8 modi in cui ti stai inconsciamente mantenendo single

Vi ritrovate a pensare: Troverò mai il vero amore?

L'amore è qualcosa di cui tutti hanno bisogno. Tutti vogliono sentirsi al sicuro e accuditi.

When you have a significant other, it’s easier to face challenges and everyday life is happier and more comfortable overall.

If you’re one of those people who is losing hope when it comes to their love life, ask yourself if these things are subconsciously keeping you singolo:

1. You haven’t really gotten over your ex

You know he wasn’t the one but that doesn’t keep you from feeling nostalgic over the time you spent together.

It may look good in your mind, in your memories, but in reality, it’s probably better you’re not together.

Be honest with yourself and think about this possibility; if that doesn’t help, remember the reason why you broke up in the first place.

2. Ascoltate più gli amici che voi stessi

Ok, so you meet a guy and you like him; naturally, the first person you’re going to talk about it to is your friend and sometimes friends project their own experiences and worries onto us.

Friends mean us no harm but that doesn’t mean they can’t do any harm. Listen to your friend but listen to yourself first.

If you like someone, go for it; you don’t need permission from anyone.

3. I vostri standard non sono razionali

Maybe it’s because you were hurt before or maybe you’re just stubborn but setting irrationally high standards doesn’t make sense.

Every person is different and every person has their good and bad sides. We can’t think our perfect person into existence; that’s not how it works.

For love to be true, we need to accept the fact that everyone makes mistakes and the fact that what we think is best for us isn’t always best for us.

4. You don’t believe good men exist

Questa logica è ovviamente causata da esperienze negative con il vostro partner passato o con le figure maschili della vostra vita.

It’s hard to believe in the goodness of men once we experience terrible things. However, the reality is that good men do exist.

Once you start believing in the existence of good men, they will appear in your life. Don’t judge all men based on one experience. Give them a chance.

5. You’re afraid of being hurt again

Si tratta di una reazione normale quando si tratta di sopravvivere a un qualche tipo di trauma.

Maybe you’re telling yourself you want to be alone but the truth is you’re just scared of being hurt.

La paura di essere feriti può danneggiare enormemente la vostra vita sentimentale. Dobbiamo guarire e andare avanti. Quando il vero amore bussa alla vostra porta, siate pronti ad aprire!

6. You’re too focused on your career and other things in life

Relationships need effort to work out. When you’re busy with things like your career or some type of time-consuming business, you’re putting aside your love life.

That’s okay—if that’s what you want! If that’s not what you want, think about the priorities in your life.

Nothing is set in stone, you’re free to change your life if you want to.

7. Romanticizzate le relazioni e vi affidate al destino

Credere nel destino e nel vero amore è una cosa positiva. D'altra parte, aspettarsi che qualcuno o qualcosa faccia il lavoro per voi è delirante.

Assumetevi la responsabilità e agite per raggiungere il vostro obiettivo. Affinché qualcosa accada, dovete prima creare la possibilità.

8. Rimani troppo a casa

I know there are introverts among us but that shouldn’t stop you from finding the love of your life.

Se vi piace stare in casa e passare il tempo leggendo un libro o guardando un film, potete essere certi che da qualche parte c'è una persona a cui piace fare lo stesso.

Dovete solo trovarvi l'un l'altro.

If you don’t like clubs or bars, try online options. List your interests and try your luck; why not?

To sum this up, here’s what I need to say: Don’t deny yourself love.

Be open and good things will come your way. Love takes courage so be brave and don’t give up.