Non è vostra responsabilità salvarlo se non vuole cambiare

Ho smesso di dare seconde possibilità.

Avevo smesso di sperare che qualcosa cambiasse, quando nel profondo sapevo che era finita la prima volta che mi ha guardato negli occhi e mi ha mentito. Quella è stata l'ultima goccia.

Volevo vederlo crescere e diventare l'uomo che ha sempre cercato di essere, l'uomo che anch'io vedevo in lui. Ma si è arreso. He let himself lose himself and I forgot that I wasn’t his savior.

I wasn’t put on this earth to save him from himself. I wasn’t his rehab center.

Ha smesso di lottare per la nostra relazione ed è diventato distruttivo ed egocentrico.

Mi ci è voluto un po' per ammettere finalmente a me stessa che dovevo lasciarlo. Il mio cuore si è rifiutato di crederci per troppo tempo.

I had to explain to myself that all of it had nothing to do with me. I wasn’t the problem, I was just trying to fix it. But some people just don’t want to be fixed.

They would rather look away and pretend it doesn’t exist. They would rather run all their life, constantly out of breath, than face the problem.

Of course, there are people worth saving, people who need just a little nod, but not everyone can be saved and that’s the sad truth.

If they don’t want to be saved, they can’t be convinced into saving themselves.

All the worry and care in this world can’t help.

I tried to help him for so long I forgot that’s not what a relationship should look like. We weren’t equal. He demanded my love and care – and I gave it to him.

Pensava che potessi salvarlo prima di cercare di salvare se stesso.

I was there for him when nobody else was. I cared about the person he is and all the good things in him, even when they didn’t shine through.

Ho sempre messo lui davanti a tutti gli altri, ricevendo in cambio solo delusioni.

I couldn’t count on him, not even for the smallest things. He somehow always thought of me last.

Mi ha lasciato pensare: È stato tutto inutile? Perché è così difficile impegnarsi? Gli interessa almeno?

I was unhappy but still terrified to leave him. However, I knew if I stayed, I’d be even unhappier and I feared he might suck me into his tossicità.

He didn’t want to change and despite my efforts to keep our love alive – so I did it. I finally left him.

Tuttavia, mi sentivo come se avessi fatto qualcosa di sbagliato.

It wasn’t until I learned that no one can change a person who doesn’t want to change.

Life’s harsh for everyone. We all need to fight. I needed to fight for myself too and I knew I couldn’t do it by his side.

I finally learned that if love can’t make him change, nothing can.

I also learned we shouldn’t allow anyone – no matter how much we love them – to change who we are and dim our light because of their weaknesses they’re not willing to face.

Don’t lose yourself saving a man who doesn’t see you for who you are. Don’t lose yourself for anyone.

Don’t let anyone take your light away from you. Know you did nothing wrong, you just gave yourself a chance.

Lasciarlo significa prendersi cura di sé. Spostate l'attenzione su di voi. Siate il vostro salvatore, perché in questo caso siete stati messi su questa terra per prendervi cura di voi stessi.

Learn from the example of others: Don’t let your weakness consume you. Always keep fighting.

We’re all a little broken, we’ve all been through something terrifying, and we’ve all survived. Don’t underestimate yourself and what you’re capable of.

Don’t be afraid to change your life and set new rules. Pick those rules carefully and always keep in mind that all of this means saving yourself.

Scegliete di andare avanti, scegliete di salvarvi.