we’re done with all those possible reasons why he blocked you, it’s time to see what you can do about it.

And no, this doesn’t include stalking, texting, or calling him. If you do this, you will neither succeed in forgetting him or getting him to unblock you. You will only make things worse.

Quando alguém o bloqueia, há apenas duas coisas que deve concentrar-se em fazer (ou não fazer) para obter o melhor resultado possível:

Nunca mais o contactar

Instead of wasting your time sitting next to your phone and thinking about the question “Why did he block me?” I advise never reaching out to him again. Não há textos, mensagense NÃO perseguir redes sociais.

Porquê? Porque nunca estender a mão é dez vezes mais poderoso do que estender a mão.

The reason why he blocked you is because he temporarily doesn’t want to be in touch with you (for some reason), so desperately trying to contact him will only make things worse than they are already.

You don’t want him to think that you’re needy or desperate and that you don’t have your own life without him, but that you’re perfectly fine without him, that blocking you is his loss and not yours.

Queres que ele veja que you’re an independent woman and you don’t need people in your life who aren’t willing to be with you or worthy of being with you.

Quando ele se aperceber de tudo isso, também se aperceberá do erro que cometeu ao bloqueá-la e quererá que volte.

At some point, he will unblock you and when he does, it’s up to you what you will decide to do.

Tem duas opções: pode continuar a viver a sua melhor vida sem ele ou dar-lhe outra oportunidade de voltar a viver com ele.

Ver também: Como esquecer um homem: 14 passos para a ajudar a esquecê-lo num instante

Dê-lhe algum tempo antes de o contactar

If you’re determined about getting him back and you don’t want to wait forever on him to finally decide to unblock you and contact you, there is another option and that is giving him some time before reaching out to him!

A ênfase está em dar-lhe ALGUM TEMPO, porque para o levar a desbloquear tu, primeiro tens de o fazer sentir a tua falta.

E fazer com que alguém sinta a nossa falta é dar-lhes algum espaço e tempo para que isso aconteça.

Now, I won’t lie to you. Sometimes, even when you give them some space and time, nothing changes.

There is a chance that when you reach him out, he won’t be interested in coming back to you or explaining porque é que ele te bloqueou em primeiro lugar (caso a razão ainda seja desconhecida).

Por isso, ser o primeiro a contactá-lo é uma jogada arriscada e pode não trazer resultados positivos.

But as always, it’s all up to you! In situations like this, I personally always choose to follow my heart and listen to my gut.

If my gut is telling me that I should do it and if my feelings are still intense, there’s no need to think twice about it, no matter the outcome.

And do you know why? Because in the end, you only regret the things you didn’t do and not the ones you did!

5 Coisas que o vão encorajar a desbloquear-te e a estender-te a mão

Como já foi dito, em situações como esta, há dois resultados possíveis: deixar ir ou reunidos.

In case you’re not ready to let him go and you’re also not ready to reach him out directly (because it’s risky), há algumas coisas que pode fazer para o encorajar subtilmente a desbloquear e voltar para ti!

Se fizeres as seguintes coisas, é provável que ele perceba que bloquear-te foi uma coisa estúpida e que se arrependa imediatamente das suas acções.

If he didn’t block you on all social media…

Publique fotografias suas a divertir-se e a gozar a vida ao máximo

Acredite, não há nada mais poderoso do que ver alguém a divertir-se e a aproveitar cada segundo da sua vida. Isto é especialmente verdade quando se trata de bloquear.

When you block someone, it’s normal that you expect them to be confused and sad about it, and want to desperately try to reach out to you.

And when they don’t, you immediately start thinking about what is really going on and whether they care about you in the first place.

That’s exactly how he will feel if you keep posting pictures of yourself having fun and enjoying life to the fullest.

Se ele continuar a vê-la a rir-se com os seus amigos, a desfrutar de novas actividades e a fazer muitas outras coisas interessantes, vai perceber que a sua vida continua a ser fantástica sem ele. E por isso, ele vai querer fazer parte dela.

He won’t be able to accept the fact that you don’t really care that he blocked you and he’ll want to reach out to you in order to see if you still care about him.

Criar mistério

While it’s important to let him know that you’re enjoying life, it’s also important not to overdo it.

From time to time, you need to create mystery by not posting anything. Let him wonder about what you’re doing and what’s going on in your life instead of showing him your every move.

When he sees that you’re inactive online for some time, his imagination will go wild, thinking of all the exciting things happening in your life, and because of that, you have no time to even post a picture about it.

You’re so focused on enjoying every second of it that you forget about everything else, even social networking.

That’s the message you want to send him. That’s the message that will motivate him to reach out and come back to you!

If he blocked you on everything…

Conhecer novas pessoas

Instead of doing nothing and overthinking why he blocked you, it’s important that you get out and meet new people.

I don’t mean finding new potential partners, but simply hanging out with new people that might end up becoming your good friends.

When he sees that you moved on and continued living your best life, he will know that he’s slowly but surely losing you and become anxious about you meeting someone new who might just be better than him!

Descubra e alimente as suas paixões

“He blocked me and it hurts. I don’t know what to do with myself.” DON’T think about those things. Think about the things you enjoy doing – singing, drawing, skiing, swimming, dancing, cooking – and do them on a regular basis.

Alimentem as vossas paixões porque elas são a essência do vosso ser e da vossa felicidade.

Tudo isto fará com que transborde de energia positiva e, quando ele a vir em qualquer lado (e sabe que, a dada altura, o fará), sentir-se-á atraído por si como um louco.

He’ll see that you’re fulfilled and complete without him, which will trigger him to unblock you because he’ll desperately want to be a part of your life once again!

Rodeie-se de pessoas que o amam

A lei da atração diz: Atraímos o que pensamos e recebemos o que acreditamos.

Por isso, em vez de ficar a pensar nos seus pensamentos negativos e a perguntar-se porque é que ele a bloqueou, rodeie-se de pessoas que a amam.

Acredite em coisas positivas, viva com amor e rodeie-se de pessoas positivas que se preocupam consigo. E o universo fará o resto do trabalho por si.

If he’s the right one for you, he’ll unblock you and reach out. And if he’s not, the universe will protect you from potential heartbreak.

Concentre-se em tornar-se a melhor versão de si mesmo!

Se eu precisasse de resumir tudo o que foi dito acima, seria o seguinte:

Concentre-se em desfrutar da vida e tornar-se a melhor versão de si próprio!

Em vez de pensar demasiado e de se concentrar apenas nas coisas negativas que acompanham a frase Ele bloqueou-mepense em si próprio e no que pode fazer para tornar a sua vida mais significativa e preenchida.

Remember that it all starts with you. Just because he blocked you, it doesn’t mean that your life is over. Keep living your best life and things will fall into place sooner than you think!