No es tu responsabilidad salvarle si no quiere cambiar

Me cansé de dar segundas oportunidades.

Había terminado de esperar que algo cambiara cuando en el fondo supe que se había acabado la primera vez que me miró a los ojos y me mintió. Esa fue la gota que colmó el vaso.

Quería verle convertirse en el hombre que siempre se esforzó por ser, el hombre que yo también veía en él. Pero se rindió. He let himself lose himself and I forgot that I wasn’t his savior.

I wasn’t put on this earth to save him from himself. I wasn’t his rehab center.

Dejó de luchar por nuestra relación y se volvió destructivo y egocéntrico.

Tardé un tiempo en admitir por fin que tenía que dejarle. Mi corazón se negó a creerlo durante demasiado tiempo.

I had to explain to myself that all of it had nothing to do with me. I wasn’t the problem, I was just trying to fix it. But some people just don’t want to be fixed.

They would rather look away and pretend it doesn’t exist. They would rather run all their life, constantly out of breath, than face the problem.

Of course, there are people worth saving, people who need just a little nod, but not everyone can be saved and that’s the sad truth.

If they don’t want to be saved, they can’t be convinced into saving themselves.

All the worry and care in this world can’t help.

I tried to help him for so long I forgot that’s not what a relationship should look like. We weren’t equal. He demanded my love and care – and I gave it to him.

Pensó que yo podría salvarle antes de que él intentara salvarse a sí mismo.

I was there for him when nobody else was. I cared about the person he is and all the good things in him, even when they didn’t shine through.

Siempre lo antepuse a los demás y sólo recibí decepciones a cambio.

I couldn’t count on him, not even for the smallest things. He somehow always thought of me last.

Me dejó pensando: ¿Ha sido todo para nada? ¿Por qué es tan difícil esforzarse? ¿Acaso le importa?

I was unhappy but still terrified to leave him. However, I knew if I stayed, I’d be even unhappier and I feared he might suck me into his toxicidad.

He didn’t want to change and despite my efforts to keep our love alive – so I did it. I finally left him.

Aun así, sentí que había hecho algo mal.

It wasn’t until I learned that no one can change a person who doesn’t want to change.

Life’s harsh for everyone. We all need to fight. I needed to fight for myself too and I knew I couldn’t do it by his side.

I finally learned that if love can’t make him change, nothing can.

I also learned we shouldn’t allow anyone – no matter how much we love them – to change who we are and dim our light because of their weaknesses they’re not willing to face.

Don’t lose yourself saving a man who doesn’t see you for who you are. Don’t lose yourself for anyone.

Don’t let anyone take your light away from you. Know you did nothing wrong, you just gave yourself a chance.

Dejarlo es cuidar de ti misma. Cambia el enfoque hacia ti mismo. Sé tu propio salvador, porque en este caso, has sido puesto en esta tierra para cuidar de ti mismo.

Learn from the example of others: Don’t let your weakness consume you. Always keep fighting.

We’re all a little broken, we’ve all been through something terrifying, and we’ve all survived. Don’t underestimate yourself and what you’re capable of.

Don’t be afraid to change your life and set new rules. Pick those rules carefully and always keep in mind that all of this means saving yourself.

Elige avanzar, elige salvarte.