Não deixes que ele conte os teus defeitos enquanto não reparas nos dele
As mulheres apaixonadas são outra coisa. Ficamos tão apaixonados e cegos que a realidade objetiva deixa de fazer sentido.
Unfortunately, part of that is not seeing the person we’re in love with as they truly are. We’re quick to forgive or even ignore things that are not to be ignored.
No matter how much we like or love someone, we shouldn’t let them mistreat us.
Tudo começa com simples sugestões e comentários, depois torna-se mais frequente e transforma-se num pesadelo.
There are many ways of subtle abuse; for example, constant criticizing and spotting other people’s faults without ever seeing ours.
What’s even worse, sometimes you start to believe what’s being said and start to question yourself about every little thing you do.
You start overthinking what you’re going to say and do. Your life slowly turns into trying não fazer a coisa errada even if you’re not even doing so.
If we’re being heavily criticized on a regular basis, especially for things that don’t matter, it’s going to mess with our self-esteem.
A person who loves us shouldn’t count our flaws. Instead, they should help us overcome them and that can be done tactfully.
There are so many gentle ways to tell a person what’s bothering you and criticism is not one of them. It’s probably the least effective way to change a person’s behavior.
Para não falar do facto de ser problemático ter uma pessoa sempre insatisfeita enquanto a outra se mantém em silêncio.
You shouldn’t be afraid to call someone out on their bad behavior. In fact, you have to do that or the relationship otherwise doesn’t make sense.
If partners don’t call out each other on their bad behavior, no progress can’t be made. The problem is when it’s one-sided and one person spots only the flaws of the other and forgets theirs.
Uma relação precisa de paciência, compreensão, amor, apreço e apoio.
All those things need two people for it to work out. If you don’t have those things, you should reconsider your choices. I’m not saying you have to break up with someone but something has to change.
The first step is to react when you’re being criticized. Stop and ask the right questions.
We’re human and we make mistakes but we also have reason and emotions that let us improve existing situations.
Almost everything in life can be solved with good conversation and having empathy and an open mind—at least for your partner.
Se nada mais funcionar e se sentir constantemente posto de lado e desvalorizado, abandone a relação.
You’re not here to be liked by other people. You’re enough as you are and if someone can’t see it, you can’t make them.
It’s important to be aware of your own value, of your self-worth. Knowing your self-worth is vital for your happiness. Happiness is the ultimate goal of life.
Quando conhecemos o nosso valor próprio, nunca nos apaixonamos ao ponto de o esquecermos por causa de um homem.
A relationship is a big part of any life but it makes sense only if we’re happy in it.
O que é que significa ser feliz?
Significa ter uma pessoa com quem se pode contar sempre, alguém que nos levanta e nos ajuda a sermos melhores.
Significa ser realista em relação a si próprio, ao seu parceiro e à vida e ser otimista e solidário.
Constant criticism is how we lose faith in ourselves and in life. It’s a vicious circle that’s hard to escape once your mind gets stuck on it.
That’s why you have to set boundaries and learn to say enough when it’s enough.
Não só isso, mas também tens de te curar de qualquer abuso verbal.
Don’t let the other person get away with their wrongdoings because you are too insecure with yourself and don’t feel like you should speak up.
Deves sempre falar quando alguém te trata menos do que mereces. Deves saber sempre que o abuso verbal nunca é aceitável.
Don’t let him count your flaws while you’re overlooking his because otherwise, you’re disrespecting yourself.
Don’t let him convince you that you’re something you’re not.
You’re a person capable of great things if only you let yourself be.
