9 señales alarmantes de que estás saliendo con una novia psicópata
Having a psycho girlfriend is every guy’s nightmare. The worst part is that they’re all around us; they’re just difficult to notice.
De hecho, en la mayoría de los casos, una loca se disfrazará de su sueño hecho realidad y la GF perfecto.
When you meet her, you’ll think that she is material de novia and that she’s everything you’ve been looking for in a woman.
Once you realize who you’re dealing with, it’s often too late to escape her claws.
Por supuesto, siempre puedes salvarte, pero te llevará mucho más tiempo y esfuerzo que al principio.
Pues bien, para evitarlo, debes conocer todos los signos alarmantes de una novia psicópata. Aquí están 9 de los más comunes.
Siempre está metida en tus asuntos
Su chica de ensueño te cuida. Te escucha, muestra interés por tu vida y recuerda todas las pequeñas cosas que le dijiste una vez.
Pero, ¿y si exagera? ¿Y si está demasiado interesada en ti? También es posible.
You see, when you’re involved with a girl like this, the number one problem is that she doesn’t have a life of her own.
De hecho, desde el momento en que empezáis a salir, ella intenta formar parte de los tuyos.
She doesn’t let you have any privacy. In fact, it seems that this girl would like to have access to your thoughts and feelings; she wants to enter your mind and have full control over it.
Esta chica siempre está metida en tus asuntos. Interfiere en todos los aspectos de tu vida.
It seems that she can’t understand that she can’t be a part of your career, that you want to have friendships that have nothing to do with her or that she shouldn’t meddle in your family affairs.
El problema es que ella quiere saber literalmente todo sobre tu vida.
She wants to know all the details of your previous relationships, expects you to share your friends’ secrets with her and even asks you to take her to your business meetings.
No sólo eso, también la ha pillado a escondidas más de una vez.
Justifica sus actos diciéndote que es curiosa por naturaleza, pero en el fondo sabes que ese comportamiento es inaceptable.
Once she sees that she can’t keep doing this to you, she gets angry and frustrated. She can’t seem to understand that you find her snooping repulsive.
Te acosa online y en persona
Another alarming red flag that you’re involved with a crazy girlfriend is when she stalks you.
Todo empieza con tus perfiles en las redes sociales pero, al cabo de un tiempo, empieza a hacerlo también en persona.
No, I’m not talking just about the fact that she is the first person who watches all of your Instagram and Snapchat stories and the one who likes and comments on literally all of your photos and status updates.
El problema aquí es mucho mayor. El problema es que tu novia ve tus perfiles en las redes sociales como su principal fuente de información.
Se considera una agente secreta cuyo trabajo consiste en diseccionar toda la información disponible.
She constantly snoops through your friends’ lists, looking for unfamiliar girls.
Revisa tus gustos y comentarios y monta un escándalo cada vez que encuentra algo con lo que no está contenta.
Not only that but another source of drama is your online status. According to her demands, you can’t be online unless you’re texting her.
Also, she gets mad at you if you don’t reply to her text messages right away, especially if you leave her on read.
Don’t misunderstand me; deliberately ignoring your girlfriend on social media or messaging apps while you’re clearly active is rude and unnecessary. However, you can’t be available 24/7 either.
Sometimes, you read her text messages but simply don’t have time to reply right away.
Maybe you’re busy or just don’t feel like talking and that is something she should understand.
Otra actividad que le gusta hacer es revisar tu teléfono.
Revisa tu historial de búsquedas, comprueba tus registros de llamadas y quiere tener acceso a todas tus conversaciones.
However, this girl’s detective skills don’t end online. The fact is that you’ve caught her following you around on several occasions.
Al principio, pensaste que era una coincidencia. Habías salido con tus amigos y, al cabo de un rato, ella apareció en el mismo sitio.
Sin embargo, al cabo de un tiempo, esto se convirtió en algo habitual.
Being your romantic partner, it’s perfectly natural for this girl to know your schedule and habits. The problem is that she uses this info against you.
She keeps showing up in places where she knows she’ll encounter you and she asks her friends to look out for you when you go out without her.
If this sounds familiar, maybe it’s time to check to see if she has installed a GPS device in your car or maybe there is a listening device in your apartment.
Aunque pueda parecer una locura, créeme, ¡un acosador está dispuesto a hacer esto!
Es una mentirosa compulsiva
The thing that almost always comes hand in hand with psychotic behavior is lying. To be precise, this is not the ‘ordinary’ type of lying, we’re talking about compulsive lying here.
It’s not that this girl just tells an occasional lie. After all, who doesn’t do this from time to time? It’s not that she sometimes tells you a white lie, with the purpose of sparing your feelings.
Lleva la mentira en la sangre. Lo hace como un hábito un mentiroso patológico.
Por supuesto, todas sus mentiras tienen un único propósito: hacer que la ames aún más y mantenerte a su lado.
For example, whenever she feels like you’re getting cold in the relationship, she’ll invent something to make her appear as a victim.
Le ha pasado algo malo, como que la han agredido, o necesita tu ayuda.
This way, she plays the conscience card. She knows that you’ll be there for her and that she’ll get back under your skin.
Cuidado porque incluso está dispuesta a inventarse una situación o afección que ponga en peligro su vida.
She’ll tell you that she is ill and that she needs your help, just to prevent you from leaving her.
El tipo de mentira que suelen decir las locas tiene como objetivo quedar mejor.
She’ll go so far as to claim that she has a higher education than she actually has, that she was a supermodel in the past or that she’s friends with some celebs or influential people.
Lol, the joke is on her because you couldn’t care less about any of these things. However, she still does it just to impress you.
Basically, what she’s doing is making up a false past, so you end up thinking that she’s accomplished something she hasn’t.
Si sospecha que su GF es un mentiroso compulsivo, first of all, you need to check if the facts add up. If you’re still not sure, pay attention to her body language signos de engaño y mentira.
Es excesivamente protectora
If you ask yourself: “What should my girlfriend be like?” you’ll probably think that one of the most important things you want from her is to care about you.
What man doesn’t like to be pampered and spoiled?
Te imaginas un GF que se preocupe por ti en todos los sentidos.
A girlfriend who will lose sleep over every single problem you might have and who will ask you if you’ve eaten or are tired.
However, when you’re involved with a crazy girlfriend, she will be overly protective.
In fact, most of the time, she’ll act like your mother. She’ll treat you like you’re a child who can’t take care of himself.
At first, you’ll see this as a sign of her love for you. After all, you’ve never had a woman like her by your side.
Nevertheless, once some time has gone by, this behavior will start to suffocate you. You’ll be tired of her and her overprotective nature.
Esta chica querrá saber todos los detalles de tu vida.
Whenever you go out, she’ll ask you a list of questions, including where you’re going, what you’ll be doing, who you’re seeing and exactly when you’re coming home.
She hates it when you want to do something that doesn’t include her. Instead, she wants to be involved in every single aspect of your life.
The thing about this scenario is that it will take you somewhat longer to figure out her true intentions. At first, you’ll really think that she is just being attentive.
This is the type of girl who’ll pretend that she is actually saving you from all life troubles. If you have some errands to do, she’ll offer to do them for you.
She’ll buy your mother’s birthday present for you, so you don’t have to do it, she’ll make you an appointment at her hairdresser or your doctor, she won’t allow you to eat out because she’ll cook for you, she’ll be the one who chooses what T-shirt to wear…
The list can go on forever but I’m sure you get the point.
It’s the same with your friends, co-workers and even family.
De su primera cita onward, you’ll see her as some sort of messiah who came into your life to rescue you from all the gente tóxica en tu vida.
She is the one who’ll allegedly see right through their bad intentions. According to her, nobody in your surroundings means you well.
They all have a hidden agenda and they’re using you. Of course, she won’t tell you directly to ditch your old friends but this is her final goal.
Quiere toda tu atención
Let’s be straight here; every girl wants her boyfriend’s attention.
After all, this shouldn’t even be questioned because otherwise what are you doing with a woman you won’t give any of your time or interest to?
Sin embargo, el problema con una novia psicópata es que quiere toda tu atención. Y cuando digo toda, quiero decir toda.
If it were up to her, you wouldn’t have a mejor amigo.
There is no need for you to visit your parents, siblings or other relatives. In fact, it would be best if you didn’t have to go to work either.
Está tan necesitada that she can’t stand the fact that you had a life before she came along. She can’t grasp the fact that you can’t be with her 24/7.
She doesn’t accept the fact that you have interests or hobbies or that you need some space and time without her.
In fact, as soon as you want to go out or do anything that doesn’t include her, she’ll make a fuss about it.
Apparently, it’s a sign that you’ve got bored of her, that you got tired of your relationship and finally, that you don’t love her anymore.
Esta chica es posesiva hasta el punto de sentirse intimidada por todos los de su entorno.
Se siente amenazada cuando sales a tomar algo con los chicos, cuando ves un partido de fútbol o cuando hablas con tu madre por teléfono, lo cual es, por supuesto, una locura.
Lo peor de todo es que te hace sentir culpable por pasar tiempo o prestar tu atención a otra persona que no sea ella.
You’re the center of her world and she expects the same treatment back.
Of course, she doesn’t realize that this is not what a healthy relationship should look like.
She doesn’t understand (or refuses to understand) that you two are separate individuals who have separate lives, despite your romance.
Busca peleas innecesarias
The next sign that you’re dealing with a novia psicótica es que vosotros dos seguís discutiendo.
Aunque toda relación es una calle de doble sentido y ambos miembros de la pareja tienen parte de responsabilidad en todo lo que ocurre entre ellos, lo cierto es que tu GF es la que más peleas protagoniza.
El hecho es que tiene cambios de humor increíbles.
It’s one thing if these mood swings are a consequence of something. However, with this kind of woman, you never know what to expect.
She’ll be laughing in one moment and then start crying, out of the blue.
At first, you think that you’re responsible for these changes in behavior. To be exact, this is what she will try to make you think.
Sin embargo, después de algún tiempo, entiendes que esto es sólo una parte de su personalidad y que no hay nada que puedas hacer para ayudarla a sentirse mejor o para que esté más tranquila.
The worst part is these fights. There is absolutely nothing she won’t argue about if she is in her angry phase.
Todo con esta chica se convierte en un problema.
Durante algún tiempo, intentas mantener la paz y haces todo lo posible por no responder a sus provocaciones.
Nevertheless, you can’t keep up with this behavior forever.
Tarde o temprano, se las arregla para arrastrarte a todas estas discusiones, de modo que vuestra relación se envenena aún más.
In fact, now you have only two stages: one in which you’re about to leave one another for good and one where you’re more crazy about each other than anything and when your love skyrockets.
Basically, the problem is that there is no peace. There doesn’t exist a calm phase and a relationship like that cannot be maintained.
Es una controladora paranoica
Cuando tu novia intenta controlar toda tu vida, puede ser una clara señal de que es una psicópata.
Yes, the truth is that you two are a couple now so you shouldn’t be making any radical changes in your life which might affect both of you without consulting her.
Por ejemplo, sería más que desconsiderado decidir mudarte a otra ciudad sin hablarlo con tu pareja y sin informarle de tu elección.
Sin embargo, que sea tu media naranja no significa que tenga derecho a controlar todo lo que haces o piensas.
Sin embargo, esto es exactamente lo que quiere esta chica, tomar el control de tu vida, ya que es una maniático del control.
Sería la persona más feliz del mundo si tuviera la oportunidad de tratarte como a una marioneta suya.
It’s like you have no brain of your own and she is in charge of your entire existence.
Quiere controlar con quién pasas el tiempo, cuántas horas duermes, qué programas de televisión ves y otras tonterías similares.
El principal problema es que está paranoica.
She lives in constant fear that sooner or later, you’ll romper with her and she’ll become your ex-girlfriend.
Mire donde mire, ve diferentes amenazas para vuestra relación.
Según ella, todos los que os rodean quieren apartarte de ella y perjudicar vuestra relación de una forma u otra.
Así que, en lugar de tratar esta afección y hacer algo para al menos minimizarla, lo único que puede hacer es convertirse en una obsesa del control.
Esta loca está convencida de que no pasará nada malo entre vosotros dos mientras cada detalle de vuestra vida y vuestro romance esté en sus manos.
Por supuesto, esto sólo produce un efecto contraproducente. En lugar de mantenerte más cerca, en realidad te está persiguiendo cada vez más lejos.
Está locamente celosa
Verás, hay una diferencia entre el comportamiento posesivo y los celos. Bueno, la mala noticia es que tu novia psicópata es a la vez posesiva y locamente celosa.
When you get with a new girl, you’re flattered by the fact that your partner is apparently afraid of losing you.
Sus celos te parecen simpáticos y los ves como una señal de lo que siente por ti.
Sin embargo, tu novia no es tan celosa. De hecho, sus celos traspasan todos los límites posibles del comportamiento normal.
Por lo que a ella respecta, todas las mujeres que te rodean están interesadas en ti.
You might take this as a compliment at first but later on, you see that this is something you can’t stand anymore.
It’s not just that she doesn’t allow you to have female friends, including the ones you’ve known for ages or even since early childhood.
Está celosa de todos tus amigos del trabajode la camarera de tu primera cita o de la señora que trabaja en la caja registradora.
En realidad, pasas la mayor parte del tiempo justificando tu comportamiento completamente inocente.
She keeps on accusing you that you’re flirting with every other female besides her, that you’re fooling around behind her back and that you’re unfaithful in one way or another.
When she has no proof of her claims, she won’t admit that she is wrong. Instead, she’ll accuse you of hiding evidence like a real professional.
If nothing else, she’ll claim that you’re having an emotional affair.
She’ll tell you that she senses that you don’t love her anymore, that you haven’t forgotten about your ex-girlfriend or that you fell in love with some random girl you know nothing about.
Muy pronto, esto deja de ser halagador y se convierte en agotador.
You’re tired of constantly explaining every move you make and of making excuses for the things you have never done.
Otro problema es que husmea en tu teléfono y tus cosas, buscando señales de infidelidad.
For example, she’ll go through your T-shirts to see if there is any sign of lipstick or another woman’s hair.
No sólo eso, también es extremadamente grosera con todas las mujeres de su entorno, lo que a menudo le pone en una situación incómoda.
Cuando intentas llamarla la atención sobre sus acciones, tu GF afirma que no es más que una estrategia tuya para tapar tus asuntos.
She takes the saying ‘Attack is the best form of defense’ literally and she thinks you’re accusing her of being overly jealous in an attempt to defend yourself.
Ella es abusiva
Muchos piensan que todo tipo de maltrato en las relaciones está reservado a los hombres.
Al fin y al cabo, los hombres son percibidos como más violentos, mientras que las mujeres son percibidas como el sexo más suave.
Permítanme decirles algo: este es uno de los mayores conceptos erróneos.
La verdad es que las mujeres también pueden ser abusivas de todas las formas posibles. De hecho, este es uno de los signos más alarmantes de una novia psicópata.
Para ser exactos, aunque no sea psicótica, su comportamiento violento es motivo más que suficiente para huir por tu vida.
It doesn’t matter if you’re physically stronger than her.
This girl counts on the fact that you won’t hit her back since you’re a gentleman and she uses that side of yours to her advantage.
She probably won’t punch you in the face but she will likely leave nail scratches all over your body or she will pinch you.
The number one mistake many men make in this kind of situation is not seeing this as violence. You think that it’s impossible for a woman half your size to abuse you.
Besides, you’ve been taught to be this tough guy all of your life so you’re ashamed to turn her in or ask for anyone’s help since you’re convinced that everyone would make fun of your problem.
On the other hand, the last thing you plan on doing is getting her back. You wouldn’t hit her back even if it was the last thing you ever did.
First of all, you’re afraid that you’d hurt her. Also, you know that this would only lead you both into an endless cycle of violence and that it wouldn’t change anything for the better.
Another important issue here is that almost everyone would probably believe in her side of the story more than yours so you’re at risk of having the title of an abusive ex-boyfriend for a long time, even if you’re not guilty of anything.
It’s even worse when it comes to abuso emocional.
Even though it is ruining your mental health, you’re certain that nobody would believe you and that everyone would call you a coward if you happened to complain.
Bueno, cariño, ella sabe que tienes estos pensamientos exactos y se aprovecha de ello.
Therefore, if you’re a victim of violence, please don’t blame yourself.
No, don’t try getting even with her. Instead, just break up with her.
Para concluir
When you have a psycho girlfriend, the most important thing to understand is that you can’t make a big difference to her personality.
Things won’t change and your relationship won’t magically become better.
Stop getting your hopes up by thinking that your love can make everything better. Trust me, this woman needs professional help, which you can’t provide.
If you’re wondering how to get rid of a psycho girlfriend, the answer is actually pretty simple. Walk away from her and never look back.
Créeme, es la única forma de salvarte a ti mismo y a tu salud mental.
