Me ha bloqueado: Qué significa y qué hacer al respecto

Miras el móvil y de repente te das cuenta: me ha bloqueado. Probablemente no tienes ni idea de cómo y por qué ha ocurrido, y mucho menos de qué hacer al respecto. Well, today you’ll learn all you need to know about the potential reasons why te bloqueó y qué puede hacer al respecto

Don’t worry. You’re not alone! Happened to me multiple times and I know it’s not really comforting, but all I’m saying is that blocking must be a trending thing for the guys. (Still, this doesn’t justify their stupid actions.)

And, don’t worry, him blocking you doesn’t necessarily mean it’s the end.

Honestly, If you don’t want it to be the end, there are always ways to get him back. The easiest way I know is just UN CLIC away. I promise you won’t regret it.

There are many reasons why he’d do such a thing and sometimes it’s just because he needs some time and space (I’ll explain all of it in detail below).

¿Es inmaduro bloquear a alguien?

Sí, bloquear a alguien se considera un manera inmadura de manejar la situación. Sin duda, uno de lo peor de las citas modernas es el hecho de que existen innumerables opciones, ya sea ignorar, silenciar o bloquear.

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Before, people would just stop seeing each other and the only way to block the other person was by using one’s imagination.

Pero hoy, con un solo clic, la gente borra a posibles parejas, nuevas relacioneso relaciones a largo plazo bloqueando a la persona en las redes sociales. Vaya. Qué maduro.

I wish I could conclude all this by simply saying: “Modern dating requires modern solutions,” but it’s much more complex than that.

Como ya se ha dicho, hay muchas razones por las que una persona puede bloquear a otra.

There are many reasons why he would decide to do such an immature thing aka “delete you from his life,” and some of them are, let’s say, positive, and some not-so-positive.

Also, there are many ways to deal with it, and choosing the right one is of utmost importance! So, let’s get straight to work – you might want to buckle up because it’s gonna be a bumpy ride!

Relacionado: Qué pasa cuando se da cuenta de que le has bloqueado

¿Qué significa que un chico te bloquee?

La acción de bloquear a una ex novia o ex novio suele evocar una connotación y es: seguir adelante. Pero no todos los bloqueos significan eso. Hay muchas razones posibles por las que un chico te bloquearía y una de ellas es que necesita algo de tiempo y espacio (o que quiere que le persigas).

Cuando se trata de abordar un problema, el primer paso es comprender por qué ha ocurrido algo.

¿Por qué de repente su ex bloque usted de su cuenta(s) en las redes sociales) (de su vida) e impedir que vuelvas a enviarle mensajes de texto y a ponerte en contacto con él?

You would be surprised how many hidden meanings are behind this action on the spectrum of moving on to “jugando duro and hoping you’ll perseguirlo.”

Yes. I know you’re probably reading this in disbelief, but trust me, guys are totally unpredictable, but not undecipherable.

A veces, cuando quieren su ex vuelta, guys use lame methods like blocking in the hope that you’ll decide to chase after them.

And sometimes, it just means that they’re moving on and turning a new page.

There are also some possible reasons in between these two, so let’s check out all of them and figure it all out along the way:

Le duele demasiado tenerte en las redes sociales

Al contrario que las mujeres, Dios sabe que los hombres son tan terribles a la hora de comprender sus sentimientos hasta el punto de bloquear a la otra persona sólo porque les cuesta mirar su perfil.

El ejercicio es más o menos así:

Maybe she already met someone new and I couldn’t stand it if I saw her with another guy.

Or maybe she’s perfectly happy without me while I’m still feeling miserable and it would be too painful to realize that.

I’ll just block her, so that I can’t receive mensajes de texto o llamadas telefónicas de ella, o ver sus fotos nunca más.

It would be easier for me if I don’t know what’s really going on in her life and whether or not she’s happy without me.

This is exactly what happens in a guy’s head who’s afraid of potential disappointment.

No soporta que esa persona siga prácticamente presente en su mundo y que pueda ver lo feliz que es sin él.

So, he thinks blocking that person on social media will solve the issue – alas, it won’t in the long run.

There are still mutual friends who might at some point tell him everything about that one person he’s been desperately trying to ignore.

Deleting someone’s phone number or blocking them on social media is just a temporary solution, and after some time every guy realizes that (but sometimes a little too late).

He doesn’t want to hurt you

Como ya se ha dicho, los hombres siempre han tenido dificultades para gestionar sus emociones, por lo que a menudo eligen atajos como el bloqueo.

When they are confused about how they really feel about you and want to end things, but don’t want to do it in person, they choose a cowardly method of blocking you from their social media accounts.

Se aplican la regla del no contacto a little prematurely because they don’t want to leave you heartbroken. But, on the contrary, that’s exactly what they’re doing without even knowing it.

So, when a man blocks you because he doesn’t want to hurt you, he’s basically doing it because he doesn’t have the courage to do it in person.

He knows that he wouldn’t survive seeing you hurt and sad, and he’s afraid that he might either have second thoughts about the whole situation or say some mean things.

En su mente, bloquearte es menos doloroso que tener una conversación difícil. Pero, la verdadera pregunta es: ¿para quién es menos doloroso? Para él, definitivamente.

Blocking you means he will not have insight into how you’re feeling about the whole thing. But what he doesn’t get is that not knowing how you feel doesn’t mean that you aren’t hurt.

Just because he doesn’t see you in tears, doesn’t mean that you aren’t feeling sad and confused.

But, it’s really hard, if not impossible to explain this to a man, so the only thing we can do is try to understand it and act accordingly.

Sabe que bloquearte te hará daño

En la otra cara de la moneda, a veces los hombres deciden bloquearte sólo porque saben que te harán daño. Me atrevería a decir que este motivo es probablemente el peor escenario para cualquier chica.

It’s evident that they want revenge because of something you did or said. And sometimes, they do it because they’re under false impressions.

¿Cree que su ex quiere ¿Venganza?

If you’ve cheated on him or similar (which is usually the case with relaciones a larga distancia), then you know the real reason why he blocked you, but if you didn’t, then the situation is a little bit more complicated (but nothing we can’t solve together, right?)

Piensa en todo lo que ha ocurrido últimamente (especialmente durante la semana pasada) e intenta conectar los puntos.

If you don’t succeed in it, try asking his mejores amigos o vuestros amigos comunes de Facebook si saben algo sobre su extraño comportamiento y la razón por la que decidió bloquearte en el primer puesto.

You need to find the answer to why he would want to hurt you when you haven’t given him a reason to do so.

And if you can’t find it – not even when you’ve talked with all of his friends – then you know it’s something he probably imagined or misunderstood.

So, he blocked you on impulse because he didn’t want to talk to you about it or try to understand what really happened.

(Y ese impulso puede costarle muy caro más adelante).

Quiere borrarte de su vida

Si quieres que vuelva, probablemente esto sea lo que más te duela oír. Pero, sea como sea, necesitas oírla.

Así, cuando un chico decide que quiere borrarte de su vida para siempre, utilizará el método del bloqueo.

A mí me pasó lo mismo el año pasado. Llevaba seis meses de relación y, de repente, bloqueó mi número sin explicarme por qué ni decirme nada.

Así que, al día siguiente, mientras intentaba averiguar qué demonios había pasado, vi una foto suya con otra mujer en Whatsapp y Snapchat.

Also, our mutual friend told me that he was probably already seeing someone else behind my back, but couldn’t say for sure.

I guess he decided it’s finally time to delete me for good and he did it by blocking me so that he can avoid all the drama.

Now, I’m not saying that your guy wants to delete you from his life because he found someone else.

It’s one of the possibilities, but it’s not necessarily the truth. Other posibles razones por las que un chico querría borrarte de su vida son las siguientes:

• He’s afraid of commitment
• He’s emotionally unavailable
• He’s met someone new
• He doesn’t like you anymore
• He’s feeling stuck or bored
• He’s a player.

All the above reasons are too painful to think about, so you shouldn’t think about them at all.

Whatever the reason behind him wanting to delete you from his life, know that he’s not even worthy of being with you.

If he belongs to any above category, you definitely don’t need complications in your life because, confía en mí, men like this aren’t worthy of it.

(Pasar tiempo en Tinder sería mucho más sabio y valioso que esperar a que cambien).

Necesita tiempo y espacio

Y luego está este grupo de hombres que deciden bloquear a alguien sólo porque se sienten así: I necesito tiempo y el espacio (because apparently, it’s easier than saying it).

This happened to one of my female friends recently and I can’t tell you how mad I was about the whole situation. It was as if it was happening to me.

Entonces, el chico con el que salía desde hacía tiempo la bloqueó de repente.

Estaba como loca porque congeniaron totalmente y vio que realmente tenían potencial.

Given that she hadn’t heard about him ever since, she decided to imaginary delete him from her life and continue living as if she never met him.

Y entonces, ¡BOOM! El otro día, después de unos meses, la desbloqueó en redes sociales y le envió un mensaje.

¡Después de unos meses, gente!

She couldn’t believe it, I couldn’t believe it, and I bet all the people within a 5 mile radius couldn’t believe it either.

We were both in shock and disbelief. She couldn’t imagine that he would ever contact her again and to her amazement, he did.

Por primera vez, le dijo que sólo necesitaba algo de tiempo y espacio para resolverlo todo y se disculpó por desaparecer de la faz de la tierra.

¿EN SERIO, CHICOS?

Since when is it easier to block someone and assume that they’ll understand what you meant by it than to say what you really mean to them in person?

And, the worst of all, do you really expect that they’ll wait for an eternity for you to desbloquear ¿que todo será igual cuando decidas volver de repente? LOL.

Supongo que los chicos nunca entenderán las dificultades de sus decisiones de bloquearnos como sus seres queridos de la nada, arruinando literalmente nuestra salud mental sólo porque necesitaban algo de espacio y tiempo.

And we’ll never find a way to deal with them once they decide to come back into our lives. In situations like that, listening to our gut would seem like the best bet.

Ver también: ¿Necesita espacio o se acabó? 7 maneras de saberlo

Te bloqueó sin razón

The phenomenon “He blocked me on everything” or He blocked me for no reason” happens to a lot of women.

After trying to reach him, you get a voicemail or he sends some of his friends to explain to you that he blocked you for no reason – to convince you that no reason is a reason.

Ladies, if I learned anything during my humble life, it’s this: There is a reason behind every action and for every action, there is a reaction.

En otras palabras, hay una razón por la que te bloqueó y tienes todo el derecho a estar cabreada por ello.

You have every right to yell, scream, or curse, but there’s one thing you should never do.

Don’t just accept that he blocked you for no reason or beg him to come back and explain to you what happened.

The possible reasons why he blocked you are listed above, so if you haven’t figured it out yet, it’s better to re-read it again than to lie to yourself.

La única manera de afrontar la situación es primero aceptarla y comprenderla.

And thinking that there’s no reason behind his action will not help. It will only prolong your pain and misery.

Así que sé sincero contigo mismo y acepta la razón, por difícil que parezca hacerlo.

Other Things To Consider…

Para ayudarte a entender la verdadera razón por la que te ha bloqueado (y si alguna vez te desbloqueará), aquí tienes algunas preguntas adicionales que debes tener en cuenta:

¿Es la primera vez que te bloquea o lo ha hecho antes?

If this is not the first time he’s blocked you, then you know it’s his way of dealing with problems.

I know many people who block their partner literally whenever anything bad happens because they don’t know how to cope with it. There was this one guy who blocked me on Facebook not once but multiple times. It was hilarious.

And sometimes it’s not even a big deal, but they still do it because it’s their way of dealing with negative things in life.

Piensan que simplemente borrando a la otra persona, borrarán también toda la negatividad. Y normalmente, al cabo de un tiempo, recapacitan y desbloquear la persona.

But, if he’s never done it before, then you know it’s not his way of dealing with problems, it’s something else.

La razón es probablemente una de las anteriores o se esconde en las siguientes preguntas. Sólo tienes que abrir los ojos y mirar con atención.

Were you fighting over something or did you hurt each other’s feelings in some way?

Si fueras tener una discusión de algún tipo durante el cual os dijisteis muchas palabras duras, entonces esta podría ser la razón por la que te bloqueó.

When you’re feeling mad, hurt, or disappointed, it’s hard to think rationally. All you can think of is how to make it go away.

And that’s why some people use this blocking method as a way of wiping negative things from their life. But this doesn’t help in the long run.

Aunque te haya bloqueado, seguirá sin poder olvidar lo sucedido porque le perseguirá.

Because of that, there’s a good chance that he will unblock you once he’s recharged and had time to think things through.

¿Podrían sus amigos o familiares haberle dicho que te bloqueara por alguna razón?

Multiple times I’ve witnessed the situation where friends and family advise someone to do certain things like blocking, deleting numbers, stop seeing the person, and so on.

It’s important to understand that it’s one thing to give advice, but telling them what to do and controlling their love life is a totally different thing.

Y quizá a usted también le haya ocurrido.

One way to find out whether this is true is by asking your mutual friends about it, but you definitely don’t want to go too deep when it comes to this one.

Arguing with his loved ones over him blocking you could escalate real quickly and you don’t need all that extra drama in your life.

We can all make decisions for ourselves, so the sheer fact that he’s obeying other people’s commands says a lot about his “maturity.”

¿Fuiste demasiado intrusivo después de romper?

Las rupturas siempre son duras y a veces nos hacen hacer cosas que (normalmente) nunca se nos habrían ocurrido.

Nos convertimos en acosadores. Nos sentamos junto a nuestro teléfono 24 horas al día, 7 días a la semana, con la esperanza de que nos llamen o nos envíen un mensaje de texto.

And when they don’t, we decide to take the initiative and hope they’ll reciprocate. We become too intrusive without even being aware of it.

Por ser demasiado intrusivo me refiero a mandar mensajes constantemente, llamar, rogar, acosar y otras acciones que quizás le han motivado a bloquearte.

I know it sounds harsh, but he was probably annoyed by all those calls and texts from you, that’s why he decided to block you.

But still, you shouldn’t give a damn about it. And you know why?

Because you obviously care about him a lot and you were trying to tell him that, but he didn’t give you a chance to say what you really mean.

The easiest thing a man can do is block someone, but it takes courage to deal with an issue. That’s how you know whether he’s a real man o simplemente otro gilipollas.

Véase también: 11 cosas que hacer cuando no puedes dejar de pensar en él

Did he ask you to give him some space (but you didn’t)?

Men are really weird when it comes to the “needing space” thing and you can never know what they really think or need.

But, if he specifically asked you to give him some space and you didn’t, then you know why he blocked you.

Perhaps he needed some time alone to reflect on your relationship or whatever you call it, and because you didn’t give it to him, he decided to do it his way and block you.

If that is the case, you can’t be mad at him because he asked you to give him space, but you decided not to do it.

Because of that, he might classify you as being needy and selfish. But, you shouldn’t really worry about it either because this doesn’t mean that he’s blocked you for good.

It’s just that he took some time and space for himself and when he’s done with it, he will probably unblock you sooner than you think.

¿Volverá después de bloquearme?

The answer to the question “He blocked me, will he come back?” depends greatly on the reason why he did so in the first place.

Si te ha bloqueado por motivos distintos a estos dos: Sabe que bloquearte te hará daño y quiere borrarte de su vida, then there’s a high chance he might unblock you at some point.

Remember my friend’s situation in the He needs some time and space section?

Pues bien, puedes esperar que a ti también te ocurra exactamente lo mismo, independientemente de si el motivo es que él necesita espacio o que no quiere hacerte daño.

Puede que te desbloquee al cabo de una semana, un mes, un par de meses o incluso un año. Todo depende de lo que realmente le pase por la cabeza y del tiempo que necesite para resolverlo.

As already said, some men need more time, while others less. Now, I’m not saying that you should wait for him to desbloquear (aunque tenga que esperar mucho tiempo).

All I’m saying is that it’s possible and it’s very likely that it will happen.

We’ll talk more about it later on. Now let’s focus on what you should do or not do in the meantime!

Me ha bloqueado: ¿Qué hacer al respecto?

Now that we’re done with all those possible reasons why he blocked you, it’s time to see what you can do about it.

And no, this doesn’t include stalking, texting, or calling him. If you do this, you will neither succeed in forgetting him or getting him to unblock you. You will only make things worse.

Cuando alguien te bloquea, sólo hay dos cosas que debes hacer (o dejar de hacer) para obtener el mejor resultado posible:

No vuelvas a acercarte a él

Instead of wasting your time sitting next to your phone and thinking about the question “Why did he block me?” I advise never reaching out to him again. No hay mensajes, mensajeríay NO al acecho en redes sociales.

¿Por qué? Porque no tender nunca la mano es diez veces más poderoso que tenderla.

The reason why he blocked you is because he temporarily doesn’t want to be in touch with you (for some reason), so desperately trying to contact him will only make things worse than they are already.

You don’t want him to think that you’re needy or desperate and that you don’t have your own life without him, but that you’re perfectly fine without him, that blocking you is his loss and not yours.

Quieres que vea que you’re an independent woman and you don’t need people in your life who aren’t willing to be with you or worthy of being with you.

Cuando se dé cuenta de todo eso, también se dará cuenta del error de bloquearte y te querrá de vuelta.

At some point, he will unblock you and when he does, it’s up to you what you will decide to do.

Tienes dos opciones: puedes seguir viviendo tu mejor vida sin él o darle otra oportunidad para reencontrarte.

Véase también: Cómo olvidar a un chico: 14 pasos para olvidarle en un abrir y cerrar de ojos

Dale algo de tiempo antes de acercarte

If you’re determined about getting him back and you don’t want to wait forever on him to finally decide to unblock you and contact you, there is another option and that is giving him some time before reaching out to him!

El énfasis está en darle ALGO DE TIEMPO porque para conseguir que desbloquear usted, primero tiene que hacerle te echo de menos.

Y hacer que alguien te eche de menos consiste en darle algo de espacio y tiempo para que eso se desarrolle.

Now, I won’t lie to you. Sometimes, even when you give them some space and time, nothing changes.

There is a chance that when you reach him out, he won’t be interested in coming back to you or explaining por qué te bloqueó en primer lugar (en caso de que aún se desconozca el motivo).

Por lo tanto, ser el primero en llegar a él es un movimiento arriesgado y puede que no te traiga resultados positivos.

But as always, it’s all up to you! In situations like this, I personally always choose to follow my heart and listen to my gut.

If my gut is telling me that I should do it and if my feelings are still intense, there’s no need to think twice about it, no matter the outcome.

And do you know why? Because in the end, you only regret the things you didn’t do and not the ones you did!

5 cosas que le animarán a desbloquearte y a acercarse a ti

Como ya se ha dicho, en situaciones como ésta, hay dos resultados posibles: dejarse llevar o reunirse.

In case you’re not ready to let him go and you’re also not ready to reach him out directly (because it’s risky), hay algunas cosas que puedes hacer para animarle sutilmente a que desbloquear ¡y volver contigo!

Si haces lo siguiente, probablemente se dará cuenta de que bloquearte fue una estupidez y se arrepentirá al instante.

If he didn’t block you on all social media…

Publica fotos tuyas divirtiéndote y disfrutando de la vida al máximo

Créeme, no hay nada más poderoso que ver a alguien pasándoselo como nunca y disfrutando de cada segundo. Esto es especialmente cierto cuando se trata de bloquear.

When you block someone, it’s normal that you expect them to be confused and sad about it, and want to desperately try to reach out to you.

And when they don’t, you immediately start thinking about what is really going on and whether they care about you in the first place.

That’s exactly how he will feel if you keep posting pictures of yourself having fun and enjoying life to the fullest.

Si sigue viéndote reír con tus amigos, disfrutar de nuevas actividades y hacer muchas otras cosas interesantes, se dará cuenta de que tu vida sigue siendo estupenda sin él en ella. Y por eso, querrá formar parte de ella.

He won’t be able to accept the fact that you don’t really care that he blocked you and he’ll want to reach out to you in order to see if you still care about him.

Crear misterio

While it’s important to let him know that you’re enjoying life, it’s also important not to overdo it.

From time to time, you need to create mystery by not posting anything. Let him wonder about what you’re doing and what’s going on in your life instead of showing him your every move.

When he sees that you’re inactive online for some time, his imagination will go wild, thinking of all the exciting things happening in your life, and because of that, you have no time to even post a picture about it.

You’re so focused on enjoying every second of it that you forget about everything else, even social networking.

That’s the message you want to send him. That’s the message that will motivate him to reach out and come back to you!

If he blocked you on everything…

Conocer gente nueva

Instead of doing nothing and overthinking why he blocked you, it’s important that you get out and meet new people.

I don’t mean finding new potential partners, but simply hanging out with new people that might end up becoming your good friends.

When he sees that you moved on and continued living your best life, he will know that he’s slowly but surely losing you and become anxious about you meeting someone new who might just be better than him!

Descubra y alimente sus pasiones

“He blocked me and it hurts. I don’t know what to do with myself.” DON’T think about those things. Think about the things you enjoy doing – singing, drawing, skiing, swimming, dancing, cooking – and do them on a regular basis.

Alimenta tus pasiones porque son la esencia de tu ser y de tu felicidad.

Todo esto hará que rezumes energía positiva y cuando te vea en algún sitio (y sabes que en algún momento lo hará), se sentirá atraído por ti como un loco.

He’ll see that you’re fulfilled and complete without him, which will trigger him to unblock you because he’ll desperately want to be a part of your life once again!

Rodéate de gente que te quiera

La ley de la atracción dice: Atraes lo que piensas y recibes lo que crees.

Así que, en lugar de quedarte en tus pensamientos negativos y preguntarte por qué te ha bloqueado, rodéate de gente que te quiera.

Cree en cosas positivas, vive con amor y rodéate de personas positivas que se preocupen por ti. Y el universo hará el resto del trabajo por ti.

If he’s the right one for you, he’ll unblock you and reach out. And if he’s not, the universe will protect you from potential heartbreak.

Concéntrese en convertirse en la mejor versión de sí mismo.

Si tengo que resumir todo lo dicho anteriormente, sería esto:

Céntrese en disfrutar de la vida y convertirse en la mejor versión de uno mismo!

En lugar de pensar demasiado y centrarse sólo en las cosas negativas que vienen con la frase Me bloqueó.Piensa en ti y en lo que puedes hacer para que tu vida tenga más sentido y sea más plena.

Remember that it all starts with you. Just because he blocked you, it doesn’t mean that your life is over. Keep living your best life and things will fall into place sooner than you think!