Um milhão de razões para partir, apenas uma para ficar... Vale a pena?

You know that moment when you feel like you’re at a crossroads of your life?

You’re constantly weighing up the pros and cons? The good and bad? The reasons to leave and the ones to stay?

I’m asking you now, does love really conquer all? Is loving someone truly enough to make a relationship work?

A única coisa que posso dizer com certeza agora é que o amor é uma emoção tão poderosa e tão estranha ao mesmo tempo.

It’s powerful in the way that it can cure even the most damaged hearts and bring back faith in life even to those people who completely lost it.

Why is it weird? Well, it takes over your heart but it also has command over your mind and body too. Sometimes it makes you so blind that you can’t see even the most obvious things.

O amor vale a pena arriscar tudo? Vale a pena arriscar-se a ficar com o coração partido? Vale a pena passar por tanta dor e drama?

É claro que nada é certo na vida. Nunca podemos ter a certeza do que o futuro nos reserva e, por vezes, temos de arriscar e fazer alguma coisa, mesmo que isso possa ser mau para nós.

No entanto, este dilema não é tão simples quanto isso.

Our heart is suffering because the person we love doesn’t love us in the same way but our heart also aches at the bare thought that we should let them go and move on.

How can we make a decision when we know that it’ll hurt us badly, no matter what we decide? It seems like we actually have to decide what will hurt us less.

Será que o amor é assim tão poderoso que se alguém nos der tantas razões para partir e só tivermos UMA para ficar, só tivermos o nosso amor, será realmente suficiente? Será que isso o faria feliz?

O amor pode realmente fazer-nos esquecer todos os outros lados, todos os lados maus, da nossa relação? Será que ele também tem esse poder?

The thing is that for the rest of your life, you won’t be able to justify him treating you badly with the fact that he loves you and you love him.

Just because you love him, you can’t keep forgiving him for his mistakes. It’s not true love then, it’s just infatuation. And be careful, as those two are very similar so you may confuse them.

However, there is one very important difference between them, that true love is timeless, it doesn’t have an expiry date, while infatuation only lasts for some time and makes you obsessed with a person.

The sad truth is that it’ll really hurt you no matter what decision you make. But that’s just how life is and sometimes it truly isn’t fair and it seems like it’s only playing with us.

You know, I was once at the same crossroads where you’re now standing. I was also suffering the way you do now.

Também eu rezava a Deus, tal como tu fazes agora. Pedi-Lhe que me mostrasse a direção certa. But that wasn’t happening because He wanted to make me come to the right decision by myself.

Eu amava esse homem, apesar de ele nunca me ter dado boas razões para isso. Eu estava profundamente apaixonada por ele, apesar de as suas acções me magoarem tantas vezes, apesar de ele me partir o coração todos os dias, pedaço a pedaço.

It’s the weird side of love. Estava sempre a fechar os olhos à verdade.

Embora o meu coração já estivesse partido num milhão de pedaços, continuava a trabalhar e a carregar a mesma quantidade de amor, amor pelo homem que era realmente culpado de toda a sua dor e que o tinha partido.

I made my decision and chose a direction a while ago. That was a really tough call but I don’t regret it so now I know it definitely was the right one.

You have to fall in love with yourself again. Look at it in this way, you have a million reasons to choose yourself and only one to choose a man who doesn’t deserve you. Which will it be?

Don’t keep going back to the same old heartache because your heart will never be able to heal that way.

Choose yourself because your heart deserves it. Choose yourself because you’re the only constant in your life. Choose yourself because after all, you need yourself the most.