Não voltes ao teu antigo amor - já sabes como acaba

Tens saudades dele. Eu sei que sim.

Tens saudades do seu sorriso bonito, de rapaz, e da forma como ele sorria adoravelmente de orelha a orelha quando tentavas ficar zangada com ele por te ter irritado com algo que agora parece tão ridículo.

Tens saudades daqueles pequenos e preciosos momentos com ele, depois de um longo dia, e de ele te fazer brilhar no momento em que entravas em casa. Tens saudades de como só a ideia de o ver à tua espera no sofá te fazia tão feliz.

It’s all those small things that you may have taken for granted at the time, but that now make you feel so empty and hollow. You feel like there is a genuine part missing from yourself, and you don’t know how to fill that void that is churning in your chest.

E you’re sick and tired of feeling this way. Só precisas de parar.

Let me tell you something. The thing you miss the most is not HIM. It’s how you felt when you knew you had him around. But remember this. You broke up for a reason. A good reason. You just need to remind yourself of all the ways he made you feel insufficient and inadequate and stop idealizing him in your head. If it were REALLY that good, don’t you think you would still be together?

Tentaste o teu melhor. Fizeste tudo o que podias para salvar a tua relação e, no fim de contas, não conseguiste, your best just wasn’t enough mais.

Don’t beat yourself up now that the story has come to an end. There is nothing left to be written. Let it go; give yourself a chance to heal.

Quando damos por nós a querer enviar-lhe uma mensagem, please don’t. When you feel yourself wanting to talk to him, call your bestie instead! But whatever you do, don’t give him so much space in your head and your heart.

O seu lugar já não é ali.

Este sentimento atual de fragilidade não vai durar para sempre. É apenas o que está a sentir neste momento. É perfeitamente compreensível, mas precisa de saber que isso vai passar. Acabou de perder uma coisa que era parte integrante da sua vida e precisa de dar tempo a si próprio para aprender a viver sem ela.

It is insane to think that going back to him would change anything. Don’t be tempted. He is still the same person that made you feel so shitty at times. He’s still the same person who couldn’t find the time for you when you needed him the most! And he is still the person who didn’t FIGHT for you when your relationship was going to hell. It was all you and your effort.

Aren’t you tired of always being the only one giving it your all?

It is normal to miss him sometimes. After all, you spent a significant amount of life together. You were so used to having him by your side that now you just don’t know how to function any other way.

But don’t live in the past. It’s there for a reason. For as long as you keep clinging onto that tiny glimmer of hope that things MIGHT get better someday and that he might change, you will be doing yourself a huge disservice by not allowing yourself to live your life in the present, e reviver continuamente momentos do passado, momentos que na realidade são apenas destaques de uma relação que já não fazia sentido.

Querida, mereces muito mais do que ele alguma vez te poderá oferecer! Mereces viver a tua vida AGORA e encontrar a tua felicidade no teu presente.

He doesn’t deserve to have you still hung up on him when there are so many guys out there that could be your ONE.

Don’t let memories of your past diminish the light that you deserve in your present.

O futuro pode ser tão brilhante. Só precisas de o deixar brilhar novamente.

Ele é o vosso passado. Deixa-o aí!