8 maneiras pelas quais você está inconscientemente se mantendo solteiro
Dá por si a pensar: Será que alguma vez vou encontrar o verdadeiro amor?
O amor é algo de que toda a gente precisa. Toda a gente quer sentir-se segura e acarinhada.
When you have a significant other, it’s easier to face challenges and everyday life is happier and more comfortable overall.
If you’re one of those people who is losing hope when it comes to their love life, ask yourself if these things are subconsciously keeping you único:
1. You haven’t really gotten over your ex
You know he wasn’t the one but that doesn’t keep you from feeling nostalgic over the time you spent together.
It may look good in your mind, in your memories, but in reality, it’s probably better you’re not together.
Be honest with yourself and think about this possibility; if that doesn’t help, remember the reason why you broke up in the first place.
2. Dá mais ouvidos aos seus amigos do que a si próprio
Ok, so you meet a guy and you like him; naturally, the first person you’re going to talk about it to is your friend and sometimes friends project their own experiences and worries onto us.
Friends mean us no harm but that doesn’t mean they can’t do any harm. Listen to your friend but listen to yourself first.
If you like someone, go for it; you don’t need permission from anyone.
3. Os vossos padrões não são racionais
Maybe it’s because you were hurt before or maybe you’re just stubborn but setting irrationally high standards doesn’t make sense.
Every person is different and every person has their good and bad sides. We can’t think our perfect person into existence; that’s not how it works.
For love to be true, we need to accept the fact that everyone makes mistakes and the fact that what we think is best for us isn’t always best for us.
4. You don’t believe good men exist
Esta lógica é obviamente causada por más experiências com o seu antigo parceiro ou com figuras masculinas da sua vida.
It’s hard to believe in the goodness of men once we experience terrible things. However, the reality is that good men do exist.
Once you start believing in the existence of good men, they will appear in your life. Don’t judge all men based on one experience. Give them a chance.
5. You’re afraid of being hurt again
Esta é uma reação normal quando se trata de sobreviver a algum tipo de trauma.
Maybe you’re telling yourself you want to be alone but the truth is you’re just scared of being hurt.
O medo de ser magoado pode prejudicar tremendamente a sua vida amorosa. Temos de nos curar e seguir em frente. Quando o verdadeiro amor bater à sua porta, esteja pronto para a abrir!
6. You’re too focused on your career and other things in life
Relationships need effort to work out. When you’re busy with things like your career or some type of time-consuming business, you’re putting aside your love life.
That’s okay—if that’s what you want! If that’s not what you want, think about the priorities in your life.
Nothing is set in stone, you’re free to change your life if you want to.
7. Romantiza as relações e confia no destino
Acreditar no destino e no amor verdadeiro é uma coisa positiva. Por outro lado, esperar que alguém ou alguma coisa faça o trabalho por si é ilusório.
Assuma a responsabilidade e tome medidas que o levem ao seu objetivo. Para que algo aconteça, é preciso criar primeiro a possibilidade.
8. Fica demasiado tempo em casa
I know there are introverts among us but that shouldn’t stop you from finding the love of your life.
Se gosta de ficar em casa e passar o seu tempo a ler um livro ou a ver filmes, pode ter a certeza de que algures por aí há uma pessoa que gosta de fazer o mesmo.
Só precisam de se encontrar um ao outro.
If you don’t like clubs or bars, try online options. List your interests and try your luck; why not?
To sum this up, here’s what I need to say: Don’t deny yourself love.
Be open and good things will come your way. Love takes courage so be brave and don’t give up.
