Estos 8 mitos sobre "el elegido" deben romperse cuanto antes

¿Cree en las almas gemelas? ¿Realmente crees que es cierto que todos tenemos a esa persona que está hecha para nosotros, que es perfecta para nosotros?

I believe in soulmates too. However, this other part is tricky. Most people are waiting for that one person who’ll be perfect but unfortunately, they aren’t aware that such a person doesn’t exist.

None of us is perfect and it’s perfectly fine. Because after all, we shouldn’t be searching for someone perfect, we should be looking for someone who will love us in a perfect way.

If you still haven’t found the right person, you should check these myths that most people believe about their soulmate but aren’t aware that it’s only holding them back and standing in the way of true love.

When you meet that person, you’ll instantly know they’re ‘the one’

¿Cuántas parejas conoces que empezaron siendo amigos y ahora mantienen una relación feliz y duradera? Sí, tu instinto puede equivocarse incluso con esa persona que está hecha para ti.

Maybe love at first sight does exist but still, even if you click instantly, you can’t know for sure that they are the person you’ll spend the rest of your life with.

You must be aware that there is no true unconditional love without trust and it’ll definitely take time to build that trust between you.

El amor a primera vista no es más que una etapa de enamoramiento, la atracción que sientes por alguien cuando lo conoces por primera vez.

You shouldn’t be searching, your soulmate will find you

Many people believe that we shouldn’t be looking for our soulmate because they’ll find us. But when you stop for a moment to think about it, is it really logical?

Either way, one person will be searching. Yes, I do believe that true love will find a way to cross your path but that doesn’t mean you should just sit there and wait for it to happen.

Debes salir ahí fuera. Sal, conoce a gente nueva y vive nuevas aventuras. Nunca se sabe adónde pueden llevarte esas aventuras. ¿Quizá a la persona de tu vida?

La persona adecuada permanecerá a tu lado pase lo que pase

This is one of many soulmate definitions you can find online. So, let’s put it this way; if you cheat on them, humiliate and disrespect them, they’ll still stay by your side?

No, it definitely doesn’t work like that. No person should tolerate being disrespected in a relationship, no matter how much they love the other person.

Para encontrar a la persona adecuada y tener una buena relación, también hay que esforzarse. You must show your partner the way you want to be treated and you’ll only do that by treating them exactly the same way.

See also: 10 Things To Do If You’re Being Disrespected In Your Relationship

You’ll never argue with that person

Do you really think that you and your soulmate will be exactly alike? That there won’t be any differences between you?

Oh, how wrong that is. I don’t and I truly don’t want to find anyone similar to me because I know it would be a total mess. I’m more of an ‘opposites attract’ kind of person.

Recuerda esto primero: en una relación está permitido tener pequeñas discusiones, porque esas cosas en realidad refuerzan el vínculo entre vosotros.

No hay parejas sanas y comprometidas sin algunas diferencias entre ellas.

The question is how you’ll manage those differences. It’s important to accept and embrace your differences and to make the most of them.

Esa persona se convertirá en tu todo

Esto me parece fascinante. Mientras tus padres estén vivos, mientras tengas amigos honestos y leales, tu pareja nunca podrá convertirse en tu todo.

It would be completely unfair to all the other people in your life who are there for good reason. It’s good to know your priorities but don’t ever make the list of your priorities a one-person list.

You’ll never have to make any compromises

Oh, really? Sometimes, we have to make compromises with ourself, so how could we find someone we won’t have to make any compromises with?

I don’t think it’s possible. We are all unique human beings with unique perspectives and different opinions.

That’s why we all have to settle for some compromises from time to time if we want to keep the engine (our relationship) going.

It’ll be a completely effortless relationship

¿De verdad crees que una relación entre dos personas puede tener éxito sin poner ningún esfuerzo en ella? ¿Es el amor el único ingrediente necesario para que una relación tenga éxito?

No, no, no. To get such a complicated thing as a romantic relationship to work, you’ll need so many more ingredients. El amor es crucial, pero también lo son los compromisos, los sacrificios y la confianza.

Esa persona será tu otra mitad

How many times have you heard someone saying, “When I finally meet the right one, my life will be complete,” or, “My partner is my other half.”?

¿Qué? Este es un gran mito falso sobre las almas gemelas que hay que romper inmediatamente. Dios te hizo una persona completa, así que ¿por qué te sentirías incompleta?

Si sientes que falta algo en tu vida, ninguna otra persona podrá llenarlo. Sólo tú tienes esa capacidad.

You don’t need anyone to complete you, you just need someone to accept you, the WHOLE you, just the way you are.