5 Sinais de que você oficialmente se afastou do seu ex tóxico

When you break up with a toxic man, the consequences of everything he’d been doing to you for years sadly remain with you for quite some time. And you can’t say that you’ve finally moved on from him until you get rid of all of this guy’s past shadows.

Se está a pensar se conseguiu mesmo ultrapassar a sua ex tóxico or you are just in the process of doing so, we are giving you 5 badass signs that you’ve officially turned over a new leaf.

You don’t feel the need to contact him

When you just break up with someone you still care about, the first impulse you have is to reach out to him. Maybe you want to tell him how much you miss him, maybe you want to start a fight or just see what he’s been up to. You may want to pick up the phone just to hear his voice or show up at his doorstep, hoping he’d have you back.

But you restrain yourself from doing any of this. You know it is a bad idea and his potential rejection would break your heart all over again. But you still want to do it, even if you aren’t doing it.

And you know when you can be certain that you really are over someone? When you don’t have to hold yourself back from contacting them. And this is exactly what is happening to you.

Lately, you don’t feel the need to reach out to this man. You don’t have to fight the urge to call him or to see him every minute of every day. And that is one of the most certain signs you really have moved on from him.

You don’t want to respond when he contacts you

What is common for most asshole ex boyfriends is that they usually realize what they’ve lost, and they arrepender-se de ter perdido no momento em que realmente nos perdem. E o seu ex não é exceção.

When he saw that you were getting over him, he began crawling back to you. All of a sudden, he started reaching out and he was the one initiating all the contact. And just like that, you felt no need to respond to him. You are not happy even though, after all, he came back to you but you don’t care if he still loves or misses you.

No, you aren’t ignoring him to make him chase you. You aren’t doing it to teach him a lesson or to heal your broken ego. You aren’t answering this guy’s texts or phone calls simply because you don’t want to and don’t have the need to.

You only think of him as a part of the past and you don’t have any intention of changing that. You guys are over and things will remain that way, no matter what he does.

You’ve stopped looking for closure

Quando se termina uma relação e quando se fica de coração partido, é perfeitamente natural que se queira um desfecho. Quer saber porque é que as coisas correram como correram e quer algum tipo de final para esta história.

But one of the signs you’ve officially moved on from your ex is that you’ve deixou de procurar uma solução. You accepted that you’ll never understand some things and to be frank, you don’t want to know them either.

You’ve stopped rewinding your relationship back and forth in your head, thinking of everything both of you could have done differently. You’ve stopped looking for reasons why things ended the way they did and wondering if you could have prevented it.

You’ve stopped trying to figure out why your ex treated you the way he did and you are no longer justifying him.

Most importantly, you’ve stopped contemplating everything that could have been of the two of you. You’ve just accepted that your relationship came to an end and that you two weren’t meant to be.

Está completamente concentrado em si próprio

Quando sentimos falta de alguém e quando estamos magoados, gastamos toda a nossa energia com essa pessoa, mesmo que ela não esteja fisicamente presente na nossa vida. Coloca todos os seus esforços em consertar o teu coração partido e, nesse processo, ignora-se completamente a si próprio.

E quando começamos a concentrar-nos em nós próprios, isso significa que ultrapassámos oficialmente essa dor que nos consumia. Quando começa a trabalhar para se melhorar e para se fazer feliz, significa que deixou realmente o passado onde ele pertence.

Ama-se e aprecia-se

Quando passamos anos com uma pessoa tóxica que aproveita todas as oportunidades para nos diminuir e para nos fazer sentir mal connosco próprios, acabamos por começar a acreditar nela. Apesar de tentarmos lutar contra isso, a pessoa consegue convencer-nos de que não servimos para nada e que ela é a melhor coisa que nos aconteceu.

That is why one of the most important signs that you really have moved on with your life is that you are growing to love yourself again. You got rid of your ex’s voice from the back of your head, telling you that you are not enough and never will be.

Luckily, you got rid of this man and it helped you see your worth again. It helped you appreciate and love yourself again and that is a clear sign that he didn’t break you.