Estes 8 mitos sobre "The One" precisam de ser quebrados o mais depressa possível

Acredita em almas gémeas? Achas mesmo que é verdade que todos nós temos aquela pessoa que está destinada para nós, que é perfeita para nós?

I believe in soulmates too. However, this other part is tricky. Most people are waiting for that one person who’ll be perfect but unfortunately, they aren’t aware that such a person doesn’t exist.

None of us is perfect and it’s perfectly fine. Because after all, we shouldn’t be searching for someone perfect, we should be looking for someone who will love us in a perfect way.

If you still haven’t found the right person, you should check these myths that most people believe about their soulmate but aren’t aware that it’s only holding them back and standing in the way of true love.

When you meet that person, you’ll instantly know they’re ‘the one’

Quantos casais conhece que começaram como amigos mas que agora têm uma relação feliz e duradoura? Sim, o seu instinto pode estar errado mesmo em relação à pessoa que está destinada para si.

Maybe love at first sight does exist but still, even if you click instantly, you can’t know for sure that they are the person you’ll spend the rest of your life with.

You must be aware that there is no true unconditional love without trust and it’ll definitely take time to build that trust between you.

O amor à primeira vista é apenas uma fase de paixão, a atração que se sente por alguém quando se conhece essa pessoa pela primeira vez.

You shouldn’t be searching, your soulmate will find you

Many people believe that we shouldn’t be looking for our soulmate because they’ll find us. But when you stop for a moment to think about it, is it really logical?

Either way, one person will be searching. Yes, I do believe that true love will find a way to cross your path but that doesn’t mean you should just sit there and wait for it to happen.

Deves pôr-te à vontade. Sair, conhecer novas pessoas e abraçar novas aventuras na vida. Nunca se sabe onde essas aventuras nos podem levar. Para a tua pessoa eterna, talvez?

A pessoa certa ficará ao seu lado, aconteça o que acontecer

This is one of many soulmate definitions you can find online. So, let’s put it this way; if you cheat on them, humiliate and disrespect them, they’ll still stay by your side?

No, it definitely doesn’t work like that. No person should tolerate being disrespected in a relationship, no matter how much they love the other person.

Para encontrar a pessoa certa e ter uma boa relação, também é preciso fazer algum esforço. You must show your partner the way you want to be treated and you’ll only do that by treating them exactly the same way.

See also: 10 Things To Do If You’re Being Disrespected In Your Relationship

You’ll never argue with that person

Do you really think that you and your soulmate will be exactly alike? That there won’t be any differences between you?

Oh, how wrong that is. I don’t and I truly don’t want to find anyone similar to me because I know it would be a total mess. I’m more of an ‘opposites attract’ kind of person.

Lembrem-se disto primeiro: é permitido ter algumas pequenas discussões numa relação, porque essas coisas irão efetivamente reforçar os laços entre vós.

Não há casais saudáveis e empenhados sem algumas diferenças entre eles.

The question is how you’ll manage those differences. It’s important to accept and embrace your differences and to make the most of them.

Essa pessoa tornar-se-á tudo para si

Bem, isto é bastante fascinante para mim. Enquanto os teus pais estiverem vivos, enquanto tiveres amigos honestos e leais, o teu parceiro nunca será capaz de se tornar tudo para ti.

It would be completely unfair to all the other people in your life who are there for good reason. It’s good to know your priorities but don’t ever make the list of your priorities a one-person list.

You’ll never have to make any compromises

Oh, really? Sometimes, we have to make compromises with ourself, so how could we find someone we won’t have to make any compromises with?

I don’t think it’s possible. We are all unique human beings with unique perspectives and different opinions.

That’s why we all have to settle for some compromises from time to time if we want to keep the engine (our relationship) going.

It’ll be a completely effortless relationship

Acredita mesmo que uma relação entre duas pessoas pode ser bem sucedida sem qualquer esforço? Será o amor o único ingrediente necessário para uma relação bem sucedida?

Não, não, não. To get such a complicated thing as a romantic relationship to work, you’ll need so many more ingredients. O amor é crucial, mas fazer compromissos e sacrifícios e criar confiança também são essenciais.

Essa pessoa será a tua outra metade

How many times have you heard someone saying, “When I finally meet the right one, my life will be complete,” or, “My partner is my other half.”?

O quê? Este é um grande mito falso sobre almas gémeas que precisa mesmo de ser quebrado imediatamente. Deus fez-te uma pessoa completa, por que razão te sentirias incompleto?

Se sente que falta algo na sua vida, nenhuma outra pessoa será capaz de o preencher. Só tu tens essa capacidade.

You don’t need anyone to complete you, you just need someone to accept you, the WHOLE you, just the way you are.