Having a psycho girlfriend is every guy’s nightmare. The worst part is that they’re all around us; they’re just difficult to notice.
In fact, in most cases, a crazy girl will be disguised as your dream come true and the perfect GF.
When you meet her, you’ll think that she is girlfriend material and that she’s everything you’ve been looking for in a woman.
Once you realize who you’re dealing with, it’s often too late to escape her claws.
Of course, you can always save yourself but it will take you much more time and effort than in the beginning.
Well, in order to avoid this, you need to be familiar with all the alarming signs of a psycho girlfriend. Here are 9 of the most common ones.
She is always up in your business
Your dream girl takes care of you. She listens to you, shows interest in your life and remembers all the little things you once told her.
However, what if she exaggerates? What if she is too interested in you? Well, that is also possible.
You see, when you’re involved with a girl like this, the number one problem is that she doesn’t have a life of her own.
In fact, from the moment you two start dating, she tries becoming a part of yours.
She doesn’t let you have any privacy. In fact, it seems that this girl would like to have access to your thoughts and feelings; she wants to enter your mind and have full control over it.
This girl is always up in your business. She interferes in all aspects of your life.
It seems that she can’t understand that she can’t be a part of your career, that you want to have friendships that have nothing to do with her or that she shouldn’t meddle in your family affairs.
The problem is that she wants to know literally everything regarding your life.
She wants to know all the details of your previous relationships, expects you to share your friends’ secrets with her and even asks you to take her to your business meetings.
Not only that, you have also caught her eavesdropping more than once.
She justifies her actions by telling you that she is just curious by nature but deep down, you know that this behavior is unacceptable.
Once she sees that she can’t keep doing this to you, she gets angry and frustrated. She can’t seem to understand that you find her snooping repulsive.
She stalks you online and in person
Another alarming red flag that you’re involved with a crazy girlfriend is when she stalks you.
It all starts with your social media profiles but after a while, she begins doing it in person as well.
No, I’m not talking just about the fact that she is the first person who watches all of your Instagram and Snapchat stories and the one who likes and comments on literally all of your photos and status updates.
The problem here is much bigger. The issue is that your girlfriend sees your social media profiles as her main resource of information.
She thinks of herself as this secret agent whose job is to dissect all intel available.
She constantly snoops through your friends’ lists, looking for unfamiliar girls.
She goes through your likes and comments and makes a huge fuss every time she finds something she is not happy with.
Not only that but another source of drama is your online status. According to her demands, you can’t be online unless you’re texting her.
Also, she gets mad at you if you don’t reply to her text messages right away, especially if you leave her on read.
Don’t misunderstand me; deliberately ignoring your girlfriend on social media or messaging apps while you’re clearly active is rude and unnecessary. However, you can’t be available 24/7 either.
Sometimes, you read her text messages but simply don’t have time to reply right away.
Maybe you’re busy or just don’t feel like talking and that is something she should understand.
Another activity she enjoys doing is going through your phone.
She goes through your search history, checks your call logs and wants to have access to all of your conversations.
However, this girl’s detective skills don’t end online. The fact is that you’ve caught her following you around on several occasions.
At first, you thought it was a coincidence. You were out with your friends and after a while, she appeared in the same place.
Nevertheless, after some time, this became a regular occurrence.
Being your romantic partner, it’s perfectly natural for this girl to know your schedule and habits. The problem is that she uses this info against you.
She keeps showing up in places where she knows she’ll encounter you and she asks her friends to look out for you when you go out without her.
If this sounds familiar, maybe it’s time to check to see if she has installed a GPS device in your car or maybe there is a listening device in your apartment.
As crazy as this might sound, trust me, a stalker is ready to do this!
She is a compulsive liar
The thing that almost always comes hand in hand with psychotic behavior is lying. To be precise, this is not the ‘ordinary’ type of lying, we’re talking about compulsive lying here.
It’s not that this girl just tells an occasional lie. After all, who doesn’t do this from time to time? It’s not that she sometimes tells you a white lie, with the purpose of sparing your feelings.
Lying is in her blood. She does it as a habit as she is a pathological liar.
Of course, all of her lies have one single purpose: to make you love her even more and to keep you by her side.
For example, whenever she feels like you’re getting cold in the relationship, she’ll invent something to make her appear as a victim.
Something bad happened to her, like she was assaulted, or she needs your help.
This way, she plays the conscience card. She knows that you’ll be there for her and that she’ll get back under your skin.
Beware because she is even ready to make up a life-threatening situation or condition.
She’ll tell you that she is ill and that she needs your help, just to prevent you from leaving her.
The kind of lie crazy girls usually tell is aimed at making themselves look better.
She’ll go so far as to claim that she has a higher education than she actually has, that she was a supermodel in the past or that she’s friends with some celebs or influential people.
Lol, the joke is on her because you couldn’t care less about any of these things. However, she still does it just to impress you.
Basically, what she’s doing is making up a false past, so you end up thinking that she’s accomplished something she hasn’t.
She is overly protective
If you ask yourself: “What should my girlfriend be like?” you’ll probably think that one of the most important things you want from her is to care about you.
What man doesn’t like to be pampered and spoiled?
You imagine a GF who will worry about you in every sense of that word.
A girlfriend who will lose sleep over every single problem you might have and who will ask you if you’ve eaten or are tired.
However, when you’re involved with a crazy girlfriend, she will be overly protective.
In fact, most of the time, she’ll act like your mother. She’ll treat you like you’re a child who can’t take care of himself.
At first, you’ll see this as a sign of her love for you. After all, you’ve never had a woman like her by your side.
Nevertheless, once some time has gone by, this behavior will start to suffocate you. You’ll be tired of her and her overprotective nature.
This girl will want to know every detail about your life.
Whenever you go out, she’ll ask you a list of questions, including where you’re going, what you’ll be doing, who you’re seeing and exactly when you’re coming home.
She hates it when you want to do something that doesn’t include her. Instead, she wants to be involved in every single aspect of your life.
The thing about this scenario is that it will take you somewhat longer to figure out her true intentions. At first, you’ll really think that she is just being attentive.
This is the type of girl who’ll pretend that she is actually saving you from all life troubles. If you have some errands to do, she’ll offer to do them for you.
She’ll buy your mother’s birthday present for you, so you don’t have to do it, she’ll make you an appointment at her hairdresser or your doctor, she won’t allow you to eat out because she’ll cook for you, she’ll be the one who chooses what T-shirt to wear…
The list can go on forever but I’m sure you get the point.
It’s the same with your friends, co-workers and even family.
She is the one who’ll allegedly see right through their bad intentions. According to her, nobody in your surroundings means you well.
They all have a hidden agenda and they’re using you. Of course, she won’t tell you directly to ditch your old friends but this is her final goal.
She wants your undivided attention
Let’s be straight here; every girl wants her boyfriend’s attention.
After all, this shouldn’t even be questioned because otherwise what are you doing with a woman you won’t give any of your time or interest to?
However, the problem with a psycho girlfriend is that she wants all of your attention. And when I say all, I really mean all of it.
If it were up to her, you wouldn’t have a best friend.
There is no need for you to visit your parents, siblings or other relatives. In fact, it would be best if you didn’t have to go to work either.
She is so needy that she can’t stand the fact that you had a life before she came along. She can’t grasp the fact that you can’t be with her 24/7.
She doesn’t accept the fact that you have interests or hobbies or that you need some space and time without her.
In fact, as soon as you want to go out or do anything that doesn’t include her, she’ll make a fuss about it.
Apparently, it’s a sign that you’ve got bored of her, that you got tired of your relationship and finally, that you don’t love her anymore.
This girl is possessive to the point where she feels intimidated by everyone in your surroundings.
She is threatened when you go out for a drink with the guys, when you watch a football match or when you talk to your mother on the phone, which is, of course, insane.
The worst part about it all is that she makes you feel guilty for spending time with or giving your attention to anyone else but her.
You’re the center of her world and she expects the same treatment back.
Of course, she doesn’t realize that this is not what a healthy relationship should look like.
She doesn’t understand (or refuses to understand) that you two are separate individuals who have separate lives, despite your romance.
She picks unnecessary fights
The next sign that you’re dealing with a psychotic girlfriend is that you two keep arguing.
Even though every relationship is a two-way street and both partners bear parts of responsibility for everything going on in between them, the truth is that your GF is the one picking the most fights.
The fact is that she has incredible mood swings.
It’s one thing if these mood swings are a consequence of something. However, with this kind of woman, you never know what to expect.
She’ll be laughing in one moment and then start crying, out of the blue.
At first, you think that you’re responsible for these changes in behavior. To be exact, this is what she will try to make you think.
However, after some time, you understand that this is just a part of her personality and that there is nothing you can do to help her feel better or to make her calmer.
The worst part is these fights. There is absolutely nothing she won’t argue about if she is in her angry phase.
Everything with this girl becomes a problem.
For some time, you try to maintain the peace and you do your best not to respond to her provocation.
Nevertheless, you can’t keep up with this behavior forever.
Sooner or later, she manages to drag you into all of these arguments so your relationship becomes even more poisonous.
In fact, now you have only two stages: one in which you’re about to leave one another for good and one where you’re more crazy about each other than anything and when your love skyrockets.
Basically, the problem is that there is no peace. There doesn’t exist a calm phase and a relationship like that cannot be maintained.
She is a paranoid control freak
When your girlfriend tries to control your entire life, it can be a clear sign that she is a psychopath.
Yes, the truth is that you two are a couple now so you shouldn’t be making any radical changes in your life which might affect both of you without consulting her.
For example, it would be more than inconsiderate to decide to move to another city without discussing it with your partner and just informing her about your choice.
However, just because she is your better half, it certainly does not mean that she is entitled to be in charge of everything you do or think.
Nevertheless, this is exactly what this girl wants, to take control of your life, since she is a control freak.
She would be the happiest person in the world if she had the chance to treat you like a puppet of hers.
It’s like you have no brain of your own and she is in charge of your entire existence.
She wants to control who you spend your time with, how many hours of sleep you get, what TV shows you watch and other foolish similar things.
The core problem here is that she is actually paranoid.
She lives in constant fear that sooner or later, you’ll break up with her and she’ll become your ex-girlfriend.
Wherever she looks, she sees different threats to your relationship.
According to her, everyone around you two wants to take you away from her and harm your relationship in one way or another.
So, instead of treating this condition and doing something to at least minimize it, the only thing she can do is become a control freak.
This crazy girl is convinced that nothing bad will happen with the two of you as long as every single detail of your life and your romance is in her hands.
Of course, this only produces a counterproductive effect. Instead of keeping you closer, she is actually chasing you further and further away.
She is insanely jealous
You see, there is a difference between possessive behavior and jealousy. Well, the bad news is that your psycho girlfriend is both possessive and insanely jealous.
When you get with a new girl, you’re flattered by the fact that your partner is apparently afraid of losing you.
You find her jealousy cute and you see it as a sign of her feelings for you.
However, your GF is not jealous in this cute way. In fact, her jealousy crosses every possible limit of normal behavior.
As far as she is concerned, every single woman around you is interested in you.
You might take this as a compliment at first but later on, you see that this is something you can’t stand anymore.
It’s not just that she doesn’t allow you to have female friends, including the ones you’ve known for ages or even since early childhood.
She is jealous of all of your work friends, of the waitress on your first date or of the lady working on the cash register.
Actually, you spend most of your time justifying your completely innocent behavior.
She keeps on accusing you that you’re flirting with every other female besides her, that you’re fooling around behind her back and that you’re unfaithful in one way or another.
When she has no proof of her claims, she won’t admit that she is wrong. Instead, she’ll accuse you of hiding evidence like a real professional.
If nothing else, she’ll claim that you’re having an emotional affair.
She’ll tell you that she senses that you don’t love her anymore, that you haven’t forgotten about your ex-girlfriend or that you fell in love with some random girl you know nothing about.
Soon enough, this stops being flattering and becomes exhausting.
You’re tired of constantly explaining every move you make and of making excuses for the things you have never done.
Another issue is that she snoops through your phone and your things, searching for signs of infidelity.
For example, she’ll go through your T-shirts to see if there is any sign of lipstick or another woman’s hair.
Not only that, she is also extremely rude to every female in your surroundings, which often puts you in an uncomfortable situation.
When you try to call her out on her actions, your GF claims that this is nothing but your strategy to cover your affairs.
She takes the saying ‘Attack is the best form of defense’ literally and she thinks you’re accusing her of being overly jealous in an attempt to defend yourself.
She is abusive
Many think that all kinds of relationship abuse are reserved just for men to dish out.
After all, men are perceived as more violent, while women are perceived as the gentler sex.
Let me tell you something; this is one of the biggest misconceptions ever.
The truth is that women can be abusive in all the possible ways as well. In fact, this is one of the most alarming signs of a psycho girlfriend.
To be exact, even if she is not psychotic, her violent behavior is more than enough reason to run for your life.
It doesn’t matter if you’re physically stronger than her.
This girl counts on the fact that you won’t hit her back since you’re a gentleman and she uses that side of yours to her advantage.
She probably won’t punch you in the face but she will likely leave nail scratches all over your body or she will pinch you.
The number one mistake many men make in this kind of situation is not seeing this as violence. You think that it’s impossible for a woman half your size to abuse you.
Besides, you’ve been taught to be this tough guy all of your life so you’re ashamed to turn her in or ask for anyone’s help since you’re convinced that everyone would make fun of your problem.
On the other hand, the last thing you plan on doing is getting her back. You wouldn’t hit her back even if it was the last thing you ever did.
First of all, you’re afraid that you’d hurt her. Also, you know that this would only lead you both into an endless cycle of violence and that it wouldn’t change anything for the better.
Another important issue here is that almost everyone would probably believe in her side of the story more than yours so you’re at risk of having the title of an abusive ex-boyfriend for a long time, even if you’re not guilty of anything.
It’s even worse when it comes to emotional abuse.
Even though it is ruining your mental health, you’re certain that nobody would believe you and that everyone would call you a coward if you happened to complain.
Well, honey, she knows that you have these exact thoughts and she takes advantage of it.
Therefore, if you’re a victim of violence, please don’t blame yourself.
No, don’t try getting even with her. Instead, just break up with her.
To Wrap Up
When you have a psycho girlfriend, the most important thing to understand is that you can’t make a big difference to her personality.
Things won’t change and your relationship won’t magically become better.
Stop getting your hopes up by thinking that your love can make everything better. Trust me, this woman needs professional help, which you can’t provide.
If you’re wondering how to get rid of a psycho girlfriend, the answer is actually pretty simple. Walk away from her and never look back.
Trust me, this is the only way to save yourself and your mental health.