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Le donne innamorate sono un'altra cosa. Siamo così infatuati e ciechi che la realtà oggettiva smette di avere senso.

Unfortunately, part of that is not seeing the person we’re in love with as they truly are. We’re quick to forgive or even ignore things that are not to be ignored.

No matter how much we like or love someone, we shouldn’t let them mistreat us.

Tutto inizia con semplici suggerimenti e osservazioni, poi diventa più frequente e infine si trasforma in un incubo.

There are many ways of subtle abuse; for example, constant criticizing and spotting other people’s faults without ever seeing ours.

What’s even worse, sometimes you start to believe what’s being said and start to question yourself about every little thing you do.

You start overthinking what you’re going to say and do. Your life slowly turns into trying per non fare la cosa sbagliata even if you’re not even doing so.

If we’re being heavily criticized on a regular basis, especially for things that don’t matter, it’s going to mess with our self-esteem.

A person who loves us shouldn’t count our flaws. Instead, they should help us overcome them and that can be done tactfully.

There are so many gentle ways to tell a person what’s bothering you and criticism is not one of them. It’s probably the least effective way to change a person’s behavior.

Per non parlare di quanto sia problematico avere una persona sempre insoddisfatta mentre l'altra rimane in silenzio.

You shouldn’t be afraid to call someone out on their bad behavior. In fact, you have to do that or the relationship otherwise doesn’t make sense.

If partners don’t call out each other on their bad behavior, no progress can’t be made. The problem is when it’s one-sided and one person spots only the flaws of the other and forgets theirs.

Una relazione ha bisogno di pazienza, comprensione, amore, apprezzamento e sostegno.

All those things need two people for it to work out. If you don’t have those things, you should reconsider your choices. I’m not saying you have to break up with someone but something has to change.

The first step is to react when you’re being criticized. Stop and ask the right questions.

We’re human and we make mistakes but we also have reason and emotions that let us improve existing situations.

Almost everything in life can be solved with good conversation and having empathy and an open mind—at least for your partner.

Se non funziona nient'altro e vi sentite costantemente messi da parte e sottovalutati, lasciate la relazione.

You’re not here to be liked by other people. You’re enough as you are and if someone can’t see it, you can’t make them.

It’s important to be aware of your own value, of your self-worth. Knowing your self-worth is vital for your happiness. Happiness is the ultimate goal of life.

Quando si conosce la propria autostima, non ci si può mai infatuare a tal punto da dimenticarla a causa di un uomo.

A relationship is a big part of any life but it makes sense only if we’re happy in it.

Cosa significa essere felici?

Significa avere una persona su cui poter sempre contare, qualcuno che ti solleva e ti aiuta a essere una persona migliore.

Significa essere realistici su se stessi, sul partner e sulla vita, essere ottimisti e solidali.

Constant criticism is how we lose faith in ourselves and in life. It’s a vicious circle that’s hard to escape once your mind gets stuck on it.

That’s why you have to set boundaries and learn to say enough when it’s enough.

Non solo, ma dovete anche guarire da qualsiasi abuso verbale.

Don’t let the other person get away with their wrongdoings because you are too insecure with yourself and don’t feel like you should speak up.

Dovete sempre alzare la voce quando qualcuno vi tratta meno di quanto meritate. Dovete sempre sapere che l'abuso verbale non va mai bene.

Don’t let him count your flaws while you’re overlooking his because otherwise, you’re disrespecting yourself.

Don’t let him convince you that you’re something you’re not.

You’re a person capable of great things if only you let yourself be.