Não se pode salvar um homem que não quer ser salvo

What we want for others doesn’t work unless they want it for themselves. – Bryant McGill

Infelizmente, há tantas pessoas quebradas neste mundo e tantas pessoas que precisam de ser salvas ou, pelo menos, de orientação. Há tantas pessoas que querem curar-se mas não fazem ideia de como lá chegar.

I think that we’re all a little bit broken. We’ve all been through hell at some point de as nossas vidas e caímos tão fundo que ficámos tão desesperados e deixámo-nos pensar que não havia saída.

O que interessa é que todos nós passámos por um inferno e sobrevivemos.

Talvez por causa do caminho pesado que fomos obrigados a percorrer nas nossas vidas, sentimos que temos de facilitar o caminho àqueles que amamos.

Mas a verdade é que todos nós precisamos de caminhar com as nossas próprias verdades e destinos, para podermos crescer e estarmos preparados para as coisas maiores da nossa vida.

Por vezes, quando a vida coloca as pessoas sob demasiados testes, elas optam por não lutar contra eles e deixam-se levar pela corrente.

But if you allow the things you go through in life determine what your life is going to look like, then what are you living? It’s your task to take care of yourself and make sure you’re happy.

Infelizmente, não são muitas as pessoas que estão dispostas a fazê-lo.

What’s even worse than letting life carry you like the breeze carries the fallen leaf is this idea that people plant in their minds about how they can save everyone.

Okay, yes, there are some people worth saving, there are people who need just a little bit of guidance, but not everyone can be saved and that’s the ugly truth.

Those who don’t want to be saved can’t be convinced into saving themselves.

They say that you can only love broken people and hope they’ll respond to that treatment. But sometimes even love can’t make a man heal if he doesn’t want to change.

Se ele se recusa a ver que há algo de errado com ele, quem é você para o convencer do contrário?

We’re all aware of ourselves and if he thinks that there is nothing wrong with him, if he thinks he’s okay, you’ll just lose yourself in trying to convince him that he’s wrong.

Se ele gosta de onde está, quem és tu para tentar mudar isso? Perhaps he doesn’t know better, but perhaps he doesn’t want better.

It can be the case he’s settling for less, but it can also be that he’s perfectly happy with the place where his mind is at.

If he doesn’t want to be saved, who are you to save him? There are people who are okay with their toxicity; there are people who’d rather look away than face the truth.

Há pessoas que querem continuar a fugir do que as está a magoar do que enfrentar a sua dor e assim fazê-la desaparecer.

And there isn’t a person whose loving or caring in this world who could change that.

I know you’re scared but you need to superar o medo de perder alguém who isn’t good for you.

And you need to stop giving all of you to someone who’s toxic.

Because if there is something wrong with him and he’s refusing to acknowledge it, there is a high probability you’ll get sucked into the vortex of his toxicity, too.

Independentemente do quanto amas essa pessoa, deves colocar-te em primeiro lugar. Deves sempre cuidar de ti primeiro. Porque pode não haver ninguém para te salvar quando precisares, sabes?

And you need to stop believing that story about how life has been too harsh on someone. It has been too harsh on all of us, but that’s not an excuse to just go with the flow and be an asshole towards others.

Toda a gente que conhecemos está a travar uma batalha interior. E embora fosse mais fácil rendermo-nos, fomos trazidos a este mundo como lutadores.

Assim deixar de lado a negatividade and the futile battle of trying to save a man who doesn’t want to be saved.

If your love doesn’t make him want to change, if having you next to him doesn’t changes things, if your efforts are in vain and he’s oblivious to his state, it’s not your task to save him.

You should never lose yourself in trying to save others. You should love them and if love isn’t enough, then there isn’t much more you can do.

Ernest Hemingway disse: A coisa mais dolorosa é perdermo-nos a nós próprios no processo de amar demasiado alguém e esquecermo-nos de que somos especiais.

Don’t allow anyone, regardless of how much you love them, break you or change who you are.

Don’t let other people’s pain make your spark shine a little less. Don’t lose yourself in the process of trying to save a man who doesn’t want to be saved. Save yourself.

You cannot make someone understand a message they aren’t ready to receive. – May this be the lesson you’ll remember for the rest of your life.