9 sinais alarmantes de que você está namorando uma namorada psicopata
Having a psycho girlfriend is every guy’s nightmare. The worst part is that they’re all around us; they’re just difficult to notice.
De facto, na maioria dos casos, uma rapariga louca estará disfarçada de sonho tornado realidade e o GF perfeito.
When you meet her, you’ll think that she is material de namorada and that she’s everything you’ve been looking for in a woman.
Once you realize who you’re dealing with, it’s often too late to escape her claws.
É claro que pode sempre salvar-se, mas isso vai exigir-lhe muito mais tempo e esforço do que no início.
Bem, para o evitar, é preciso conhecer todos os sinais alarmantes de uma namorada psicopata. Aqui estão 9 dos mais comuns.
Ela está sempre interessada nos seus assuntos
O seu rapariga de sonho cuida de si. Ela ouve-o, mostra interesse pela sua vida e lembra-se de todas as pequenas coisas que lhe disse.
No entanto, e se ela exagerar? E se ela estiver demasiado interessada em si? Bem, isso também é possível.
You see, when you’re involved with a girl like this, the number one problem is that she doesn’t have a life of her own.
De facto, a partir do momento em que começam a namorar, ela tenta tornar-se parte da vossa vida.
She doesn’t let you have any privacy. In fact, it seems that this girl would like to have access to your thoughts and feelings; she wants to enter your mind and have full control over it.
Esta rapariga está sempre interessada nos seus assuntos. Ela interfere em todos os aspectos da sua vida.
It seems that she can’t understand that she can’t be a part of your career, that you want to have friendships that have nothing to do with her or that she shouldn’t meddle in your family affairs.
O problema é que ela quer saber literalmente tudo sobre a sua vida.
She wants to know all the details of your previous relationships, expects you to share your friends’ secrets with her and even asks you to take her to your business meetings.
Não só isso, como também a apanhou a escutar mais do que uma vez.
Ela justifica as suas acções dizendo-lhe que é apenas curiosa por natureza mas, no fundo, sabe que este comportamento é inaceitável.
Once she sees that she can’t keep doing this to you, she gets angry and frustrated. She can’t seem to understand that you find her snooping repulsive.
Ela persegue-o online e pessoalmente
Another alarming red flag that you’re involved with a crazy girlfriend is when she stalks you.
Tudo começa com os seus perfis nas redes sociais mas, passado algum tempo, começa também a fazê-lo pessoalmente.
No, I’m not talking just about the fact that she is the first person who watches all of your Instagram and Snapchat stories and the one who likes and comments on literally all of your photos and status updates.
O problema aqui é muito maior. O problema é que a sua namorada vê os seus perfis nas redes sociais como a sua principal fonte de informação.
Ela vê-se como uma agente secreta cujo trabalho é dissecar todas as informações disponíveis.
She constantly snoops through your friends’ lists, looking for unfamiliar girls.
Ela analisa os seus gostos e comentários e faz um grande alarido sempre que encontra algo que não lhe agrada.
Not only that but another source of drama is your online status. According to her demands, you can’t be online unless you’re texting her.
Also, she gets mad at you if you don’t reply to her text messages right away, especially if you leave her on read.
Don’t misunderstand me; deliberately ignoring your girlfriend on social media or messaging apps while you’re clearly active is rude and unnecessary. However, you can’t be available 24/7 either.
Sometimes, you read her text messages but simply don’t have time to reply right away.
Maybe you’re busy or just don’t feel like talking and that is something she should understand.
Outra atividade que ela gosta de fazer é mexer no seu telemóvel.
Ela consulta o seu histórico de pesquisa, verifica os seus registos de chamadas e quer ter acesso a todas as suas conversas.
However, this girl’s detective skills don’t end online. The fact is that you’ve caught her following you around on several occasions.
No início, pensaste que era uma coincidência. Estava a sair com os seus amigos e, passado algum tempo, ela apareceu no mesmo sítio.
No entanto, ao fim de algum tempo, esta situação tornou-se regular.
Being your romantic partner, it’s perfectly natural for this girl to know your schedule and habits. The problem is that she uses this info against you.
She keeps showing up in places where she knows she’ll encounter you and she asks her friends to look out for you when you go out without her.
If this sounds familiar, maybe it’s time to check to see if she has installed a GPS device in your car or maybe there is a listening device in your apartment.
Por muito louco que isto possa parecer, acredita em mim, um perseguidor está pronto para fazer isto!
Ela é uma mentirosa compulsiva
The thing that almost always comes hand in hand with psychotic behavior is lying. To be precise, this is not the ‘ordinary’ type of lying, we’re talking about compulsive lying here.
It’s not that this girl just tells an occasional lie. After all, who doesn’t do this from time to time? It’s not that she sometimes tells you a white lie, with the purpose of sparing your feelings.
A mentira está-lhe no sangue. Faz isso como um hábito, pois é um mentiroso patológico.
É claro que todas as suas mentiras têm um único objetivo: fazer com que a ames ainda mais e manter-te ao seu lado.
For example, whenever she feels like you’re getting cold in the relationship, she’ll invent something to make her appear as a victim.
Aconteceu-lhe algo de mau, como ter sido agredida, ou precisa da sua ajuda.
This way, she plays the conscience card. She knows that you’ll be there for her and that she’ll get back under your skin.
Cuidado, porque ela está mesmo pronta a inventar uma situação ou condição de risco de vida.
She’ll tell you that she is ill and that she needs your help, just to prevent you from leaving her.
O tipo de mentira que as raparigas malucas costumam contar tem como objetivo fazerem-se parecer melhores.
She’ll go so far as to claim that she has a higher education than she actually has, that she was a supermodel in the past or that she’s friends with some celebs or influential people.
Lol, the joke is on her because you couldn’t care less about any of these things. However, she still does it just to impress you.
Basically, what she’s doing is making up a false past, so you end up thinking that she’s accomplished something she hasn’t.
Se suspeitar que o seu GF é um mentiroso compulsivo, first of all, you need to check if the facts add up. If you’re still not sure, pay attention to her body language sinais de engano e mentira.
Ela é demasiado protetora
If you ask yourself: “What should my girlfriend be like?” you’ll probably think that one of the most important things you want from her is to care about you.
What man doesn’t like to be pampered and spoiled?
Imagina um GF que se preocupará contigo em todos os sentidos da palavra.
A girlfriend who will lose sleep over every single problem you might have and who will ask you if you’ve eaten or are tired.
However, when you’re involved with a crazy girlfriend, she will be overly protective.
In fact, most of the time, she’ll act like your mother. She’ll treat you like you’re a child who can’t take care of himself.
At first, you’ll see this as a sign of her love for you. After all, you’ve never had a woman like her by your side.
Nevertheless, once some time has gone by, this behavior will start to suffocate you. You’ll be tired of her and her overprotective nature.
Esta rapariga vai querer saber todos os pormenores da sua vida.
Whenever you go out, she’ll ask you a list of questions, including where you’re going, what you’ll be doing, who you’re seeing and exactly when you’re coming home.
She hates it when you want to do something that doesn’t include her. Instead, she wants to be involved in every single aspect of your life.
The thing about this scenario is that it will take you somewhat longer to figure out her true intentions. At first, you’ll really think that she is just being attentive.
This is the type of girl who’ll pretend that she is actually saving you from all life troubles. If you have some errands to do, she’ll offer to do them for you.
She’ll buy your mother’s birthday present for you, so you don’t have to do it, she’ll make you an appointment at her hairdresser or your doctor, she won’t allow you to eat out because she’ll cook for you, she’ll be the one who chooses what T-shirt to wear…
The list can go on forever but I’m sure you get the point.
It’s the same with your friends, co-workers and even family.
Do seu primeiro encontro onward, you’ll see her as some sort of messiah who came into your life to rescue you from all the pessoas tóxicas na sua vida.
She is the one who’ll allegedly see right through their bad intentions. According to her, nobody in your surroundings means you well.
They all have a hidden agenda and they’re using you. Of course, she won’t tell you directly to ditch your old friends but this is her final goal.
Ela quer toda a sua atenção
Let’s be straight here; every girl wants her boyfriend’s attention.
After all, this shouldn’t even be questioned because otherwise what are you doing with a woman you won’t give any of your time or interest to?
No entanto, o problema de uma namorada psicopata é que ela quer toda a tua atenção. E quando digo toda, quero mesmo dizer toda.
If it were up to her, you wouldn’t have a melhor amigo.
There is no need for you to visit your parents, siblings or other relatives. In fact, it would be best if you didn’t have to go to work either.
Ela é tão carente that she can’t stand the fact that you had a life before she came along. She can’t grasp the fact that you can’t be with her 24/7.
She doesn’t accept the fact that you have interests or hobbies or that you need some space and time without her.
In fact, as soon as you want to go out or do anything that doesn’t include her, she’ll make a fuss about it.
Apparently, it’s a sign that you’ve got bored of her, that you got tired of your relationship and finally, that you don’t love her anymore.
Esta rapariga é possessiva ao ponto de se sentir intimidada por todos os que a rodeiam.
É ameaçada quando sai para beber um copo com os rapazes, quando vê um jogo de futebol ou quando fala com a sua mãe ao telefone, o que é, obviamente, uma loucura.
O pior de tudo é que ela faz-nos sentir culpados por passarmos tempo ou darmos atenção a outra pessoa que não ela.
You’re the center of her world and she expects the same treatment back.
Of course, she doesn’t realize that this is not what a healthy relationship should look like.
She doesn’t understand (or refuses to understand) that you two are separate individuals who have separate lives, despite your romance.
Ela arranja brigas desnecessárias
The next sign that you’re dealing with a namorada psicótica é que vocês os dois continuam a discutir.
Embora todas as relações sejam uma via de dois sentidos e ambos os parceiros tenham uma parte de responsabilidade por tudo o que se passa entre eles, a verdade é que a sua namorada é quem arranja mais brigas.
O facto é que ela tem mudanças de humor incríveis.
It’s one thing if these mood swings are a consequence of something. However, with this kind of woman, you never know what to expect.
She’ll be laughing in one moment and then start crying, out of the blue.
At first, you think that you’re responsible for these changes in behavior. To be exact, this is what she will try to make you think.
No entanto, passado algum tempo, compreende que isto é apenas uma parte da personalidade dela e que não há nada que possa fazer para a ajudar a sentir-se melhor ou para a tornar mais calma.
The worst part is these fights. There is absolutely nothing she won’t argue about if she is in her angry phase.
Tudo com esta rapariga se torna um problema.
Durante algum tempo, tenta manter a paz e faz o seu melhor para não responder às suas provocações.
Nevertheless, you can’t keep up with this behavior forever.
Mais cedo ou mais tarde, ela consegue arrastá-lo para todas estas discussões e a vossa relação torna-se ainda mais venenosa.
In fact, now you have only two stages: one in which you’re about to leave one another for good and one where you’re more crazy about each other than anything and when your love skyrockets.
Basically, the problem is that there is no peace. There doesn’t exist a calm phase and a relationship like that cannot be maintained.
Ela é uma maníaca paranoica por controlo
Quando a sua namorada tenta controlar toda a sua vida, isso pode ser um sinal claro de que ela é uma psicopata.
Yes, the truth is that you two are a couple now so you shouldn’t be making any radical changes in your life which might affect both of you without consulting her.
Por exemplo, seria mais do que falta de consideração decidir mudar-se para outra cidade sem falar com a sua parceira e sem a informar da sua escolha.
No entanto, só porque ela é a sua cara-metade, isso não significa que tenha o direito de mandar em tudo o que faz ou pensa.
No entanto, é exatamente isso que esta rapariga quer, tomar o controlo da sua vida, uma vez que é uma maníaco por controlo.
Ela seria a pessoa mais feliz do mundo se tivesse a oportunidade de o tratar como um fantoche dela.
It’s like you have no brain of your own and she is in charge of your entire existence.
Ela quer controlar com quem passas o teu tempo, quantas horas dormes, que programas de televisão vês e outras coisas parecidas.
O problema central aqui é que ela é de facto paranoica.
She lives in constant fear that sooner or later, you’ll romper with her and she’ll become your ex-girlfriend.
Para onde quer que olhe, ela vê diferentes ameaças à vossa relação.
Segundo ela, todos os que vos rodeiam querem afastá-lo dela e prejudicar a vossa relação de uma forma ou de outra.
Assim, em vez de tratar esta doença e fazer algo para, pelo menos, a minimizar, a única coisa que ela pode fazer é tornar-se uma maníaca do controlo.
Esta rapariga louca está convencida de que nada de mal acontecerá entre vocês os dois, desde que todos os pormenores da vossa vida e do vosso romance estejam nas mãos dela.
Claro que isto só produz um efeito contraproducente. Em vez de o manter mais perto, ela está, na verdade, a persegui-lo cada vez mais.
Ela é loucamente ciumenta
É que há uma diferença entre comportamento possessivo e ciúmes. Bem, a má notícia é que a tua namorada psicopata é tanto possessiva como loucamente ciumenta.
When you get with a new girl, you’re flattered by the fact that your partner is apparently afraid of losing you.
Acha os ciúmes dela bonitos e vê-os como um sinal dos seus sentimentos por si.
No entanto, a sua namorada não é ciumenta dessa forma gira. De facto, os ciúmes dela ultrapassam todos os limites possíveis do comportamento normal.
No que lhe diz respeito, todas as mulheres à sua volta estão interessadas em si.
You might take this as a compliment at first but later on, you see that this is something you can’t stand anymore.
It’s not just that she doesn’t allow you to have female friends, including the ones you’ve known for ages or even since early childhood.
Ela tem ciúmes de todos os vossos amigos de trabalhoO que é que se passa com a empregada de mesa no seu primeiro encontro ou com a senhora que trabalha na caixa registadora?
Na verdade, passas a maior parte do tempo a justificar o teu comportamento completamente inocente.
She keeps on accusing you that you’re flirting with every other female besides her, that you’re fooling around behind her back and that you’re unfaithful in one way or another.
When she has no proof of her claims, she won’t admit that she is wrong. Instead, she’ll accuse you of hiding evidence like a real professional.
If nothing else, she’ll claim that you’re having an emotional affair.
She’ll tell you that she senses that you don’t love her anymore, that you haven’t forgotten about your ex-girlfriend or that you fell in love with some random girl you know nothing about.
Em breve, isto deixa de ser lisonjeiro e torna-se cansativo.
You’re tired of constantly explaining every move you make and of making excuses for the things you have never done.
Outro problema é o facto de ela bisbilhotar o seu telemóvel e as suas coisas, à procura de sinais de infidelidade.
For example, she’ll go through your T-shirts to see if there is any sign of lipstick or another woman’s hair.
Além disso, é extremamente mal-educada com todas as mulheres que a rodeiam, o que muitas vezes a coloca numa situação desconfortável.
Quando tenta chamar a atenção para as suas acções, a sua namorada afirma que isso não passa de uma estratégia sua para encobrir os seus casos.
She takes the saying ‘Attack is the best form of defense’ literally and she thinks you’re accusing her of being overly jealous in an attempt to defend yourself.
Ela é abusiva
Muitas pessoas pensam que todos os tipos de abuso numa relação são reservados apenas aos homens.
Afinal de contas, os homens são vistos como mais violentos, enquanto as mulheres são vistas como o sexo mais gentil.
Deixem-me dizer-vos uma coisa: esta é uma das maiores ideias erradas de sempre.
A verdade é que as mulheres também podem ser abusivas de todas as formas possíveis. De facto, este é um dos sinais mais alarmantes de uma namorada psicopata.
Para ser exato, mesmo que ela não seja psicótica, o seu comportamento violento é razão mais do que suficiente para correr pela sua vida.
It doesn’t matter if you’re physically stronger than her.
This girl counts on the fact that you won’t hit her back since you’re a gentleman and she uses that side of yours to her advantage.
She probably won’t punch you in the face but she will likely leave nail scratches all over your body or she will pinch you.
The number one mistake many men make in this kind of situation is not seeing this as violence. You think that it’s impossible for a woman half your size to abuse you.
Besides, you’ve been taught to be this tough guy all of your life so you’re ashamed to turn her in or ask for anyone’s help since you’re convinced that everyone would make fun of your problem.
On the other hand, the last thing you plan on doing is getting her back. You wouldn’t hit her back even if it was the last thing you ever did.
First of all, you’re afraid that you’d hurt her. Also, you know that this would only lead you both into an endless cycle of violence and that it wouldn’t change anything for the better.
Another important issue here is that almost everyone would probably believe in her side of the story more than yours so you’re at risk of having the title of an abusive ex-boyfriend for a long time, even if you’re not guilty of anything.
It’s even worse when it comes to abuso emocional.
Even though it is ruining your mental health, you’re certain that nobody would believe you and that everyone would call you a coward if you happened to complain.
Bem, querida, ela sabe que tens exatamente esses pensamentos e aproveita-se disso.
Therefore, if you’re a victim of violence, please don’t blame yourself.
No, don’t try getting even with her. Instead, just break up with her.
Para terminar
When you have a psycho girlfriend, the most important thing to understand is that you can’t make a big difference to her personality.
Things won’t change and your relationship won’t magically become better.
Stop getting your hopes up by thinking that your love can make everything better. Trust me, this woman needs professional help, which you can’t provide.
If you’re wondering how to get rid of a psycho girlfriend, the answer is actually pretty simple. Walk away from her and never look back.
Confie em mim, esta é a única forma de se salvar a si próprio e à sua saúde mental.
