Não é da tua responsabilidade salvá-lo se ele não quer mudar

Estou farto de dar segundas oportunidades.

Estava farta de esperar que algo mudasse quando, no fundo, sabia que estava tudo acabado desde a primeira vez que ele me olhou nos olhos e me mentiu. Essa foi a última gota.

Queria vê-lo crescer e tornar-se o homem que sempre se esforçou por ser, o homem que eu também via nele. Mas ele cedeu. He let himself lose himself and I forgot that I wasn’t his savior.

I wasn’t put on this earth to save him from himself. I wasn’t his rehab center.

Deixou de lutar pela nossa relação e tornou-se destrutivo e egocêntrico.

Demorei algum tempo a admitir a mim própria que tinha de o deixar. O meu coração recusou-se a acreditar nisso durante demasiado tempo.

I had to explain to myself that all of it had nothing to do with me. I wasn’t the problem, I was just trying to fix it. But some people just don’t want to be fixed.

They would rather look away and pretend it doesn’t exist. They would rather run all their life, constantly out of breath, than face the problem.

Of course, there are people worth saving, people who need just a little nod, but not everyone can be saved and that’s the sad truth.

If they don’t want to be saved, they can’t be convinced into saving themselves.

All the worry and care in this world can’t help.

I tried to help him for so long I forgot that’s not what a relationship should look like. We weren’t equal. He demanded my love and care – and I gave it to him.

Ele pensou que eu o podia salvar antes de ele se tentar salvar a si próprio.

I was there for him when nobody else was. I cared about the person he is and all the good things in him, even when they didn’t shine through.

Coloquei-o sempre à frente de todos os outros e só tive desilusões em troca.

I couldn’t count on him, not even for the smallest things. He somehow always thought of me last.

Ele deixou-me a pensar: Foi tudo em vão? Porque é que é tão difícil fazer algum esforço? Será que ele se importa?

I was unhappy but still terrified to leave him. However, I knew if I stayed, I’d be even unhappier and I feared he might suck me into his toxicidade.

He didn’t want to change and despite my efforts to keep our love alive – so I did it. I finally left him.

Mesmo assim, senti que tinha feito algo de errado.

It wasn’t until I learned that no one can change a person who doesn’t want to change.

Life’s harsh for everyone. We all need to fight. I needed to fight for myself too and I knew I couldn’t do it by his side.

I finally learned that if love can’t make him change, nothing can.

I also learned we shouldn’t allow anyone – no matter how much we love them – to change who we are and dim our light because of their weaknesses they’re not willing to face.

Don’t lose yourself saving a man who doesn’t see you for who you are. Don’t lose yourself for anyone.

Don’t let anyone take your light away from you. Know you did nothing wrong, you just gave yourself a chance.

Deixá-lo é tomar conta de si própria. Mudar o foco para si mesma. Sê o teu próprio salvador, porque, neste caso, foste colocado nesta terra para cuidar de ti próprio.

Learn from the example of others: Don’t let your weakness consume you. Always keep fighting.

We’re all a little broken, we’ve all been through something terrifying, and we’ve all survived. Don’t underestimate yourself and what you’re capable of.

Don’t be afraid to change your life and set new rules. Pick those rules carefully and always keep in mind that all of this means saving yourself.

Escolhe seguir em frente, escolhe salvar-te.